When something doesn't go our way, it's easy to get stuck in victim mode, dwelling on the negativity and arguing with reality. But what if there was a better approach? Today, we explore how to shift into problem-solving mode by focusing on what's within your control and taking intentional action.   Tune in this week to for a step-by-step process for gaining perspective, replacing unhelpful thoughts, and making a game plan to productively move forward when life throws you a curveball. I show...

While there is pleasure to be gained in instant gratification, there’s also displeasure in it. It’s not all upside. When you pay close attention, you’ll see that choosing temporary pleasure often leads to more negative emotions in the moment and afterwards. However, when you go through the short-term discomfort of making responsible choices, you set yourself up for success.   Join me this week as I dive into the displeasure of instant gratification and how focusing on the negative aspects...

Do you ever feel paralyzed by the pressure to make the right decision? In this episode, we explore why there's actually no such thing as a universally correct choice, and how you can make your decisions right for you, instead of looking for reasons why you don't like your choices.     Tune in this week to discover how to make your decisions right for you. By focusing your mind on the reasons you decided the way you did, rather than second-guessing yourself, you can prevent regret, build...

As lawyers, our time is our most valuable asset. But too often, we let tasks drag on longer than necessary, eating up precious minutes and hours that could be spent on more important work or enjoying our personal lives. By learning how to maximize our efficiency, we can take back control of our schedules and achieve better results.     In this episode, you'll learn practical strategies for streamlining your work processes, eliminating distractions, and making the most of every minute....

Do you feel like you're working around the clock just to keep up with client demands and stay on top of your workload? Want to know the secret to finally working less without sacrificing your productivity or client service? This episode has all the answers.     Join me as I walk you through the exact strategy I teach my clients to reduce their hours, reclaim their free time, and still excel in their legal careers. It may feel counterintuitive at first, but I promise this approach is a...

One of the biggest things lawyers struggle with is being unrealistic with their schedules. You might think it makes sense to cram as much as possible into every day, but planning inaccurately and unrealistically is actually leading to procrastination. So, it's time to stop lying to yourself about what you can really get done.     Tune in this week to discover the problem with being unrealistic when it comes to scheduling, and how to fix it. I discuss the massive impact that having an...

How do you feel when others try to please you excessively? While being a people-pleaser can be uncomfortable, dealing with someone else's people-pleasing behavior often leads to frustration. How can recognizing and understanding the people-pleasing tendencies in others help you manage your own?     Tune in this week for a fresh perspective on people-pleasing, viewed through the lens of being on the receiving end. You know how uncomfortable it can be to be people-pleased, so let's unpack...

If you identify as a perfectionist, chances are you’re falling victim to all-or-nothing thinking often. Perfectionists tend to look at the world in extremes and see things as binary, black or white, this or that with no room for the grey, and this rigidity brings with it a lot of unnecessary emotional suffering.     Join me on this episode to learn examples of how all-or-nothing thinking may be showing up in your life and what happens when you habitually indulge in it. I’m showing you how...

Are you being specific enough when it comes to the results you want to create? Do you feel directionless or confused when it comes to the action you should be taking? How is failing to define clear results preventing you from achieving your full potential, and what can you do about it?   Tune in this week as I invite you to audit your life and the goals you’re working towards. I’m showing you the importance of defining clear results, what happens when you fail to do so, how you might be...

Many people wrongly believe that perfectionism looks like that Type-A tendency to always be on top of things with all your ducks in a row, never a hair out of place. Maybe you resonate with this kind of perfectionism. However, I can guarantee that this isn’t the only way perfectionistic tendencies are making an appearance in your life.     Listen in this week as I lay out 20 different ways perfectionistic tendencies might be showing up for you and why they cause you so much unnecessary...

Where are you experiencing unnecessary drama in your life? Do you know how you might be creating an emotional rollercoaster for yourself through your behaviors? How is drama addiction showing up in your storytelling?      Join me on this episode to hear how drama addiction manifests and examples of how you might be unwittingly engaging in it. I’m showing you why telling unnecessarily dramatic stories is a problem, how to identify if you’re stuck in a dramatic narrative that isn’t serving...

Are you stuck in a rut at work? Do you feel drained, uninspired, or burnt out? Maybe you’ve toyed with the idea of taking time off, knowing it will recharge your batteries, but get hung up on the what ifs.      Join me this week as I break down the negative thoughts you might be experiencing about taking time off and show you how to change the way you’re currently thinking about giving yourself a break. You’ll also learn why it’s worth questioning your judgments of other people taking time...

