YO! I don't know who needs to hear this but YOU DO NOT have to spend the holidays with your family IF it doesn't serve or support you. No IS a full sentence. You matter most. Your wellbeing is most important. Yes you will feel sad, mourning, guilt and all that. Yes that is expected and: Yes it means you can still choose YOURSELF and NOT GO or NOT INVITE them. I WISH someone said this to me, so if thats you - I hope it serves you . 🎄 x