This month, I am joined once more by fellow Internal Family Systems practitioner and clinical psychologist Dr. Susan Reyland. On this episode, our goal is to help you be a better communicator and connect better with your partner. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

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I know I’ve talked to you before about curiosity, and specifically about being curious towards your sad and vulnerable parts. Today, however, I want you to get curious towards the hater part, the one who resists your sadness, or tries to push it away. This part definitely won’t show up in a vulnerable way! But just like all of our parts, it is only trying to help. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

Spring has come to the northern hemisphere and I’m excited to bring you a new episode of my podcast. In the spirit of new beginnings, my guest this month is Tammy Sollenberger. Tammy has just launched her new podcast, titled “The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems Podcast for Anyone Looking to Find Balance and Harmony.” Today on the show, we’ll discuss her journey into IFS, and her podcast goals. For more, visit bethrogerson.com

I have many new exciting interviews planned for the coming months, so let's have a quick refresher course on IFS! Then, I'll answer some questions about IFS and Self compassion sent in by a listener. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

As a bonus this month, I am reissuing my interview with Martha Sweezy, Ph.D., from May of 2017. Martha weighed in on important issues at the core of shame, such as: What is shame and why is it important? How do we learn to shame ourselves and others? How can criticism and blame help us, and how do they hurt? Where can we begin to relate to ourselves differently on the inside? Does shame have an antidote? For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

My guest today is Kristy Arbon, the Founder and CEO of HeartWorks Training. Her work revolves around supporting people in their practice of self-compassion, mindfulness, somatic awareness, and shame resilience. Among her many other talents, she is an excellent mindful Self compassion coach and teacher. On today’s episode, she’ll introduce us to the concept of somatic Self compassion.

I’m excited to share with you today my conversation with Dr. Susan Reyland. On this episode, we talked about the autonomic nervous system. Your autonomic nervous system plays a huge role in how we physically and mentally react to threats. Don’t worry — this isn’t a vocabulary lesson, and you won’t have a quiz at the end! You will, however, learn a few things about yourself, such as how and why you react the way you do to certain situations. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

I recently spoke about the IFS model of therapy at Google’s week of Inclusion and Diversity. While you may not think that has much to do with your daily life outside of work, the tools you use to relate with others are useful in all sorts of situations. So for this month’s episode of the Therapy Spot, I’d like to talk about how we can use IFS when we have differences with people. This can be family, friends, or a romantic partner — anyone you share an aspect of your life with. For more,...

I want to talk about two things that go hand in hand: disappointment and acceptance. Disappointment can hit us hard and make us spin out — but for some reason, we tend to avoid talking about this difficult emotion. So today, I’d like to guide you towards a different perspective on disappointment. With this new perspective, you will have more choices, and a better understanding of yourself. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

I want to bring you some tips on what to do when your relationship feels strained. If you’ve ever had a sports injury, you know the feeling of strain! It hurts, it’s distracting, and it keeps you from doing the things you love. Strain in your relationship has a lot of the same effects. Luckily, just like with muscles, there’s a remedy for your strained, sprained, or inflamed relationship. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

Hello, and welcome back to the Therapy Spot! On today’s episode, I spoke with Cora Forstén ND, MSOM, LAC. After practicing as a naturopathic primary care physician for 6 years in Portland, Oregon, Cora relocated to Stockholm, Sweden. Naturopathic medicine combines natural remedies — including herbs as well as diet and lifestyle changes — alongside modern medicine. Together, we discussed the importance of the mind-body connection when it comes to both physical and mental health. Self care is...

For this episode, I’ve chosen to reissue a very helpful and informative past podcast. Last April, I had a wonderful conversation with Stan Tatkin about the safety and security we need in relationships. For those of you who didn’t catch this episode the first time, you’re in for a treat. This is a wonderful chance to learn more about being in a mutually satisfying, secure relationship. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

Hello everybody, and welcome back to the Therapy Spot! As more and more of you join me for the podcast, I like to occasionally reissue a previous podcast that newer listeners might have missed. Since this is the #YearofSelfCompassion, I think it’s important to revisit my podcast about something closely related to Self compassion: shame. Before I recorded this podcast, I had attended a retreat on the subject of shame and self compassion. When I learn more about these topics, I get so excited...

Hello and welcome back to the Therapy Spot! Time sure has flown — we’re more than halfway through the Year of Self Compassion. Since we began this journey, I’ve found that the more I talk about it, the more I have to say. That’s why I’ve decided to reissue one of my earlier podcasts about Self Compassion. After all, Self Compassion is the antidote to feelings like self criticism, doubt, and unhappiness. Don’t feel bad if this practice doesn’t come naturally to you! Let’s focus on the...

Hello everyone, and welcome back once again to the Therapy Spot! This week, I spoke with YY Wei, LCSW, founder and director of The Relationship Center of Colorado. For over 10 years, YY has provided relationship therapy to individuals and couples of all gender identities and sexual orientations. She strives to create a safe, inclusive place where clients can reconnect with themselves, as well as their family members and partners. On this podcast, we’ll discuss what clients can expect from...

Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Therapy Spot! On this week’s episode, I spoke with individual and relationship therapist Veronica Lax. During our time together, we discussed the challenges both partners face in a relationship where one person is Swedish and the other is not. While we focused mainly on this pairing, you can apply this lens to your own bicultural relationship. How do different cultural backgrounds affect a relationship? Listen along!

This week, I spoke with Laura Goldstein, LCSW, about the difference between curiosity, and telling. In her professional practice, Laura has been helping families, couples, and individuals since 1996. Her integrative mind-body approach incorporates the IFS model alongside yoga and mindfulness practices. We talked about how the Self quality of curiosity can enhance connection — and how telling can create distance. Listen along to our energetic and informative conversation! For more, visit:...

Human beings are social creatures — we all long for connection. Sometimes, however, when we try to get closer, we trip over ourselves and actually create distance instead. In her work with couples, Elissa Stein helps them see that there are many different ways to have closeness. She also guides them to a place where they can recognize what creates distance. For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Therapy Spot! This week, I spoke with my friend and colleague, clinical psychologist Dr. Susan Reyland, about attachment. What are attachment styles? How did our attachment style form? How do our early attachment experiences influence some of the relationships in our adult lives? Listen along! For more, visit: bethrogerson.com

Welcome back to the Therapy Spot, everyone! On this week’s episode, I’d like to walk you through an exercise I did with two of my clients. The wife in this married couple had a lot of strong feelings surrounding an upcoming life change. Her husband struggled to show up with empathy, and instead tried to “problem solve” his wife’s bad feelings away. Empathy connects us with others (and ourselves!) in a way that sympathy does not. Empathy, to quote Carl Rogers, is “an accurate understanding of...

This week, I interviewed Matt Pappas, Certified Life Coach, author, blogger, and podcaster. He specializes in coaching for survivors of trauma, and those dealing with anxiety. Matt’s journey began from a very personal place. A survivor himself, he started Surviving My Past as a way to navigate his own recovery. Since then, the blog has evolved into a full-blown advocacy website featuring many different voices. During our time together, we discussed how anxiety manifests itself in trauma...

Hello everyone, and welcome back once more to the Therapy Spot! On this week’s episode, I spoke with Kari Joys, MS. She is the director of the Center for Creative Change in Spokane, Washington. Kari is a well sought after Counselor and Psychotherapist, a skilled group facilitator, and a powerful energy therapist. Over the years, she has helped thousands of people move on from a difficult past to achieve happy, fulfilling lives. As valedictorian of her high school graduating class, Kari spoke...