In the episode discover: 1. How the constant to-do list ticker looping in Amanda's brain makes her feel like a dormant volcano. 2. The job description we've somehow accepted for motherhood—and whether self-abandonment is a job requirement. 3. The way gender expectations even creep into Glennon and Abby's marriage. 4. How to know whether your partner is a co-builder or an assistant. 5. How to make the invisible load of caretaking visible—and potentially bearable.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices