Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus was written in the 90s and became the biggest-selling relationship book of all time.  Since then, author John Gray has written over 20 more books including Beyond Mars and Venus which takes into account how times have changed.  John's wisdom is legendary and he's been a guest on many well-known shows such as Oprah and Dr Oz.  In this episode, he goes into the link between our sex hormones, our masculine and feminine sides, and their effect on relationships and libido.  Suitable for all ages as well as peri/menopause (so share it with everyone), John addresses the subject from a heterosexual viewpoint but it can translate to same sex relationships as well. He covers this in more detail in Chapter 9 of Beyond Mars and Venus, Mars and Venus In The Bedroom.  On this episode, we talk about: Where John's journey began (3:37) Working with Maharishi Mahesh Yogi (3:58) Understanding our differences (6:40) Beyond Mars and Venus (9:27) Men and women (and our masculine and feminine sides) are biologically different (10:00) Testosterone thinks, estrogen feels (16:06) Hormonal balance (19:11) The changing hormones of menopause (20:00) Supplements to nurture your adrenal glands (23:00) Producing female hormones in menopause (24:50) Overdependency, negativity bias, and the stress response (29:49) I'll do it myself (32:44) Estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone behavioural drivers (38:38) Therapy raises estrogen (43:01) The alchemy of making love (45:16) Sharing and complaining produces estrogen - but there are pros and cons (47:49) How to get what you want (55:48) Perimenopause, menopause and post-menopause (1:01:42) Get naked in your mind first (1:06:00) Libido (1:07:08) The importance of sexual regularity (1:09:21) How to have the conversation - a script (1:12:2) Episode Resources: Free gift: How To Get Everything You Want In Relationships  Course: How To Get More Me-Time  Course: Understanding Men   Course: Secrets To Great Sex  Book: Beyond Mars and Venus  Book: Mars and Venus in the Bedroom  All books  John's website: marsvenus.com    Women On Fire® is sponsored by MenoMe® Follow MenoMe® on Instagram here. Follow MenoMe® on Facebook here. Visit the website here. Subscribe to the YouTube channel to watch the interviews here .   We're honoured you joined Women On Fire® and hope you enjoyed this episode. If you did, we would be grateful if you would leave us a 5-star review wherever you listen to your podcasts or subscribe to our YouTube channel. That way, we can reach as many women as possible with Women On Fire®.    If you would like to contribute to Women On Fire please contact [email protected]  for more information.  Hosted by Ausha. See ausha.co/privacy-policy for more information.