Hey! Surprise episode. We talk about Steph's birth story and reflect on 8 years of marriage. Enjoy!

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how hectic things have been in recent weeks. Are we as a culture addicted to the grind? It always feels like after we complete a task we will finally rest only to start a new unexpected task. Is being busy our norm even if we complain about it all the time? Cause if i ain't one thing it's another right?  Stephanie discusses walking the line  between celebrating this pregnancy and doing too much influenced by others. Creating life is always worth...

This week Stephanie and Travis discuss how her views on gifts as a long language may have changed.  How should we address our partner when a personal need is not being met in a relationship without discrediting all the other ways your partner shows up for the relationship.  Travis actually has a fact based “Did You Know”. When did the color pink become exclusive to girls?  F*ck them kids, we revisit this saying from Episode 006. How has our perspective changed on putting your relationship...

This week Travis and Stephanie dive into a little love in the media and discuss Brittany Renner’s body count and the new season of Love is Blind. Is 35 “bodies” at the age of 31 a lot when you do the math? Lydia is easy to hate, but is Uchee the true villain?  This week Travis brings back “Did You Know”, well sorta. Stephanie and him are sort of conflicted on this segment. However, it led to a great discussion on how we start to mimic our partners personality traits. What do you think...

We’re back! Did you suspect something was majorly wrong that we took such a long break? Well we break down exactly why we took a break and catch you up with what we’ve been up to. We reveal our baby girl's name. Stephanie gets a little heated talking about how we as a culture need to stop projecting our fears onto others. Why we decided to homeschool and how it's going.  What are your thoughts on scheduling sex? We talk about our thoughts on this seemingly cringe tactic. Perhaps there’s...

This week Stephanie and Travis are once again joined by Author, Lorraine Avila. Lorraine was previously on WSLEO via zoom and it was absolutely crucial to have her on in person for a more intimate conversation. Lorraine was able to open up about her own romantic life while chit chatting about Love is Blind 4. Clearly we are all obsessed with the Netflix reality show. Tune in for their hot takes on Jackie & Chelsea. Is our love for Marshall causing us to hate Jackie too harshly? Is our...

Travis and Stephanie had a little April fools fun, although they love Les Chat pod very much, they will all be staying in their lane. This week they discuss Jonathan Majors allegations and how our biggest mistakes do not define us. Stephanie is reading The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and discusses how imposter syndrome is developed throughout our entire life, not just in some corporate office. We have limiting beliefs in so much of our day to day lives. Can a shift in mindset and...

This week Stephanie and Travis welcome back Jojo & Dayra of Les Chat Podcast. They all compare relationship norms and their ideal Sunday. These vary in queer vs. hetero relationships as well as for couples with and without kids. Yet there are also similarities. Have you heard of endocannabinoids ? Well they are actually proof that female orgasms actually do exist. Apparently some people feel they are a myth. Science has also proven women are more fluid in their sexual attraction than...

Episode 080 was a complete derailment of the outline. Wow. They had every intention to focus on the topics, but their recent “discussions” took over. They spent a great chunk of time debating their roles in the relationship, if they should shift, and comparing their roles to “how everyone has always done it.” Travis is very flexible. But Stephanie wants him to be intentional with his child rearing, not just follow her beliefs. Is it because she needs help or is it because she doesn't  want to...

After celebrating 7 years of marriage last week and giving our minds and bodies rest, we are back. We jump right in discussing how we had a tense “discussion” yesterday. After 7 years of marriage we still like each other very much, but we still let each other down. We are human. Even when we have applied effective communication and have been explicit with our needs, our partners fall short. So what do we do? How do we get back to feeling connected?  Someone once asked us, “How do we...

This week we answer various listener submitted questions such as our opinion on dating apps, long distance relationships, and alone time while in a relationship. We also talk about the appropriate amount of making out. Some think making out is childish. Some consider making out foreplay. How do you feel about making out and has your stance changed while in a relationship? Talking about intimacy is becoming less and less taboo, but where do we draw the line? How do we choose which details we...

We’re back! Despite being sick I refused to skip another week. I get on Travis for not buying “just because” flowers, but he disagrees. I also almost slept on the couch because of his snoring recently. A new study about married couples sleeping arrangements was conducted by the New York Times last month. Travis is still 100% against it, while my opinion has shifted. “Did You Know?” men escape in the bathroom? Well did you know water is wet? Lol. While this isn't a pressing issue in our...

What are the boundaries of healthy co-parenting? Is it appropriate to go on dates without the child? When is forcing a relationship actually bad for the child? We got inspired by a tiktok of a woman asking her baby daddy to go out to celebrate their break up anniversary.  Has gaslighting become a buzzword? Is it overly misused? Well on this episode we discuss five different types of gaslighting. Travis gets triggered by that word. Have we gaslighted each other?  SPOILER ALERT: We discuss...

