We’ve been cooking up something new for you.    A whole new frequency. A new transmission. A new level of reality. And it’s all been Spirit-guided.   The fruits of a whole lotta inner-work labor over the last year— a total death & rebirth...   Shedding deeper layers of programming than we ever have before – so that we can be more ourselves, more free, living in full integrity with our mission– and more of service to the women who walk this path alongside us.   In this episode,...

This week, we have a very special, long-awaited episode for you. We sat down with Rob Montgomerie to finally get his story out into the world (this is part 1 of a multi-part series)! Up until now, Rob has been a private person, happily serving behind-the-scenes, coaching leaders of some of the most powerful companies in the world. You may not be aware that Rob has also been a huge supporter of our work at Desire on Fire, consistently backing us in a myriad of ways to grow as leaders and...

Hey there, welcome back to the Desire on Fire podcast! Today's episode is a bit of a departure from our typical topics, but an important one! This week we’re diving into talking about money, abundance, and financial freedom, topics that go hand-in-hand with living a life led by your deepest desires, and expanding into a life of abundance and fulfillment. Ellie sat down with an amazing guest expert: Penelope Jane Smith. She's a true thought leader in the realm of financial freedom,...

Dive into an episode where vulnerability meets transformation, and authenticity challenges the status quo. Aimee and Ellie, joined by Ellie's insightful husband, Rob, peel back the layers of their personal and professional journeys, revealing the raw, unedited truths that lie beneath the surface. They touch on moments of struggle and the deep, often uncomfortable shifts that have defined their paths. The concept of “coherence” becomes a beacon of hope and a guide towards authenticity. But...

We are BACK with a very special episode series for you!!   If you’ve been plugged into our community for the last six months or so, you’re probably aware that we’ve been going through a major metamorphosis over here at Desire on Fire. Releasing scarcity, fear and control so we can open to being held by and receiving from the masculine on a wholeee new level.   And Ellie’s husband Rob has been a key player who has catalyzed and supported this deep transformation (while simultaneously...

To listen to Jordan Candlish now, you might never guess he was once an ambitious  ladder-climber in the corporate accounting world.    To the outside world, he was the picture of success: achievement, stability, recognition.    But deep down, he knew that staying in that world and doing things the way everyone else did them was actually playing small and safe with his life. He knew he was meant for more.    So he took the leap into his own healing and evolution, and it’s never been more...

In today’s episode we sat down with our client and a college friend of Aimee’s, Makayla Davis.    She’s in one of our all-time favorite photos taken at a Desire On Fire Live event. She’s crying, fully immersed in a private moment of reckoning, and she’s holding the hand of her good friend.    It’s an image that perfectly encapsulates what we do and why we’re here: to help women thaw out, connect deeply with their aliveness in every area of life, and do it all together, held in a powerful...

We love to hear from our community, and we love to share stories and breakthroughs with you! This work all happens inside of real lives… and there’s no better way to understand its transformative power than hearing directly from the women who have been through our programs and events.   Last year, Prudence Stein-Greene was a successful real estate agent in LA — an extremely high-stress and high-drive industry.   At the time, she was struggling with a business decision, so when a friend...

Have you ever had a moment in your life when all your pain and accompanying coping mechanisms finally caught up with you?    When you finally saw with total clarity that if you wanted to be able to have any kind of happiness in life, you’d have to face that pain and find healing?    Our guest today is the relationship and intimacy coach Stefanos Sifandos — and he shares how that moment of getting “caught” forced him to reckon with a lifetime of abuse, fear, shame, and insecurity… and how...

We’ve taken a break from our podcast lately — not because we don’t love it, but because we realized we just needed to pull back on some aspects of the business to make room for all the change that’s been swirling around us.    So today we’re back, and we’re sharing a deep-dive conversation about what’s been going on in the business, in our relationships, and in our own personal growth as we navigate our transition to Austin together.    As we let the conversation flow, here’s a theme that...

One of the things that consistently brings women into the Desire On Fire community is shame.    Shame around sex for sure — wanting it, knowing what you want, asking out loud for what you want (often the most difficult and vulnerable part of our journey).    But it’s not just about sexual shame. It’s also about shame around all kinds of desire — for any kind of pleasure, fun, abundance, agency, freedom, or satisfaction.    Where does this shame come from? And how is it that even people...

You know how we love to invite men onto our podcast, and today’s guest brings a ton of depth, insight, and honesty around the male perspective.    Kevin Hermann is a highly skilled and experienced coach, specializing in business, leadership, and life coaching. He’s led over 25 in-person retreats (that’s a LOT of retreats!!).   But so much more than all these credentials and accomplishments, what you get from Kevin is just the transparency he brings to this conversation. He shares openly...

