The school year has ended for us here in Colorado and it was a doozy! We all had to struggle through how to help our kids through a year of school during a pandemic. As far as I'm concerned if you made it out alive and mostly unscathed you are a winner lady! There are some things that this school year taught me though, and this episode is about a few of those things! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever gotten to the point where you are down to the bone, feel it in your core, to you soul tired? Because you are the one who is doing it all. The one who can't drop the ball. Maybe you feel like you don't have any help or you can't ask for help. I feel like we have all been there at some point. But what happens when that is how you feel ALL THE TIME? When you have reached a breaking point. You have to recognize that isn't how it is supposed to be. Your default setting shouldn't be...

One of my listeners recently reached out to me and asked for some advice. Listening to her story I was struck by how similar it was to mine. How I felt at the very beginning of my journey as a single mom and it made me realize how far I had come over these past years. I remember the worry and the emotions that I went through in the beginning. Some of the expectations I had and a LOT of the animosity that I felt. I thought about how many years I spent, wasted really, feeling so angry and...

Let's face it, we all have baggage. The crap that we carry around with us from one experience to the next. Old wounds, hurts, emotional trauma, pain, loss, resentment, fears... it all follows us. Most of us. Unfortunately, whether we like it or not we are probably putting some of that on our children. I recently interviewed Kerri Hummingbird best selling author, Soul Guide and host of the Soul Nectar Show. Her recent book "Love Is Fierce: Healing the Mother Wound" talks about how for...

I have a confession to make. I kinda suck at co-parenting. At least I did for a really long time. There are many reasons for that: spending 7 years before my daughter was born being the only person making decisions for my boys having serious trust and control issues after my son was almost killed by his own father being a bit stubborn (nah!!) There were many reasons that I struggled with co-parenting with my daughters father and it took a lot of time and work to get better at it. This...

Recently there was a buzz around a certain celebrity's untouched photo being shared on the internet. She had a very big problem with that image because it was untouched, un-filtered and (in my opinion) real! Now she had her reasons for not liking it and I get that BUT what is that telling the girls out there? That if you don't look perfect you don't look good? And WHO gets to decide what perfect looks like? Why do we as women beat ourselves up because we don't look like models? Or because we...

I was talking with a good friend the other night about the power of being single. This friend had spent the majority of her adult life going from one relationship to the other without ever really spending any time being single. She honestly didn't know HOW to be alone. She always had felt like she 'needed' a man in her life. No matter how many times I had begged her to PLEASE stay single for awhile at the end of every one of her relationships she always jumped right back into another one....

Quite often we set goals for ourselves that we don't meet because we see them as too big. Or we slip up or fall off the wagon and decide that we failed so why even keep trying. I have many different goals that I have set for myself but have struggled at times to feel like I am making any progress toward them. Because I felt I wasn't getting far enough fast enough. Recently I started reading Atomic Habits by James Clear and have realized the power of continuous improvement and how little...

Perfectionism and happiness do not go hand in hand. As women we often compare ourselves to others, thinking that another woman has it more together than we do. That mom on Instagram looks so perfect. Her kids and family look so perfect. We beat ourselves up for not reaching some level of perfect that really doesn't exist. People who strive for perfection are rarely happy and this episode discusses why. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I decided that this year, after such an abysmal 2020, that I needed to focus on more than just weight loss. Yes, I still need to lose some weight BUT that wasn't going to be enough to REALLY make me feel good. I realized that there were many layers of things that I needed to focus on instead of just weight loss. My mental health, my physical health, my spiritual wellness (no I did not find religion)... but there are so many different pieces to the puzzle of me and I wasn't working on all of...

It isn't easy raising children but raising a teenage girl has been especially hard for me. I knew that I would struggle, growing up as a tom boy I never really got the whole "girlie girl" thing...but raising a teenage girl with the added pressure of social media! That has been an even bigger challenge than I had anticipated. These poor girls are presented with more social pressure than I ever was growing up and it is effecting their mental health, self esteem, and so much more. Learn more...

Recently Hasbro announced that they were removing the Mr. from Mr. Potato Head's name and for some reason this upset a bunch of people. This weeks episode is all about why I find this extremely silly but also indicative of a bigger problem - inability to accept progress and change. Also, why I consider Potato Head the first transgender toy I ever had when I really thought about it. Listen to this episode to find out why... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Recently there was a young woman in the news who was arrested and charged with child endangerment. She was a single mom who left her two kids alone in their motel room so she could go to work. As a single mom I know the struggle of trying to find and afford child care. Sometimes we end up having to make decisions that many other people simply can't understand or judge us for. And even though I know that it isn't a good thing that she left her kids alone - I can understand why she may have...

