Episodes
When twin sisters Mya and Deanna Cook wore braided extensions to school, they had no idea it would start a fight for their civil rights. In part one of our series all about head hair, we untangle Black hair discrimination and the CROWN Act movement to end it. Plus, listener Tara Nelson takes us on her natural hair journey and why it was about so much more than just hair.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and...
Published 07/20/21
Dear unladies, let's talk about life timing. Forever35 hosts Kate Spencer and Doree Shafrir help us answer advice questions on feeling too late to dating, too early to aging and behind schedule on baby-making.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at...
Published 07/13/21
When Ashley C. Ford was growing up, money was tight, home life was unstable and a current of shame ran through it all. We talk to Ashley about unlearning that shame; reconciling her family relationships; coming into her own and sharing it all in her bestselling memoir, Somebody’s Daughter.    Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow...
Published 07/06/21
Endometriosis is highly common, incurable and often written off as "bad periods." But the uterine disease can also wreak havoc with chronic pain, infertility, mood disorders and more. Shereen Marisol Meraji of NPR's Code Switch takes us on her endometriosis journey. Then, medical student/patient researcher Meghan Martin shares her brilliant idea to make endometriosis diagnoses a lot easier.    Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now,...
Published 06/29/21
States across the U.S. are racing to ban trans girls from school sports. Why? Because two teen runners in Connecticut did arguably the riskiest thing transgender athletes can do these days: They won. This episode, ESPN writer Katie Barnes and trans runner Andraya Yearwood tell us the astonishing story — and how it unleashed a tidal wave of transphobic legislation and a lawsuit that could redefine Title IX.    Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is...
Published 06/22/21
Dear unladies, we've got a trio of advice q's on deck AND a dazzling guest! Comedian Negin Farsad helps us make new friends. Then, Cristen and Caroline go ham on "when are you having kids?" and "pulling the race card" racism.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at...
Published 06/15/21
You’ve survived sexual trauma. But then what? This episode, we're breaking the silence on the ripple effects of rape and assault and exploring pathways to healing and relearning intimacy with help from Unladylike listeners and forensic psychologist Dr. Judy Ho. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social...
Published 06/01/21
Exiting abusive relationships can be extremely difficult — especially when your partner is extremely powerful. But that's what Tanya Selvaratnam did when she broke up with former New York Attorney General Eric Schneiderman. Unladylike senior producer Nora Ritchie talks to Tanya about how she got out; why she went public; and what she wants to accomplish with her memoir, Assume Nothing: A Story of Intimate Violence. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space...
Published 05/25/21
Where's the line between fostering happiness and just forcing women to smile all the time? Yale psychologist and the host of The Happiness Lab podcast, Laurie Santos, breaks down the facts and fictions of how to get happier. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our newsletter at...
Published 05/18/21
Hawaii Senator Mazie Hirono is a trailblazer, feminist and a political force to be reckoned with. Cristen and Caroline talk to the Senator about sexism, AAPI stereotyping, calling bullsh*t and her new memoir, Heart of Fire: An Immigrant Daughter’s Story.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia....
Published 05/11/21
Activist Raquel Willis is on the frontlines of the trans rights movement 24/7. We follow Raquel's journey to becoming a modern-day movement leader. Plus, we dig deeper into trans inclusion in feminism, the weaponization of womanhood and the onslaught of anti-trans laws that are sweeping the US.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike....
Published 05/04/21
Why are so many women struggling with attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD)? Caroline and Cristen sort through the gender stereotyping and moralizing that obscures ADHD in girls and why finally getting diagnosed with ADHD can feel so life-changing for women.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social...
Published 04/27/21
Dear unladies, it's our very first advice episode! Cristen and Caroline answer a listener who's torn about finding "The One" and swap stories about falling in love, not-so Prince Charmings and exes who definitely weren't the ones.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social @unladylikemedia. Subscribe to our...
Published 04/20/21
As divas go, Mariah Carey and Céline Dion have a lot in common. But the media has treated their divadoms wildly differently, dahling. Chelsea Devantez, host of the Celebrity Book Club podcast, helps us dissect the diva construct by walking us through the wild career highs and lows of Mariah and Céline. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike....
