Man, it would be nice if we didn't have to do these, right? Like, if we could spend all of our time talking about new ice cream flavors or smutty novels or whatever. But sadly some legislators have decided to be real jerks about abortion stuff so we're back on the grindstone once more. This episode we discuss Arizona's recent abortion ban and the history behind it, a rise in anti-birth control information around the country, and some small blips of hope in an otherwise gloomy time.  Oh, and...

Naomi and Joel talk about the rising tide of body image issues and some stuff that may or may not make people feel better about themselves. Here's a gallery of what people of different body sizes look like.  DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the same for Palestine support. Send proof to our email that you made a donation to fight any kind of genocide and we'll...

In this one we discuss the medical drama series The Resident, the trauma-bonding science fiction film Upstream Color, the polyamory memoir "More," the lesbian romance drama manga How Do We Relationship, the gangster/rich person drama The Gentlemen, the immigrant relationship drama Past Lives,  the Meryl Streep romcom It's Complicated, the Spiderman fanfiction comic "Spider-Sense and Sensibility," the "Things We Never Got Over" series,  the existential philosophy/multiverse theory film Mr...

Wrapping up a book critique in only 2 sections? Wow, we're making great progress on our New Year's Resolutions. In pt 2 of Art of Seduction we get into the actual text and find some uncomfortable stuff, ranging from Robert Greene misrepresenting his sources to his examples not supporting his arguments to his examples ignoring commonly-accepted historical details that run contrary to his assertions about the seductive capabilities of people like Cleopatra and JFK. Basically this book is...

We're back on the media critique grindstone, kicking off the second quarter of the year with our takes on Robert Greene's Art of Seduction. It's bad, but it's also...weird...mixing together a pseudo-academic take on seduction through the ages with ramblings about how it can be applied to advertising and politics. It's also sold over a million copies, which is more success than we'll ever have, so what do we know? Part 1 discusses the background of the book, Robert Greene's intro and reasons...

Uh, not a great way to intro this one. We talk about genocide in Palestine,  the atrocities being committed there, how major news media companies are complicit in war crimes based upon their skewed coverage, how Israeli actions will directly impact (and already are impacting) Americans fighting for abortion access/trans rights/everything else, and the stuff that keeps us going in the face of a world seemingly only getting worse. No, seriously, we have some hopeful stuff. We would not have...

Sarah E. Hill created a groundbreaking book that takes us on a journey through the complex relationship between women's health and hormonal contraception. In the first part of this podcast series, we explore the relationship between female hormones, the brain and, how those hormones play such a vital role in every day life. DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the...

Sarah E. Hill created a groundbreaking book that takes us on a journey through the complex relationship between women's health and hormonal contraception. In the second part of this podcast series, we continue to explore the relationship between female hormones, the brain and, how those hormones play such a vital role in every day life. DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started...

Sarah E. Hill created a groundbreaking book that takes us on a journey through the complex relationship between women's health and hormonal contraception. In the first part of this podcast series, we explore the relationship between female hormones, the brain and, how those hormones play such a vital role in every day life. Other books mentioned in this podcast episode: Half the Sky by Nicholas Kristof and Sheryl WuDunn DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all...

For Episodes 150/151 we finally got around to discussing what is commonly considered the greatest romcom of all time, When Harry Met Sally. But, in a shocking twist, Joel and Naomi are doing it with their respective partners. This is the Naomi/Len version - check out Ep150 for the Joel/Lauren takes. DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and have now started doing the same for Palestine...

For Episodes 150/151 we finally got around to discussing what is commonly considered the greatest romcom of all time, When Harry Met Sally. But, in a shocking twist, Joel and Naomi are doing it with their respective partners. This is the Joel/Lauren version - check out Ep151 for the Naomi/Len takes. Joel and Lauren discuss all the reasons this film works really well, ranging from tight writing to strong characters who aren't morally pure and perfect. We also talk a bit about the background...

We wrap up our favorite sex book of the year (so far at least, Joel hasn't read Emily Nagoski's Come Together quite yet...) with Vanessa's last few pieces of advice. We dig into sex menus, sexual personality types, exploration, the "first pancake" rule, and the "F First" principle, all incredibly useful pieces of advice to keep your sex life going strong or bring it back from the dead.  Find a non-AI-written copy of the book here. All credit to Simon and Schuster for use of their cover...

In part two of Sex Talks we discuss how to have good conversations with your partner, how to start bringing more explicit topics with them, how to improve your mental and physical connection, and how to destigmatize touch in your relationships. Find a non-AI-written copy of the book here. All credit to Simon and Schuster for use of their cover art. DTG despises genocide and continue to support people fighting all forms of it. We're still making monthly donations to local trans funds and...