It’s been a rough week in our parenting that is following the tough week I had with my gut health. So yeah, ya girl is tired. However, I am also so grateful. Gratitude and grace have kept me going the past couple of weeks. Travis and I have experienced extended moments of feeling disconnected this past week. Travis tried to use humor to reconnect, I was just not feeling it. Sometimes, the things we love about our partners are annoying during stressful times.  How could we set boundaries in...

How do you know when it is time to end a relationship? In hindsight, what signals were you ignoring that prolonged a doomed relationship? I reflect on how low self esteem may have contributed to my cheating ways in high school. Travis reflects on how relationships can turn into a security blanket. So you keep it even when it's obviously time to get rid of it. The reasons to end a romantic relationship apply to ending platonic friendships and cutting family off as well. Boundaries should be...

This week we discuss an alternative definition of self love. Love isn't just grand gestures and admiration. It is the day to day work and acts of service that make living life easier and more enjoyable. What ways are we showing ourselves love? It is beyond “self care” and hobbies. Self love isn’t always pretty.  To snip “it” or not? Why do humans want biological children? Why do parents decide to stop having more children? Are these reasons self-centered? We discuss our indecisiveness with...

This week we discuss Gabrielle Union's “controversial” statement that she felt “entitled” to cheating because she paid all the bills in her previous marriage. Are the blogs feeding the “battle of the sexes” we discussed in recent episodes? Or was she completely wrong for that statement?  Has a song, movie, podcast ever made you break up with someone? This week's “Did You Know?” shows us it happens more often than you think.  What does authenticity mean to you and how does it show up in your...

Happy New Year from the WSLEO family to the world. This week we reflect on our year, the year ahead, and how our very different brains can use the same tools for personal growth. While setting the bar too high at the beginning of the year can be a recipe for disaster, there is nothing wrong with taking advantage of “new year new me” energy to set goals. There is something super attractive about vulnerability. If you haven't already, prioritize talking with your partner about how you envision...

They are back! COVID hit their home for the third time in the past 2 years, but they are fully recovered and ready to do all things WSLEO. They had a lot to cover and shared their thoughts and perspectives on the passing of Stephen tWitch Boss, the Tory Lanez and Meg Thee Stallion trial, the unfortunate yet predictable impact of men becoming an extra child in a marriage, and TWO “Oh So Y’all Can Relate” submissions. Yes this is a long one! 9-8-8 is the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline which is...

This week Stephanie shares some gems she has encountered in Yung Pueblos new book Lighter. We have discussed extensively how our childhoods impact our perception and our behavior, but what about tough moments now? How can self awareness and great communication skills prevent us from falling into and staying in toxic patterns? As creatures of habit, we have to be intentional in our attempts to be better and do better.  On ‘Oh So Ya’ll Can Relate’ Travis tells us about a young woman who put up...

Stephanie and Travis are back after a heavy couple of weeks. Stephanie has a PSA about how our emotions are all over the place right before that time of the month. “Did You Know” Men make up their minds about marriage pretty fast? Umm in what universe?  Stephanie is reading another Terrence Real book: The New Rules of Marriage. She talks about what Real calls a losing strategy, withdrawal. Withdrawal can be easily confused with acceptance but one comes with resentment, the other is achieved...

Stephanie and Travis are back after taking a week off to recharge and recalibrate. What is the logic behind why we can be super productive while we are clocked in at work, but then lack productivity while working on personal projects? Is it just decades of conditioning? Are we burnt out? Whatever it may be, Stephanie and Travis are working on developing a new relationship with productivity.  While on an interactive live recap last week, the topic of masculine vs. feminine energy was brought...

This week Stephanie and Travis reflect on which love language they use to love their friends. Stephanie’s “friendship love language” may be outdated considering how her life has evolved. Travis unfortunately wasn’t able to identify his “friendship love language”. Maybe from a lack of friendships or a lack of expressing love.  On “Did You Know?” Travis tells us about yet another unfortunate side effect of hormonal birth control. A reminder that men should pay up cause women pay way more in...

Did you know, “married women are more than twice as likely to use a vibrator than non-married women?” Great more rhetoric that implies your sex life dies when you get married. It’s honestly not surprising anymore. But what if we flipped that idea on its head? Team work makes the dream work, sometimes a vibrator is on the team.    This week Stephanie and Travis discuss wet dreams. Wait… aren’t wet dreams limited to teenage boys? Actually they are a lot more common than we think and happen to...