Get ready for an engaging conversation as I sit down with my dear friend, Mark Vicente. Many of you might recognise him as the whistle-blower for the cult NXIVM, but there's so much more to him than that. Mark is not just a public figure; he's an author, a speaker, and the cinematographer behind the iconic film Sarafina! Together, we explore the intense demands placed upon us by social media, our battles with how the public sees us, and being honest in our self-expression. Mark shares with...

This is something I'm experiencing firsthand. It's tender, and while some of me still feels low, I'm driven to share my insights with you from my recent experience of rejection. From viewing rejection as feedback to cultivating resilience and prompting deep self-reflection, in this episode I share 5 learnings that have reshaped my perspective. So, if you're facing rejection, remember—it's not defeat but a chance for growth and transformation. Don't forget to pre-order my book, The Third...

Today I want to revisit an episode I did that focused on the importance of rejecting urgency culture. I share some things I'm doing personally and riff out loud with you as well. From honouring my own timeline and why it seems like we are all in such a rush, why I'm dedicated to simplifying and going deeper, to how I'm learning to set realistic expectations without compromising my standards. Don't forget to pre-order my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of...

I have my thoughts about what it means to love and be loved in the modern world. What's the real cost of swiping right? Is there truth to attachment styles or has it become a (Western) collective obsession? Is the dating scene really as demotivating and disturbing as people say? In this special episode, I'm joined by someone I've wanted to speak to for a while; the ever-insightful Rebecca Archer. Rebecca, a poet whose words bleed raw emotion, shares her battlefield stories from the front...

Do you keep avoiding help from others? I'm guilty as charged. In this episode, I'm exploring the obstacles of seeking help and the profound challenge of accepting it. I've battled with this myself, particularly when I was neck-deep in writing my book. I had this mind-blowing psychedelic trip, coupled with deep meditation, and it hit me like a ton of bricks—the lesson of opening up, of not letting this hyper-independence trap me in a "golden cage." It's about the give-and-take, the law of...

Have you ever wondered what it's like to confront your deepest struggles head-on? Today, I'm revisiting a past episode where I talk about my letter addressing my battle with alcoholism, a letter I wrote in 2017. This letter is a testament to my growth and the crucial role of self-acceptance in my life. I've learned that honesty isn't just a policy; it's the foundation of who I am and who I've become. Join me as I honour the resilience of my past self and dive deep into a conversation about...

As we journey through life, clashes in values and beliefs are inevitable, often leading to the discomfort of disappointing others. Especially in the realm of online interactions, where diverse perspectives collide, staying true to our integrity can sometimes mean disappointing those around us. In this episode I explore how the pervasive influence of cancel culture amplifies the fear of disappointing others, stifling our authenticity and forcing conformity. But here's the truth: embracing the...

I am so, so deeply grateful for everybody who has pre-ordered my book, The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in The Age of Intolerance. Your support means so much to me! In this episode, I'm discussing something that over the past 8 years, I've grappled with and have refined as time has gone by - this notion of managing who has access to you. Be it friends, romantic partners, family, clients, audience, colleagues, even internet strangers…I covered it all! It’s easy to think that when I...

Ever walked into a room and felt an INSTANT connection with someone without a single word exchanged? That magnetic energy, that unspoken charisma – that's the power of seduction beyond the obvious. In this episode, I'm stripping away the sexual connotations of the term 'seduction' to explore how it applies to our everyday lives. It's not about manipulation - it's about authentically refining who you are. From feeling something after watching an ad to leaving a memorable impression on...

In this mini-sode I give you an update on all things book, love, life, and VOICE. Although you might not think it, there’s an area where I still experience STRONG RESISTANCE when it comes to activating my voice. Singing. Yes, SINGING. I didn’t expect I would be sharing this in today’s episode but here we are. If you sometimes find it difficult to put effort into things you're passionate about too, and fear is holding you back, this episode is also for you. I’ll be encouraging you to embrace...

WE ARE BACK! As we step into the new year, join me as I riff out loud and explore how our social circles influence our personal success; whether we realise it or not. And whether we LIKE it or not. In this episode, I remind you to reflect on the relationships you keep close to you and get honest about how they are helping you expand, or how they might be keeping you stagnant. I had a lot of fun with this one! And some truths were brought to the table, but what’s new…😉 RESOURCES...

Ever wondered how each new experience moulds the person you're evolving into? Join me in a powerful exploration of self-awareness and transformation. As decisions about who we are in this world unfold, fundamental changes ripple through our beings, shaping our growth. In this episode, I invite you to witness the beauty of conscious evolution, unravel the language of outgrowing, and reflect honestly on who and what we've outgrown.  It's also the perfect time to reflect, grow, and reject the...

