How can you find something unless you are aware of seeking it, for what you are seeking is also seeking you.  Within each of us exists a myriad of emotions.  Whilst we have access to these when needed, we tend to hold on to some of them far too long after the event they showed up for has ended.  Feeling unhappy about something that is happening is not the same as calling yourself unhappy.  Emotions come and go based on situations in life and holding on to them keeps us stuck in time, not allowing us to move forward.  You don't have to suffer over and over again for a situation that no longer exists.  Be aware of shining your focus on thoughts and emotions that serve you well.  Tune in.