Episodes
Actress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to include disability in today's conversation about diversity. Plus, Nicole recaps her experience 'Facetime dating' in quarantine. Support BLM. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://blacklivesmatters.carrd.co/ Follow Nicole Byer: Tour...
Published 07/03/20
Actress Kirby Howell-Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Why Women Kill) discusses the rise in "Karens", managing life after death, and the reality of the Black experience. Plus, they share personal stories of racial bias, the importance of seeing representation in media, and how to raise a new generation of active allies. Check out @black.owned.everything on Instagram or officialblackwallstreet.com for a list of Black-owned businesses near you. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour...
Published 06/26/20
Rapper and former drag queen AJA (RuPaul's Drag Race S9, All Stars S3) catches up with Nicole on the #BlackLivesMatter protests, discussing Black history erasure and how people can be a good ally in the movement. AJA dishes on Drag Race, admitting they were extremely high on edibles during the filming. Plus, they share how they met their biological parents this year, and provides advice on the foundational layers every successful relationship needs. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date...
Published 06/19/20
"Sex is always better when you can be yourself during it" Jinkx Monsoon (Winner of Rupaul's Drag Race S5) dishes about fulfilling race chaser fantasies, heteronormative roleplay, how their Grindr use has changed since being on Drag Race, and so much more. Also, Nicole shares the only appropriate time to yell 'NAILED IT' at her. For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our episode playlist on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5cHUfQGWK4AtSXxQkMB0CY Support Black...
Published 06/12/20
Drag queen Monét X Change (RuPaul's Drag Race, winner of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars S4) shares the story about how they got their first STD from a race chaser, breaking up with their partner on Thanksgiving, and offers tips how to ease into butt stuff. Support Black Lives Matter. For a list of resources and places to donate click here: https://linktr.ee/dragher For more drag queens on Why Won't You Date Me, check out our drag queen episode playlist on Spotify:...
Published 06/05/20
The wonderful comedian Michelle Buteau (Always Be My Maybe, host of The Circle) discusses owning her sexuality, raising twins, being denied the ability to adopt kids, and so much more. Nicole and Michelle share their worst moments getting drunk on a plane, how the public keeps mistaking them for one another, and if having big tiddies makes it easier or harder to date For more Nicole Byer, check out her other podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars...
Published 05/29/20
BenDeLaCreme (RuPaul's Drag Race, RPDR All Stars) chats about how he deals with other people's traumas, getting gaslight by their therapist, and whats it's like to move in with a new boyfriend right before the pandemic. Plus, he explains his initial excitement to attain Race Chasers, and what made him so angry before his proposal. For more Nicole Byer, check out her other podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe...
Published 05/22/20
Oh boy, this episode is a juicy one. Comedian/actress Giulia Rozzi (Girl Code) speaks to Nicole about the struggles of being pregnant in quarantine, if she has any worries about raising a bi-racial child, and learning to not feel guilty about your privilege. Plus, Giulia teaches Nicole the best way to reach out to an old fling, and how to remain friends with an ex-husband. For more Nicole Byer, check out her other podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star...
Published 05/15/20
Comedian Tawny Newsome (Space Force) chats with Nicole about learning how to do your own hair in quarantine, their crazy fashion phases, and the current state of "Zoom dating" along with the crazy logistics behind it. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Rate Why Won't You Date Me 5-stars on Apple Podcasts and leave a dirty comment...
Published 05/08/20
"On what date do you reveal you're a merperson?" Comedian and TV writer Jamie Loftus (Robot Chicken, host of The Bechdel Cast) theorizes what it must be like being broken up but quarantined together, shares her fascination with balloon fetishists, and how 'Zoom-dating' has been working for people. Plus, Nicole's so dang horny, she's asking her roommate to sleep with her. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars...
Published 05/01/20
Ira Madison III (TV writer, host of Keep It) chats about how he's staying sane while quarantine alone, his guest appearance on You, and how he's having sex over Instagram. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Rate Why Won't You Date Me 5-stars on Apple Podcasts and leave a dirty comment for a chance to have it read on-air. Follow...
Published 04/24/20
"Marriage should be a lease with an option to renew" Tommy Lenk (Buffy the Vampire Slayer, host of Trashcast) shares his ideas to modernize marriage, points out the archaic rules of straight dating, and talks about his experience living in quarantine with his ex-bf's new bf. We've hit peak horny!! Nicole is having a full blown meltdown. Stay inside and stay safe everyone! For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars...
Published 04/17/20
Comedian Megan Gailey (Conan, Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon) chats with Nicole about life as a newlywed in quarantine, the horrors of wedding dress shopping, and the freaks using dating apps right now. Plus, how early is it acceptable to start drinking? Quarantine is causing crazies. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Rate Why...
