Simon joins the show from faraway Britain as our first native UK YOBBER! He tells us about his life in Oxfordshire, including a cat and his very own "flat." Tom bonds with Simon over their shared experiences in Oxford, including the very same bedroom. Simon gives us a lovely list of Britishisms, including the definition of a "yob." He also shares some of his story with faith and sexuality, enlightening us about Side B life from a non-American country. We also have an exciting update on the...

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Erin returns to discuss the development of Your Other Sisters, including our recently held coed Zoom call with Your Other Brothers! We recap our YOB and YOS call, including a critical icebreaker of our favorite condiments. We invite all who are interested in these YOB and YOS developments to join us! Man or woman, shoot us an email to learn more: contact[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com For the rest of the episode, we discuss this current season of Lent in these weeks leading up to Easter. We...

Our resident Enneagram Seven and unofficial international correspondent, Daniel, returns to pitch this summer's special gathering of YOBBERS -- in Europe! He joins Tom to discuss a smaller-scale retreat or "holiday" somewhere in the Mediterranean, inviting all who are interested to email him ASAP: daniel[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com Daniel also catches us up on his life in London -- including the exciting news that he is now a British citizen! He tells us about one country where he's already...

First-time guest Andrew joins Tom to discuss Netflix’s Heartstopper! It’s a queer coming-of-age show that many in our YOB community have enjoyed, though its depictions of queer romance could also be distracting for some (nothing sexual in the first two seasons, just lots of same-sex kissing). We discuss what we loved from the characters in romantic pairings to the loyal friendships that ultimately reinforce this show. We devote our remaining time to the show’s lone asexual character as two...

Tom’s straight younger brother Andy returns for his yearly appearance on the podcast to educate us on this year’s Super Bowl matchup between the Chiefs and 49ers! Beyond merely giving us the players to look out for, Vegas’s odds for the winner of this game, and his own prediction, he also educates us on a truly shocking Taylor Swift lyric. We dive into all the T-Swift and Travis Kelce storylines, along with the often loud objections to their media coverage. Is toxic masculinity out of...

Alex is announced as our newest regular YOB contributor, and we get right into analyzing his blogs! We start with discussing a reflection of last fall’s YOBBERS retreat written by his mom and how this unique blog even came to be on our site. We also go behind the scenes and into greater depth with his recently posted blog about holding hands with his straight guy friends: one story in which a friend reached across a restaurant table to hold his hand, and another in which Alex extended his own...

Matthew returns for a second go on the podcast as we dive into Gen Z fashion trends! Have the '80s and '90s just had a baby and its name is Gen Z? How do we feel about the enlarging of pants, the sprouting of pearl necklaces, and a resurgence in New Balances and Champion sweatshirts? Beyond their fashion choices, how do we feel about this generation's greater openness about sexuality and same-sex friendships? Tom poses some community fashion questions to Matthew as we get to know him better,...

Dawson, formerly Adam in previous podcasts, returns to help Tom celebrate Christmas this year! Dawson shares why he celebrates Christmas in February in addition to December, and Tom tells a Christmas tale of the first man he ever feared. We reference the "Fancy Christmas" recently spent with our YOBBERS community, including someone’s goal to appreciate Jesus’ humanity during what can be a complicated, if not lonely Christmas season. We also give a little Survivor 44 and Survivor 45 recap for...

Aaron returns to the microphone after a nearly yearlong hiatus! Tom catches up with our former YOBcast regular, and "Mr. Finance" gives us his financial forecast for 2024. Aaron also shares about Posture Shift, a nonprofit ministry he's gotten more involved with this year as a member of their advisory council. The guys share some Posture Shift event stories, including the first time Tom publicly identified as asexual on a Posture Shift panel, while Aaron recently met one of our YOBBERS from...

It's our post-Thanksgiving episode! Matt returns to share how he celebrates Thanksgiving with his Navajo family, including which food takes the central place of the traditional American turkey. He also educates us with a Native American fact to help us commemorate Native American Heritage Month. For the rest of our conversation, Matt and Tom discuss the topic of "Side A" friendship -- that is, friendships with gay believers with an affirming theology or an acceptance of same-sex...

Tom welcomes first-time guest and longtime community member Daniel to discuss journeys with body image and pursuit of the ideal! They share their adolescent vantages from both sides of the scale, Daniel overweight and Tom underweight, and how the gym and general fitness practices have factored into their lives in adulthood. There’s also a good amount of Enneagram talk with Daniel as a Nine and Tom as a Four chiming in from those perspectives (or is Daniel actually an Eight?). Despite the lack...