In this weeks episode we talk about Valentines Day, stereotypes that single moms often face and why it is so important for you to be the hero of your own story. Too often we are judged by others - made to feel like we are just waiting for someone to come save us. Maybe we sometimes buy into that stereotype. Sometimes we feel like if we don't have someone in our lives we are missing a piece of ourselves. Sometimes we may feel like we have to find someone and we can't be happy if we don't. This...

"When people show you their true colors, don't try to repaint them"... This weeks podcast episode is all about why it is so important to pay attention to red flags instead of ignoring them. So many of us are "fixers", we see someone with problems and we want to help make it better. Instead of seeing the red flags that should make us take a step back we dive in and usually end up losing ourselves along the way. In this episode we cover some of the bigger red flags to watch out for and why it...

As single moms we can struggle with our own mental health. Depression and anxiety can creep up on you and can REALLY effect your life. But it is also VERY important to realize that it can also effect our kids. We need to not only be aware of our mental health but the mental health of our kids. Right now our kids are going through an unprecedented time due to COVID restrictions. Having to quarantine, not being able to see friends like they used to, not going to school the way they are used...

This Thanksgiving will look a lot different for many families because of COVID. Many people are not getting together with their families in order to try and stay safe. Some family members may not be happy about that. This has brought up the topic of setting boundaries for yourself. During the holidays many people have family drama and quite often that can be due to a lack of boundaries. Do you agree to host the entire family even though you don't really want to? Do you have to clean up for...

There’s a lot of truth to the quote, “We have met the enemy, and he is us.” We get in our own way far more than life, other people, or bad luck sabotage our success. We are often our own worst enemy. There are likely many reasons we tend to get in our own way but once we realize that we are doing it - then we can work on stopping. This weeks episode covers several tips to help you stop your own self-sabotage so you can be more successful in life.

Have you ever heard the phrase "If you always do what you have always done, then you will get what you have always gotten"... Can doing something as simple as changing your thoughts help you change your life? As a single mother, for many years I felt like I was never going to move past the struggles I had. I felt like I was always going to be stuck. I allowed limiting beliefs to keep me from moving forward in life. In this weeks episode I talk about how making changes to your thought...

What does it take to be a good mom? Have you ever questioned if you are being a good mother? Are you struggling right now? Do you feel like you are always doing it wrong? Welcome to the club - that is how EVERY mom feels. In this episode I talk about some big changes in our family and how it made me question if I was a good mother.

I was diagnosed with DCIS which is basically cancer cells in the ducts of your breast. The area that had those cells was pretty substantial which is why my doc recommended the mastectomy. You see, I have never been what you would call 'well endowed'. So simply having a lumpectomy wasn't really going to work. It would have been disfiguring. So the mastectomy was a better option aesthetically because I could get reconstruction. So then why would I choose a DOUBLE mastectomy? If I only had...

In the last podcast episode we talked about how you can use your breathing to help calm yourself when you feel overwhelmed. Being able to take just a moment to breath can bring you back to a calmer state where you are able to function again. Ok, that's great but how do we keep ourselves from ever getting to that overwhelmed state to begin with? This is what we are covering in this episode. How can you prioritize your life in a way that helps you be less stressed and more productive? How can...

Ready to set boundaries and overcome overwhelm? Rediscover your joy and calm as a working mom with medicine momma Ish Modak. Ish helps working moms overcome overwhelm and craft a life where they stop surviving and start thriving as a parent, partner, and professional. In this episode we discuss being in the state of overwhelm and a crazy simple trick to help your body and mind reset so that you are able to stop the fight or flight response and get back to having a productive day.

I have honestly been struggling to decide whether to release an episode about the current events going on in this country and the murder of George Floyd. Mainly because I am not certain if anything I say could possibly be sufficient. I also worry that I may say the wrong thing. However, one of the quotes that has always stuck with me is one from Sir Edmund Burrows. “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” So I must speak my truth and I know I must...

In November of 2019 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. I found out about it after my very FIRST mammogram. I wanted to share this journey with you because it is so important for us as moms, especially single moms, to remember to take care of ourselves too. We often put the things WE need to do for ourselves last on the list - and if I had put off my mammogram like I put off every other thing I should do for myself, who knows what could have happened. This podcast is the first of two where I...