Today marks my 200th episode of The Confident Single Woman podcast. Today will be my final day. This transition away from my business and the podcast is extremely bittersweet. I know that God led me in this direction of coaching and podcasting, and I do believe he is leading me out of it at this time. I did not make this decision lightly, but I do feel confident it’s the right decision for me right now. I don’t know if I’ll come back to coaching or podcast, or if I’ll come back to working...

Today, I have a fun episode for you! I compare all the themes from the stories of the women who were on the podcast these last few weeks. As I listened to their stories and the specific things they pulled out to share, I came across 7 different topics that I kept hearing over and over again! I have quite a bit to say about these different themes: 1. Strayed from their TYPE 2. Dated Online 3. Dealt with Long Distance 4. Went through their specific healing journey 5. Knew who they were...

Today, Melanie covers a lot from singleness, to long distance dating to being married for 2.5 years. She shares how she learned to be vulnerable, how to date long distance, how to have a quick dating and engagement season, and how she overcame her big roadblock just existing and waiting for a man to sweep her off her feet. She also talks about how marriage has met her expectations, or exceeded them in some areas, as well as the challenges of marriage. Melanie offers so much insight. You’ll...

Join me today as Erica and I discuss her struggles, breakthroughs, and what real married life is like! When Erica was single, she was used to dealing with loneliness by being in a relationship, even if that meant the relationship was unhealthy. She shares that her journey to healing came about through coaching, therapy, godly mentorship, and finally, through a renewed relationship with Jesus Christ. As she rededicated her life to Christ, she began to change from the inside out. As a result,...

Katie shares about the lessons she’s learned, the transformation that has taken place, and the miracles she’s received. Today, Katie share about why she feels it’s a miracle that she is getting married. What seemed so far out of reach for her, and truly unachievable, is now happening. She explains that it’s not just that she overcame her barriers slowing her down toward married, but why it’s a genuine miracle that she is getting married. She went through a lot of healing, a lot of dating, a...

I love Marissa’s transparency on today’s episode. She’s raw, real, and helpful to the single women listening! In her 40’s she found love and overcame big barriers keeping her from marriage. Her analytical side helped her in her singleness, however, it also hindered her in her journey toward love. Through self-awareness and healing, she was able to open her heart to love and married the quality man that was pursuing her. Tune in today to learn more about the specifics of Marissas barriers...

Today, Elise shares her story of how she was “hyper focused” on looks and the outward appearance in her previous relationships. When she decided to surrender the process of finding a husband to God and submit to His leading, she began to prioritize substance in a man. During this time, she began working with me. She had already done a lot of inner work, and within just a few short months she met her husband, Nick! She was in the right mental and spiritual state to recognize him as the...

Join me and I talk with Leah Climer about the breakthroughs required in order for her to be ready for her husband, Lance. Leah worked with me a few years ago, but was still dealing with self-worth issues. It took some time and therapy before she began to see victory in the inner healing process. But when she did, her husband came into her life. That’s when she began working with me again! It was in that journey that she worked through challenges, enjoyed the mutual love and commitment that...

In my conversation with AdriAnna, we talk about her life as a single woman, dating woman, and now, newly married woman. You know how people say, “Hindsight is 20/20?” Well, AdriAnna shares incredible insight into her own life as a single-and-searching woman. She knew that she wanted to get married, but at the time she was more concerned with not singled out due to her singleness, especially since practically all the other girls were dating/engaged/married. She grew more and more self-aware...

If you’re in the dating game, you’ve probably dealt with a lack of confidence at some point! Even if you’re a great dater, it still can be nerve-wracking showing up to a date and trying to be your best self. On today’s episode, I go over 4 different suggestions on how to strengthen your confidence while dating. First, you want to know your standards. You can find my Guide on how to do that here: https://www.StarrBurroughs.com/Standards. Second, you need to know what areas to compromise in...

Today, I have a fun, EXTRA episode for you! I’m sharing one of Kait Warman’s episodes, “Types and Attractions with Kait and JJ,” from The Heart of Dating podcast! They share their story about how JJ wasn’t Kait’s “type” at first, even though she thought he was good looking. They also answer the questions: “How should we treat having a “type?” and “How important is attraction?” Kait and JJ will cover the 5 types of attraction as well! You’ll definitely want to tune in! Please grab Kait’s...

In my years of listening to and coaching single Christian women, I’ve learned there are 4 prominent areas that some women fall into that make it very difficult, if not impossible, to get married. These 4 areas are extremely challenging to overcome. It takes deep self-awareness and a gritty determination to break through these roadblocks to love; each area can carry many layers of pain. The top 4 reasons that some women will always remain single are: 1. Severe introvertedness and/or social...