Published 04/10/20
Stand-up comedian & Nicole's opener Amy Miller (host of Who's Your God) teaches us how to spot a chucklefucker, shares her experience going through Steve Harvey's 90 day sex rule, and how to feel powerful giving a b*****b. Plus, a motivational chat about loving your girls, and a check-in from quarantine. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss...
Published 04/03/20
"We're all just on Zoom trying to date people?" Jacquis Neal (host of Culture Kings) joins us remotely while in quarantine to discuss what it's like being cooped up with your S/O in isolation, how people are dating during the COVID-19 pandemic, and if you can stay friends with an ex. Plus, he shares the cute story behind his Disney World proposal. Meanwhile, Nicole has started taking therapy sessions from a Costco parking lot. Pre-order Nicole's new book:...
Published 03/27/20
Paul Rust (Love, Comedy Bang! Bang!, Arrested Development) has been married for 5 years. He discusses what it's like to date and work with his partner, the differences between his show 'Love' and his real love life, and bare boner rules. Plus, they share public pranks gone wrong, and Nicole's dream marriage proposal. This was our last studio recording, prior to social isolation. We'll do our best to continue to produce episodes weekly during the quarantine. Stay inside and wash your hands,...
Published 03/20/20
"Everyone that I thought was 'the one', was a piece of trash." Nicolette Mason (plus-size fashion blogger) joins Nicole to discuss the latest dating buzzwords of 2020, reflecting on your self-worth, whether they've dated fans, and so much more. For more Nicole Byer, check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus are watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss an episode. Rate Why Won't You Date Me 5-stars on Apple...
Published 03/13/20
"My life's work was dating people." Kelly Hudson (Search Party, Sunnyside, CollegeHumor) left her open-relationship to be with the man she's married to today. She shares her tricky experience dating 4 people at once, her first rules for dating in an open relationship, and what it's like to be on dating apps while married. Plus, Nicole shares her hard stance on feet, and period sex. Need more Nicole Byer? Check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus will be watching and...
Published 03/06/20
Writer/stand-up Rae Sanni (The Good Place, A Black Lady Sketch Show) joins Nicole to discuss all the struggles of their twenties, and how it has defined them. From the string of bad sex, hustling for money, dealing with colorism in the black community, and more. This bonus episode is brought to you by BET's new Twenties. See it March 4th. Search and post on social with hashtag #TwentiesonBET. Follow Nicole Byer: Tour...
Published 03/03/20
Janelle James (stand-up, writer for Black Mondays) joins Nicole to discuss the difference between East coast and West coast men, when to let a guy see you without makeup, and the best time to find single men at Target. Plus, Nicole shares her experience co-hosting the gay porn awards. Need more Nicole Byer? Check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus will be watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss an...
Published 02/28/20
"Once both people like each other, the games are over." Close friend and dog groomer Jess Rona (Author of Groomed) has a heart-to-heart with Nicole to unpack her fears of being in a relationship. They also read some crazy dating app messages from men, discuss the benefits of couple's therapy, and how to talk to kids. Plus, Nicole's trying to match with Channing Tatum on Raya. Need more Nicole Byer? Check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus will be watching and reviewing...
Published 02/21/20
Friend and fashion stylist Taylor Orear joins Nicole to shares the most adorable story behind meeting his boyfriend at RuPaul's Drag Con. They also discuss the importance of leaving baggage behind when starting new relationships, their crazy trip to Italy together, and their love for Obama's juicy butt. Need more Nicole Byer? Check out her new podcast - Newcomers! Her and Lauren Lapkus will be watching and reviewing Star Wars films for the very first time. Subscribe today so you don't miss...
Published 02/14/20
'She saved me in her phone as 'Eric Weirdo". Eric Edelstein (Jurassic World, American Dad) shares the story behind meeting Jess, his lovely dog grooming wife. Him and Nicole also discusses how to smuggle a dog into the country and their drugs of choice, including the time Nicole accidentally did meth. Plus, a round of audience questions about: how to get out of bad dates, finding motivation to workout, is it okay to date your ex-bf's ex-bf, and more! This was recorded live in San...
Published 02/07/20
Podcast pro Kevin Porter (Host of Inside Voices, Good Christian Fun, and Gilmore Guys podcast) helps Nicole set some 2020 dating goals - starting with deleting her Raya app. They also identify her negative loops to break, and have an education rundown on managing the iPhone's hidden app subscriptions. Plus, Nicole realizes she has no straight guy friends. Want to learn more about Nicole's podcasting process? Check out her interview on Inside Voices. Rate Why Won't You Date Me 5-stars on...
Published 01/31/20