We’ve got another incredible Inner Circle Q&A call for you today!    As so often happens, there is a common thread that winds its way through all these powerful shares today.    Whether it’s being a caretaker for an ailing family member, dealing with old patterns in your family dynamics, navigating the fear and tenderness of a new relationship, or living in the tension of taking on bold new things…    … today’s brave women are all dealing in some way or another with what it means to...

In her “before doing the work” life, this is what Tanai Milgram said about herself: My whole life, I was so proud that no guy ever hurt me, that I was always the one to run away or catch the a*****e before he hurt me.    She’d left a trail of dozens of broken hearts in her wake … but she felt more alone and angry than ever.    Like a lot of girls, Tanai grew up with the conditioning that it wasn’t okay for her to express her full range of emotion. Being kind, sweet, and compliant was...

It’s not every day you hear about someone getting her start in the world of sexual education by opening up a sex shop with her mom — but if there’s one word to describe our guests today, it’s definitely “unconventional.”    Amy Baldwin is a Certified Sexuality Educator with a degree in Psychology and a minor in Human Sexuality from San Francisco State University. In 2008, she opened Pure Pleasure Shop with her mother in Santa Cruz, CA.    Their first employee was April Lampert… and the...

Today we’re giving you another peek behind-the-scenes, into a call with some of our inner circle clients.    And there must be something in the air, because this call definitely seemed to have a theme: navigating unknowns, holding tension in the in-between, and nurturing connection in our existing relationships as we’re changing.    Here’s something that not a lot of people talk about in transformational work: it can be lonely at times.    Yes, there are the highs. Moments of total...

If you’ve ever felt yourself buying into the cultural idea that sexiness, play, and pleasure fizzle after a certain age … then stop everything you’re doing and listen to this episode!    Today we’re thrilled to have Tantra expert and international bestselling author Laurie Handlers on the show, and what an incredible conversation this is.    Laurie is full of fire — you can feel it. It’s in her body, her voice, her stories. She oozes confidence and total Pleasure Queen energy.    Also?...

We’re doing something we’ve never done on the podcast before!    We know that real sisterhood is medicine. The vulnerability, the intimacy, the no-BS reflections — this is the stuff that heals, expands, and empowers like nothing else.    The Inner Circle is a paid membership for women that have been working with us for years: graduates of our Pleasure Mastery Program, retreats, or leadership programs. And each month, we do a real-time Q&A with the biggest things they’re facing.     ...

Today we’re diving deep with the sexy, playful Shaft Uddin!    At Desire on Fire, we always say that healing one area of your life never stays in that one area.    That’s why when you work on expanding your desire, pleasure, and connection in your sex life, you find yourself with more of all of that in the rest of your life, too.    You begin to see powerful shifts in your romantic relationships, your work, your finances, and your sense of self-love. It’s all connected!    For Shaft...

We’re back after a 2-month hiatus from podcasting, blogging, promo-ing, and social media … and we’re feeling GREAT.    A lot has changed in those two months. Like a LOT.   For one, we (Aimee, Ellie, Rob, and Bear) left LA and are now all living together in Austin, TX. And that’s just the tip of the massive change iceberg.    Throughout the last several months, we’ve been slowly passing through what feels like a major portal.    It’s been an initiation into what it really means to tune...

If you’re an ambitious woman like our guest today (and like both Aimee and Ellie), you might know how easy it is to confuse your work with your worth.  It’s so easy to get caught up in hustle and the masculine energy of go go go that we forget ourselves — our bodies, our desires, our wellbeing. The feminine path isn’t just about appreciating our amazing bodies (though that’s definitely part of it) and reconnecting with our desire and pleasure (also a huge component).  It’s about how...

Have you ever wished there was a 5 Love Languages … but for sex?    You know: a way to know what nourishes you in the bedroom, what turns you on (and off), what turns your partner on (and off), what would lead to the most fulfilling, most satisfying sex you could possibly have.    That’s what the Erotic Blueprints deliever!    When you know your erotic blueprint, you finally have a language to understand and communicate how you relate to eroticism. You’ll be better able to communicate...

Are you hiding your true personal style “in the closet”? What are you denying your true style desires — because you feel like they’re too much, or not enough, or that your body isn’t “right” enough yet to wear what you want to wear?    Celebrity stylist Elissa Williams (and stylist for Aimee and Ellie at the Desire on Fire Experience!) believes fashion is way more than just clothes and trends.    It’s a tool for self-expression, empowerment, and manifestation in our lives. It’s a way we...

We know many of you have been following Aimee’s unconventional adventures with Alex over the last three months.    From the Tantra retreat that was their first date to the 10 days in Australia that was their second, nothing about Aimee and Alex’s experience has been ordinary.    Their chemistry was palpable right off the bat, their connection felt real, and they definitely shared important things in common: personal growth work, embodied practices, coaching, and embracing a spirit of...