You have the profoundly human freedom of personal responsibility, response ability, your ability to respond. It’s not what life throws at us but how we then react that carves our lives in our character and the life we build from that.
Overuse of terms like 'gratitude' and 'mindfulness' can block the profoundly personal practice of feeling deep appreciation of all that you already are. Doing rather than judging is the important distinction here....look past cliche and try!