Mixed models are models where you’ve jumbled up positive and negative components together. This is where you might have a negative thought and feeling but a positive action and result (or vice versa), and while you might have multiple models running at one time, they should never be combined, and I’m showing you why.     Listen in this week to learn why mixed models are a problem and the power of separating your models. I’m showing you how operating from mixed models keep you stuck in...

Want to know how to get unstuck? Whatever you're stuck with, whether it's your time, money, making an investment, or anything else, I've got you covered in today's episode because I recently recorded a masterclass on exactly how to get unstuck.   Discover 10 obstacles that are stopping you from making progress on your goals, and the 10 specific solutions to help you get unstuck. Wherever you're stuck, whether it's in your career, your business, or in your relationships, I'm giving you...

In honor of the 100th episode of The Less Stressed Lawyer podcast, I’m walking you through my backstory of why I decided to make the shift from attorney to coach, the impact coaching has had on my life, and something exciting that I’ve had in the works since 2017.   Join me this week as we celebrate the huge milestone of reaching 100 podcast episodes! You’ll learn how I always knew I wanted to be a criminal defense attorney, why I struggled to perform in Big Law, how my life is...

There are many reasons we suffer emotionally, but one of the most common sources of emotional suffering comes from the expectations that we have. So, what is the easiest and most effective way of reducing our suffering? We change our expectations.   Tune in this week to discover how changing your expectations will help you feel better in your life. You’ll learn how great expectations are disrupting your happiness, and I share how to reduce your emotional suffering by better aligning your...

Mirror judgments have come up on the podcast before, but I’m diving deeper in today’s episode. A mirror judgment is a judgment that you have about another person that you also have of yourself. So, you judge a person for something and then subconsciously, you’re judging yourself for it at the same time.    Tune in this week as I break down what a mirror judgment is, teach why it’s important to identify them, and show you what to do with your mirror judgments. You’ll learn how to spot mirror...

Something I’ve noticed about humans is that, oftentimes, they aren’t willing to help themselves first. It’s great that we live in a world where you can ask for help when you’re having a problem, but have you ever stopped to consider whether you’re helping yourself first?   Tune in this week to start committing to helping yourself first. You have to be the person most willing to solve your problems, and you’ll learn today why other people don’t have the long-term solution to your problems,...

Committing to the finish makes a massive difference in how you approach your goals and pursue the life you want to live. I watch too many people make lavish plans and deeply commit to getting started on them, feeling excited and motivated to take consistent action, until things don’t go exactly as they’d expected.   Tune in this week to discover how to start committing to the finish. I discuss the problem with telling yourself you’re ‘trying’, share why you’re struggling to fully commit...

When you’re making a decision, you’re confronted with the options available to you. You make a choice, and as time unfolds, you see the consequences of your decisions. However, what I often see people doing is picking apart their decisions before they make them, looking for all the potential issues that could arise from their choice. In doing this, they create an alternate reality where the option that they didn’t choose would have led to better outcomes. This is the Sliding Doors Fallacy at...

Of all the lies I notice my clients telling themselves, one stands out to me. They look at other people and think that whatever they’re dealing with, they’re uniquely situated, and it’s easier for them. This came up recently when I was coaching on time management and my client said, “Isn’t it just easy for some people?”   Tune in this week to discover the problem with thinking, “It’s easier for them…” and how to see why this isn’t actually true. I’m showing you the real difference between...

When you’re in a situation you don’t like, it’s normal to look for the faults and focus on all the negativity. But you have two other options available here: get out of it, or get into it. Getting into it may take more effort than just going with the flow, but it truly changes everything and allows you to create a life you truly love.   If you’re in a romantic relationship that doesn’t feel like it’s working right now, you’re in a challenging friendship, or you are having difficulty at work...

The idea of being deserving is a topic that comes up often in my coaching calls. From what I’ve observed, using the thought framework of whether or not we’re deserving of what we want is completely unhelpful and overcomplicated, so I’m offering you a new way to approach whatever it is you desire most.   Join me on this episode to hear the two different ways most people struggle with the idea of being deserving, and how to start auditing your relationship with deserving energy. I’m sharing...

The thoughts we think really do matter, and they have the power to transform our experience of anything in our lives. Whatever you’re going through right now, you have the ability to think to yourself, “This is happening for me…” and when you do, you can approach your problems with a whole new perspective.   Discover how this one thought can totally transform your experience of what you perceive to be a negative situation. I’m showing you how to spot where you need to think more thoughts...