What is the power and, the limitations of our gut instincts in making decisions? John explores this topic and explains that whilst gut instincts can provide valuable insights and help us navigate complex situations, they are not always accurate or reliable. John delves into the connection between gut instincts and emotional intelligence, emphasising the importance of observing and managing our feelings effectively. He also discusses how our past experiences and beliefs can influence our gut instincts, leading us to make choices that may not serve us in building healthy and fulfilling relationships. John offers insights on how to recognise and challenge these patterns to attract better relationship outcomes. KEY TAKEAWAYS Your instincts are important for paying attention to relevant aspects of our environment, but they may not always be right. They provide a sense or intuition about a situation, but they do not give a clear indication of a right or wrong answer. Feelings of unease, clarity, tension, or tightness in the body, goosebumps, butterflies, or even nausea can all be related to your gut instincts. They can also be accompanied by thoughts that keep returning to a specific person or situation, or feelings of peace, safety, happiness, or fulfillment. The brain is connected to your gust instincts, where brain cells lining the digestive tract evaluate and decode non-verbal cues like body language and energy. They help the brain analyze patterns and probabilities before the conscious mind has time to catch up. Gut instincts are not paranoia or anxiety. They arise in specific situations that require intuition and decision-making. Paranoia is an unjustified suspicion or mistrust, while anxiety involves negative future outcomes. Gut instincts, on the other hand, provide subtle signals about a situation or person. If our overall emotional intelligence (EI) is low then we can easily be misled by our gut instincts. If we haven't developed the ability to observe and manage our own feelings effectively, our gut instincts may lead us astray in relationships. Our past experiences and beliefs about ourselves can also influence our gut instincts and lead us to make poor choices. It is important to recognise and challenge these patterns to attract healthier and more fulfilling relationships. BEST MOMENTS "Your gut instinct is very important to ensure that you're paying attention to the most relevant aspects of your environment." "Gut feelings are not paranoia and neither are they anxiety, although you may get similar bodily reactions and sensations." "Without your gut instinct, you are likely to forever be stuck in what's called analysis paralysis at times, as you just can't think your way through making a choice or how you need to act." "Your gut instinct could be leading you astray and you will continue to make bad choices for your life and the future of getting the healthy and fulfilling relationships you want." "Although we can't go back and make a brand new start, we can start now and make a brand new ending." Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com) To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-ke