What happens when you start defining yourself, and your way of being by your attachment style? Do they confine us, creating a trap we unwittingly fall into? In this episode I'm exploring if placing a label on ourselves does us any justice. I share my journey, navigating the nuances of Dismissive Avoidant and Fearful Avoidant styles, exploring solitude and the rollercoaster of ambivalence in relationships. It's a journey that questions the very essence of attachment style labels. So if...

Join me in exploring the impactful journey of H, a listener navigating entitlement during pivotal life moments. H shares her experience with entitlement during pregnancy and childbirth. This episode explores the broader theme of politicizing intimate aspects of our lives and why it's important to stand firm in your experience and not allow others to dictate or deny it. I also opened up about my challenges in maintaining authenticity within my sexual wellness company, Cherry Revolution....

These past few months have felt heavy. After writing my book for what seemed to be going on for 3 years, I had to rewrite it as I realised I was writing the wrong book. So that's where I've been, rewriting my book which is now in the safe hands of my publishers. I also want to update you on the on-and-off relationship with my ex, the person I love the deepest and share my insights in real-time. So tune in and let's catch up. Resources Mentioned: #048 - Grieving someone who’s still alive...

No matter what we say or do, there's always someone ready to dissect, criticise, or just plain misinterpret us. But should we let that silence us? Absolutely not. In this episode I ask you some important questions to help you see where you are holding back, censoring your thoughts, or watering down your message because you fear being misunderstood. It's something many of us grapple with, especially in today's climate where even everyday conversations can feel like minefields. So, join me as...

Lately, I've been thinking about the labels society places on us. You might know me as a content creator or influencer, but that's just scratching the surface. My work delves deep, involving research and mentorship. I'm all about exploring self-sabotage and self-censorship and understanding the human experience. For fellow creatives and entrepreneurs, here's a friendly tip: Ditch the "content" label. Take breaks from social media, hone your craft, and live your ideas. Don't rush or mimic...

Prepare yourself for a thought-provoking exploration of three profound life lessons that shaped my path. Last year Steven Bartlett created a Self Development Coaching project, and I was one of the selected coaches. I led the segment on mental health and different elements of spirituality, but through the lens of very grounded, realistic, sustainable self-improvement. I recently found many of the notes and lessons I did within that program. There were around 12 lessons, so today I'm sharing...

Ever wondered what it feels like to get feedback that challenges you to truly be yourself? Well, I've had that experience recently when I received feedback on the first draft of my book. My editors were quick to point out that I was holding back in my writing. Sure, it stung a bit, but I've come to realise the value of their honesty. Let's be real, sharing openly about this is important. As a writer, I've come to understand the power of seeking feedback. Although I'll admit, at first, it...

Who really holds the strings to who you are? Join me as we dive deep into the captivating concept of self-reputation. I'll unravel the risks tied to seeking external validation and instead, offer a path to nurturing a self-reputation that echoes your values and authenticity. In a world where surveillance is the norm, we can't ignore the hurdles. Think of this episode as your compass, guiding you towards fortifying your self-reputation through self-awareness and introspection. Get ready to...

I'm excited to share that I've just submitted my 30,000-word manuscript to my agent, and when I hand in my manuscript to my editor in a few days, my gift to myself is going to be a three hour tantric massage. Yes, it's an erotic massage - but it truly is so much more! Many people find solace and empowerment in these practices, allowing them to rediscover intimacy and heal deep wounds. Join me as I share my personal experiences of the intense effects of these massages. I can't emphasize...

I’ve been very excited to sit down and record this episode, GIDDY even! I wanted to have a conversation that has been on my heart and mind for a while. Are our standards getting mixed up with unrealistic expectations? And how is this likely sabotaging all areas of our lives? Let’s talk about it. Join me as I share personal experiences and lessons, emphasising the importance of well-defined, grounded standards in relationships and in life. I discuss the thin line between healthy expectations...

In this episode, I had the opportunity to interview Light Watkins about his book 'Travel Light' and the fascinating concept of spiritual minimalism. We delved into the idea of choicelessness and Light explained how it can lead to greater freedom, peace, and contentment. True minimalism starts from within, decluttering not just physical spaces but also minds and beliefs. I wholeheartedly recommend listening to this remarkable conversation, as it offers profound insights that will leave you...

Have you ever stopped to think about all the challenges and struggles we face in our lives? From financial difficulties to relationship issues and personal growth, it can feel like we're constantly navigating through a storm. But here's the thing - it's okay not to have it all figured out. In fact, it's important to be honest with ourselves and give ourselves the grace to take things one step at a time. I want you to know that you're not alone in your struggles. We all have our battles, and...