What does it mean to have Self-Compassion, why is it important? How can we practice self-compassion and what is the impact of this on how we interact and engage with family, friends and colleagues? We look at the research from the most prolific self-compassion author Dr Kristin Neff and her look at Fierce and Tender Self-Compassion and the role of each for helping us to extend compassion and understanding towards oneself in times of suffering or perceived failure, rather than harsh self-criticism or judgment. Why are some people self-critical or prone to self-pity, and how can we help them to move towards having more constructive, kind, yet challenging self-talk? The Chief Psychology Officer episodes are available here https://www.thecpo.co.uk/ To follow Zircon on LinkedIn and to be first to hear about podcasts, publications and news, please like and follow us: https://www.linkedin.com/company/zircon-consulting-ltd/ To access the research white papers mentioned in this and other podcasts, please go to: https://zircon-mc.co.uk/zircon-white-papers.php For more information about the BeTalent suite of tools and platform as mentioned in this podcast please contact Amanda via email: [email protected]. Timestamps Self-Compassion ·       00:00 – Introduction to Self-Compassion ·       01:06 – I’m no good at this; you all must suffer! ·       02:18 – Defining Self-Compassion ·       03:21 – We can’t shout at children anymore? ·       04:20 – Talking to ourselves ·       04:49 – I’m my own best friend… except on LinkedIn My, Myself and the Confidence Machine ·       06:07 – The way we were… ·       07:01 – Use your words (just the right ones) ·       08:10 – Conversations with Children ·       09:03 – Pessimism: a Great British trait ·       11:12 – Learn to appreciate yourself ·       11:54 – Self-pity ·       12:22 – A weighty issue ·       15:21 – The gym revolution The lessons from the past ·       16:28 – Fierce Compassion v. Tenderness ·       16:56 – Is it a man or a woman thing? ·       19:03 – 3 aspects of Self-Compassion ·       20:27 – Seeing what is inside ourselves… ·       22:08 – All it takes is one little change ·       23:19 – Tell me about your childhood ·       24:12 – I am strong you Dirty Mother Pucker! ·       26:30 – Success through osmosis The Old Curiosity Shop ·       28:34 – A botched dinner, or a learning experience? ·       30:31 – Healthy Habits revisited ·       31:45 – 4 steps to turn things around ·       33:39 – Our triggers ·       34:51 – Gilberts model ·       36:14 – Where can I find out more? ·       36:34 – The end.