There are a few key things to know about disclosure before going into it. First of all, it is always better to disclose infidelity to your spouse willingly, rather than to have them discover it and be forced to disclose. Furthermore, it is much better to be honest with your spouse and disclose fully, rather than in small steps, which will hurt your spouse even more. Disclosure is never easy, but being open and honest with your spouse (apart from inappropriate details) is always the best way to go about it. Another thing is to be considerate of is the timing of your disclosure. Do your best not to overwhelm your spouse by disclosing at a very inopportune time. Approaching a disclosure with empathy is also helpful. Be apologetic, but don’t ask for forgiveness right away. Finally, be sure that your spouse has adequate support to help them deal with the betrayal, whether through friends or family, or a professional counselor. Following these guidelines when disclosing infidelity is extremely important given the pain that infidelity causes to a spouse.