Our podcast about sex, dating, and relationships finally gets around to discussing a book specifically about sex. None of this conversation is really explicit and the skills we discuss here are applicable in everyday life, but if you don't want to hear us make references to sex acts, maybe skip this one. In part one we discuss how Joel was scammed into buying an AI-written or ripoff copy of the text prior to finding an actual copy, why talking about sex is hard,  the factors that usually...

This time we chose some questions that were less likely to lead to arguments and more likely to spur conversations about relationship conduct in weird situations. We chatter mindlessly about a few topics, ranging from working out with partners to demanding half your husband's company to breaking up with partners after cancer treatment to laughing at your husband when his demanded paternity test proves he's in fact the father. Boy, so many people are happy and well-adjusted in this day and...

We finally finish Steve Harvey's second awful relationship book, having learned far too much about his past and horrible parenting style in the process. We wrap up with his thoughts on nagging (or as he calls it, the "N-word"), some mixed advice on money in relationships, and his baffling list of commandments for men to keep their wife happy that, per him, no man would ever follow. Not amazing content, but maybe lightyears beyond the advice of his other books "Act Like a Success, Think Like a...

Joel and Naomi sit down to discuss their thoughts on the new Sydney Sweeney/Glen Powell romcom, a fairly good version of the "rich pretty people fall in love in a pretty place" subgenre. Very few spoilers in this one outside of some stuff concerning the ending: we're more interested in talking about the leads, how this film is helping to destroy the Australian economy, and some very weird writing stuff concerning the choices in the ending.  All credit to Universal for use of their trailer...

Naomi and Joel meet to discuss how they improved in 2023 (and share a lot of good recipes in the process),  develop a good relationship maxim to live by in 2024, and analyze the dating trends of 2023 and 2024. Joel and Naomi also make some predictions of their own for 2024, mostly negative stuff about politics and the future of AI-tech.  Crispy Korean Chickpeas Mango Pie Pear Sorbet An Amazing Tomato Pie This month we made a donation to a trans rights org supporting trans individuals...

In part 2 (we're sorry, there's a lot to discuss and our thoughts can't fit within the neat hourly format of a weekly podcast) we discuss some of the other plotlines in Love, Actually, including the HR-horrifying story of the PM and Natalie, sex pervert Colin and the foxy Wisconsin babes, the horribly miscast Alan Rickman and his hot secretary, sad Leslie Nielsen and his adorable son, and the nearly forgetable but also kinda tragic Laura Linney plot. We also wrap up by discussing the way this...

People kept telling us to watch this cult classic holiday romcom. Not sure if that was because they thought we'd enjoy it or because we might have opinions on it. And oh boy, do we have opinions on this. Lest you call us long-winded, we're actually discussing two films in this two-parter, Love, Actually and Red Nose Day, Actually, the pseudo-sequel from 2017.  In this first part we discuss some of the reasons this film might have enduring popularity, the clever (or lazy) writing structure...

Well Steve had a good week last time but he makes up for lost time by cranking the misogyny button back up to 10 in chapter 7-9. In this part we learn from Steve how women must always be well-dressed and sexy to attract Mr Right, how if men cheat it's probably because their wife wasn't dressed sexy enough, how men are insatiable lust machines who need to have sex all the time, and how if women put out they'll be just like a piece of used-up chewing gum that no one wants. No problematic ...

Yes, we know we're getting dangerously close to making 15 parts out of this like WWDL but we promise this will be wrapped up soon. Steve has a lot to say though and he throws us a curveball this time by, and this is shocking, actually offering some good relationship advice. Not great advice, and Joel still has plenty of bones to pick mind you, but good enough that we might feel comfortable recommending this over many other books we've discussed. Low bar, we know. In chapters 4 and 5 Steve...

Naomi runs some thorny AITA questions past Joel, who recorded this both recovering from a surgery,  coming down from a head cold, and hopped up on Benadryl.  He's mostly coherent, but if you're wondering why he goes weird places with the material Naomi gave him...it was probably the narcotics. We talk about some fun stuff, ranging from girlfriends who don't like their partners showing up drunk to the ethics of liking sexy Instagram model photos,  to spouses who break up because of climate...

We return to Steve, who's still doing his best to redeem his legacy, convince readers he's not full of it, and prove he's a great father. Unfortunately, he opens chapters 2 and 3 by talking about how he never talked to his daughter one-on-one until she was 13, so it's an uphill battle. Nonetheless. Chapters 2 and 3 cover Steve's advice on dating men of different ages and his attempt to dispel some "myths" surrounding men's desire to date successful women. Not all of this advice is bad but...