In a marriage, you each are your own individual person, and then there is the whole unit that is you both. You both have different needs at different times, and sometimes at the same time. Adam mentions that he is terrible at being really tired and not wanting to take naps, but then not wanting Rosie to take naps because the idea of having the 5 kids is overwhelming, so neither of their needs are met. We have to consider how many times either of us has something different going on and have different needs all at the same time. One example Adam gives is when Rosie has been with the kids all day and she wants connection, but all Adam wants is some peace and quiet, and then those needs just collide. A funny situation happened 1:00The clash of needs 4:00The man flu 9:00Tips to overcome this potential conflict zone 13:30Instagram and talking 16:50Charitably selfish 19:00 “It’s easy when both people want the same thing, like ‘Rosie, we need a date night, we just need to go and talk with our children.’ Mutual needs going in the same direction. Where it’s hard is like, I just had an intense day. I don’t want to talk to anyone. Rosie just had an intense day, she wants to talk to me, forever. That’s where the conflict comes in.” 13:44 https://www.facebook.com/theirishmummy/ https://www.instagram.com/the_irish_mummy/ Pick up a copy of Journal to Joy. My NEW 90 Day Goals, Gratitude & Affirmation Journal to Create a Happy & Abundant Life. https://www.theirishmummy.com/ Subscribe to Letters to My Sisters Newsletter. You will hear EVERYTHING here first. https://www.theirishmummy.com/