When you have committed infidelity of any kind, you should tell your spouse and not keep it a secret, hoping that they do not find out. When telling your spouse about your infidelity, the way that you approach it is really important because you want to avoid doing things that will cause your spouse further hurt. When disclosing an infidelity, it’s important to consider how much detail is appropriate and whether your spouse is experiencing any personal problems that may make immediate disclosure inappropriate. You should also realize that it is better for your spouse if you disclose fully rather than stagger your disclosure, and that you avoid blaming your spouse for the infidelity. By taking these factors into consideration, you can show your spouse that you are willing to be fully honest with them without hurting them any more than necessary.