Tom updates the audience on his mindset with the YOBcast for the foreseeable future, along with the strain of navigating two identities: when the microphone is on and when the microphone is off. GET IN TOUCH 📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009 📧 Email us: [email protected] ✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802 SUPPORT YOB ➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​ ➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​ ➡️ Give...

Jesse returns to discuss the summer’s biggest, if not most polarizing box office hit, Barbie! Tom reads off some community feedback from our Discord as we dive into hyperfemininity versus hypermasculinity, individuality versus relationships, and all the funny, moving moments from this film as it charts a new path forward for Barbie Land and, indeed, all of humanity. Is Barbie a Side B movie to those who can accept its message?? We hope you always remember, dear listener: you are...

We finish our SPANNING THE SPECTRUM sexuality series by learning more of Tom’s story as Erin returns to take over hosting duties! Tom shares a new term he’s still feeling out for himself: androsexual, or an attraction to masculinity. He shares about his attraction for mostly straight men, going all the way back to another boy in first grade. He also discusses being on the asexual spectrum and the shame of “missing out” on such a significant part of the human experience. To close this episode,...

Erin returns to help us SPAN THE SPECTRUM of our community from a woman's perspective! She updates us on her developments with Your Other Sisters, including a pivotal experience at Revoice this summer where she met some prospective YOS members as well as fellow YOB members for the first time. Sexuality aside, Erin discusses a general resonance with queer culture and then explains how her sexuality most aligns with pansexuality: an attraction for people regardless of gender. She also discloses...

Matthew makes his first appearance on the podcast after writing a couple guest blogs for us! He currently serves on YOB's leadership team and is, in his own words: "just a plain old gay." He's been active in the YOB community for years, but why did it take so long for him to share his story publicly? He opens up about his long road of coming out to himself before he could ever come out to other people, referencing his Enneagram Three shame with authenticity and difficult emotions. He talks...

Jesse of the great City of Oaks returns to discuss his sexuality as someone on the asexual (ace) spectrum, identifying as demisexual: someone who only develops sexual feelings when a strong emotional bond is also present. He goes into the difficulties of growing up different in a sexually charged culture, as well as the blessings of being a source of safety with his guy friends. We also dive into types of attraction, the repulsion of sex, and the chore of masturbation in this jam-packed,...

Keegan returns to the podcast after two and a half years to give another perspective on bisexuality in this SPANNING THE SPECTRUM sexuality series. He shares what resonated with Alex's bi episode, like the concept of "bi panic," along with how he contrasted with the conversation as well, such as feeling like a "minority of a minority" in our YOB community. He tells his story of coming to grips with bisexuality, including how YOB played a role in this revelation. Tom and Keegan also bond over...

We continue SPANNING THE SPECTRUM of sexual identity in our community as first-time guest Adam opens up about being cross-oriented: physically and sexually attracted to men, and romantically and emotionally attracted to women. He also describes this orientation as "heteroromantic homosexual." We dive into the nuance of his unique orientation: why Adam doesn't identify as bisexual, and why Adam steers away from any association of "identity" to describe his orientation. We close the episode...

Ben joins Tom in-studio for a conversation on his sexual identity as we continue "Spanning the Spectrum" this summer. Ben shares about being married to his best friend, a woman, for the last 15 years and why he opts for queer over bi as his primary identifier. He discloses some of the challenges in this identification as he explains (or defends) himself with certain Christians. He also reveals the joys of his orientation, including how he and his wife have opened their home as a refuge for...

Alex returns to discuss his sexual identity as a bisexual Christian in this "Spanning the Spectrum" ConvoCast series! Alex answers whether he's felt like a "minority of a minority" in our YOB community, and he shares his long journey coming to terms with his bisexuality -- both with himself and the Holy Spirit. He dispels the myth that he and all other bi people are 50-50 attracted both to men and women at all times and in all seasons of life. He shares why it isn't necessarily "easier" being...

Marshall joins us as another "OG" contributor and cofounder of YOB to share his perspective on this "Spanning the Spectrum" sexual identity series. He shares why he doesn’t identify as gay or SSA despite only experiencing attraction for men. He also discusses a marriage conversation he once had with a woman he dated. He shares the time of his life that presented his greatest struggles with gay temptation, as well as the thing that’s brought him the most joy in his sexuality. Tom closes the...

We kick off a new summer ConvoCast series exploring the diverse sexual identifications within our YOB community. We start with Matt who identifies as gay and Christian, but not those two identities together. He tells of his journey from "SSA" to gay and how he recently experienced feelings for a girl for the first time in his life. He shares about going to a source outside the Church to learn whether his sexual identification is as rigid as it seems. LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE Matt's blog: "Why...