In this episode host Rachel Oakes (who is currently breaking up with her husband) talks to Denise Cullington Psychoanalyst and Author of 'Breaking up blues' a practical self-help guide to help people navigate divorce and break-ups based on her own personal experiences, interviews with divorced couples and a long term research study into the affects of divorce.  Denise provides an emotional map of what people go through when they experience a break-up and divorce.  She gives a reality check (based on the findings of a research study) about how things can turn out without a lot of effort.  She outlines pitfalls many couple fall into and challenges listeners to learn lessons, let go of hatred and own their own part in the breakdown of the relationship.  She also discusses the positives that come from ending a marriage that isn't working.  A minority of couples managed to use their divorce as a 'window of opportunity", Denise explains how to be part of that minority. A challenging and fascinating conversation.  Part 2 of this interview (EP 6) which relates to children (the long term affects on children and how best to help them through divorce) is available now. Credits: A Mother of Invention Production (2021) Executive Producer & Host: Rachel Oakes With Special Guest: Denise Cullington With huge thanks to: Crystaline Kline Randazzo - Podcast guru Felix Middleton - Graphic Design guru Music by Podington Bear available at http://soundofpicture.com Buy Denise’s book Breaking Up Blues here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breaking-Up-Blues-Survival-Growth/dp/0415455472/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=breaking+up+blues&link_code=qs&qid=1615400903&quartzVehicle=121-1650&replacementKeywords=breaking+blues&sourceid=Mozilla-search&sr=8-1 Contact: To contact the show to suggest an episode theme, give Rachel feedback or if you'd like to share your own story please email [email protected], or find us on instagram and Facebook under AGoodDivorce.  We would love to hear from you!  #trollfreezone! Please subscribe on your favourite podcast platform to get alerts about future episodes and review and rate the show to help it gain greater visibility.