Are you one of those people that has watched yourself sabotage something that you know you want, and yet something in you is blocking it or even actively pushing it away? Why is it that when you finally receive the love, the nourishment, the care, the fulfilment, the success, the money, the attention, the connection that you want, having it is so threatening that before you know it, you're finding whatever way you can find to get rid of it? It doesn't make any logical sense to reject a beautiful opportunity, but you still say no. And you're watching yourself and you know what you're doing, but you can't stop it.  Why is sabotage so common in human beings, and why is it a cause of so much of our pain and suffering? And what could possibly be a solution to that? This is what we’re going to dive into in this episode.  What is Covered:  -How we normalise the pattern of sabotage in our lives -Why sabotage is a blind spot and why we can’t stop it -Survival vs. living and why we remain stuck in survival -Looking at the pain and shame of sabotage from an ontological perspective -What’s the alternative to sabotage -Are you living to win or are you living to not lose? Resources:  -Access our ’21 days of Expansion’ Audio Activation Process gift: https://nickyclinch.lpages.co/podcast-gift-21-days/ -Episode 041 Appearing Reality: How Blindspots Blind Us https://player.captivate.fm/episode/442d620c-3bfc-4a4c-81ab-cfd500eb8976  -Visit my website: https://nickyclinch.com/  -Find me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicky_clinch/  -Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/nickyclinchmaturation  -Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://uk.linkedin.com/company/nicky-clinch-surrender