Published 04/13/21
Tracing family trees can take more than DNA tests and genealogy websites, especially if your ancestors were enslaved. Acclaimed writer Morgan Jerkins tells Caroline about driving across the country to find out who she came from, how she fits into the broader history of the Great Migration and why learning about her family's ancestry changed her perception of Blackness.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and...
Published 04/06/21
Self-love is easier said than done, even when you're a body positivity icon like Tess Holliday. We're going deep with the model, activist and tattoo queen about chasing her dreams, chasing off fatphobic trolls and learning what it really means to love herself.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike. Follow Unladylike on social...
Published 03/30/21
Cristen and Caroline are back with all-new episodes starting March 30th! Plus, the show is going to be mostly weekly from here on out.  Rather than taking longer breaks between seasons, we'll be pumping out fresh episodes nearly every single week of the year. Look out for a new episode dropping next week! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Published 03/23/21
Leading up to brand-new episodes of Unladylike, we’re hitting replay on four of our top (and most timely) episodes from the archive. Today, we revisit one of our buzziest episodes from 2018. Vibrators are more popular than ever, and women founders, designers, and engineers are increasingly claiming their space in today’s booming, $15-billion sex toy and sextech industries. But the biz behind the buzz isn't exactly liberating. Polly Rodriguez, co-founder of the sexual wellness start-up...
Published 03/16/21
In the run-up to brand-new episodes of Unladylike on March 30th, we’re hitting replay on four of our favorite episodes from the archive. Today, C&C revisit this episode from 2019.  The 1990s were supposed to be the "decade of women," but it became all about the bitches instead. Caroline and Cristen put on their velvet chokers for a feminist 90s-nostalgia trip with journalist Allison Yarrow (90s Bitch: Media, Culture, and the Failed Promise of Gender Equality), through the bitchification...
Published 03/09/21
Leading up to brand-new episodes of Unladylike, we’re hitting replay on four of our top (and most timely) episodes from the archive. Today, C&C stretch it out and revisit this episode from 2018.  Body-positive yoga icon Jessamyn Stanley shares her journey to finding her yoga body and claiming her space on the mat as a fat, queer, black woman. Cristen and Caroline also unpack the claptrap of why yoga has become an aspirational whitewashed lifestyle and what that means for the women who...
Published 03/02/21
C&C revisit this episode from 2018 while they prepare for new episodes -- coming your way March 30th. Moms aren't supposed to admit it, but loving your kids can also come with not loving--and possibly regretting--becoming a parent at all. Caroline and Cristen explore this taboo territory and its maternal instinct mythology with help from a couple bad mother-disruptors who are figuring out what motherhood means on their own terms.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and...
Published 02/23/21
Unprecedented times call for an unprecedented Unladylike! Cristen and Caroline close out 2020 by interviewing each other about how we're feeling as people, podcasters and, especially, white feminists. Along the way, we grapple with our own insecurities, listener criticisms and the Karens in our midst.   Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available...
Published 12/15/20
Comedian Michelle Buteau is everywhere these days, including a Netflix standup special (Welcome to Beautopia); the First Wives Club reboot on BET+ and her new memoir, Survival of the Thickest. This episode, she bares all about the three B’s: her body, her boobs, and her babies.  Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available...
Published 12/08/20
'Tis the season for romantic comedies. But are we "allowed" to love these very imperfect, yet formative films? Bestselling author, Shrill co-creator and Hallmark movie fan Lindy West helps us reconcile our problematic rom-com faves and ruins Love, Actually for good. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike.  Follow Unladylike on social...
Published 12/01/20
Has breaking out ever made you feel like breaking down? Adult acne and facial skin conditions are extremely common — and so are their mental health side effects. This episode, Cristen and Caroline get deep with dermatology and what we believe "bad skin" says about us. Unladylike: A Field Guide to Smashing the Patriarchy and Claiming Your Space is available now, wherever books and audiobooks are sold. Signed copies are available at podswag.com/unladylike.   Follow Unladylike on social...
Published 11/24/20