“I’m just not attracted to Christian men!” Ouch. I’ve heard this from many Christian women who want to get married to a CHRISTIAN MAN! This is a dangerous place to live because it’s massive self-sabotage. In today’s episode I cover quite a few thoughts about why you may fee this way. I also ask many questions for you to ask yourself so that you can find out exactly what it is that you’re not attracted to. If you want to get married and you’re struggling with being attracted to the right...

Have you ever told yourself, “Well, not everyone gets married!”? People will say that to remind themselves that they aren’t alone in their singleness. They say it to make themselves feel better and to remain logical, rather than emotional in their desire for marriage. I’m sure there’s many other reasons, but these are the top ones that come to mind. However, when people say this is triggers an unbelief and doubt that rears it’s ugly head. It would be considered human reasoning. Unbelief,...

The Truth About Marriage … and 6 Myths About Marriage You’re Probably Believing   Today I’m talking all about the realities of marriage. I want to break down 6 different myths that you may be believing about marriage and share the truths.   Myth #1: We do everything together   Myth #2: He Will Never Change   Myth #3: Marriage will Fix you, Heal you, be Magical, keep you from being lonely   Myth #4: Marriage will meet all your expectations   Myth #5: Strong, Healthy Marriages...

The journey of the Perfectionist to the altar can be a long one. Today, I’m talking about the standards a perfectionist has for how she should be treated. There are a few mindsets that are hindering women when they date, meet men, and even after they’re already in a relationship. These mindsets start out as innocent, but if we aren’t careful they become very self-centered. If you’re a perfectionist and are wondering if some of your thought patterns or beliefs are actually hindering you,...

The journey of the Perfectionist to the altar can be a long one. Today, I’m talking about the standards a perfectionist has for a man and how it can slow down her progress toward marriage. I truly believe perfectionism is a blind spot many Christians have. Single Christians always want to pursue godly qualities in their search for an amazing Christian man, but what if you’re actually being a perfectionist with perfectionistic expectations in your search for the “perfect” husband? Tune in...

Have you ever run into the same type of guy over and over?   And then over and over again?   And again?   When this happens, you begin to believe that “all men” are ________ (fill in the blank). But that’s simply not true because you haven’t met “all men,” have you? ;-)   As this pattern continues, even Christian women begin thinking … “All guys want is sex!” “How do I stop attracting the wrong men?” “What am I doing wrong?”   If you’re a successful woman, you may find it difficult...

Are you the one hindering your progress toward marriage or is it other factors that are slowing you down? Do you find yourself wondering, “Is it my fault I’m single?” or “Why am I not married yet?” As women, we tend to blame ourselves and constantly think about what to fix. However, it’s important to accurately diagnose what’s hindering your progress toward marriage. Sometimes it is you. Sometimes it’s not. But how do you know if it is or isn’t? Today, I’m asking questions to help you...

We all understand how important timing is, but do we understand how important being in the right place is? What I’ve learned to do as a love coach to single christians is to learn more about their surroundings. Is their church a dry and dead atmosphere for potential christ-centered, romantic relationships? Is it never going to happen in their workplace regarding love and marriage? Do they have anyone setting them up or believing for marriage for them? Do they fit into their...

The 4 things I want single Christian women to know: 1) Sometimes it’s you, sometimes it’s not. Know which side of the track you’re on. 2) How to culture of dissatisfaction is affecting singles! 3)Discover if you’re in the right place. 4) Stop blaming God for your singleness. If you’ve ever asked, “Why am I still single?” or “What am I doing wrong?” then you’ll want to tune in! Sometimes there are things we can change, sometimes there are not. This episode digs deeper into the...

Let’s talk about emotionally unavailable men … What does that mean? How can you tell if a man is emotionally unavailable? What should you do if you realize the guy you’re talking to is emotionally unavailable? In this episode, I answer all these questions! You’ll find out that you’ve been on dates with, or dated, emotionally unavailable men. It’s not as hard as you think to detect them, it’s more difficult to cut them off and move on. If you’re a woman who is ready for marriage and looking...

Have you ever wondered where the line is between being too passive or too aggressive as a single woman? It can be hard to know what “waiting” looks like, what “putting yourself out there” looks like,” what “dropping the hanky” looks like, and what pursuing a man looks like. Not to mention what the right approach is for your specific situation. It doesn’t have to be this confusing! In this episode, I discuss why you should look for a man (husband), HOW to do this, and what it looks like...

If you’re the type of woman who needs more than just butterflies and love to get married, then this episode is for you! Some women make the decision to commit when there is mutual love and magnetic attraction, other women are more hesitant to commit and take a longer time making the decision. Those women need more than just love. In this episode, I discuss 3 important things to look for in addition to love. I also cover 3 things NOT to prioritize when you’re looking for more than just love....