We’re talking about the Objective Personality Social Types this week with Ikram. We’ve been typed #3 for DG, Alexandra, and John. #2 for Emeka. #4 for Ikram. — (7:55) *Gasp* John is taking responsibility / intro to OPS social roles— (14:18) What does flex mean?— (20:03) Flex vs friends— (27:39) Friend saviors get their flex through connections with people / Flex alienates friends— (31:44) Distribution of social roles / Jesus is a #1?— (34:01) What is responsibility vs specialization — (40:01)...

Live from Brooklyn backrooms answering your questions.Watch here: https://youtu.be/WlHQcWEglks — (2:32) How important is trifix order?— (12:10) What feels like boring chores to the sexual instinct?— (17:31) How DG experiences his lines of connection as a 9 with no attachment fixes— (25:26) What cakes would each of us bake?— (30:13) How to rizz up the 3-7 stem?— (36:56) What are the holy ideas and higher centers?— (45:10) Insights from the baaaack roooommms - attachment is the seed for object...

The wet heart types. Live pod this weekend. Be on the lookout for details. — (4:35) Assertive hexad types being out of touch with their shame— (6:26) Shame is not a great word for what the heart types are experiencing / identity needing to feel special— (12:57) Heart types needing to reinforcing pictures to feel a felt sense of specialness— (15:17) Confusing heart type shame with feeling ashamed / shame is the emotion of being out of alignment with value— (25:30) 4 and 4-fix shame— (34:37)...

The fuming and stewing gut types. — (4:03) Alexandra wants to be led when she’s in the mood— (9:05) David is very angry at the sun— (16:49) And the plague of bread people— (20:35) Alexandra finally admits she has a rage problem— (30:30) Emeka’s rage is the fuel that keeps the car running people over— (34:25) 8 vs 1 fix anger and boundaries / the games begin once the 8 lets you in— (42:41) 4s and 8s are drama queen inversions of each other— (45:59) The cutting denigrating rage of 1s— (50:02)...

Delving into the fear and anxiety of the head types. — (3:57) 5 fear of being contaminated— (10:40) Avarice is a sense that personhood isn’t robust enough to be fully exposed in the world— (11:30) The 8 line to 5 and the 2 line to 8— (16:30) Ways to work on 5 avarice— (19:18) 5 fear as one way endless monologues— (24:17) How Emeka and John experience 5 fix fear— (33:52) 6 fear of fear itself— (37:02) 6 considering all possibilities / fear disguised as responsibility and logic— (46:48) 6...

— (8:25) Riffing on new terms for social / resonance and frequency— (15:08) Social as a 3D matrix / What is the big deal with what social types are looking for?— (20:15) We feel social chemistry with those who we feel regulated by— (23:17) Social boners and turn ons / the sensation of social in the body— (26:42) Social-blinds aren’t updating social impressions as the connection evolves— (30:03) Do the social-blinds confuse sexual attraction with socal attraction?— (39:52) How do the...

A sexual 4w5 and a social 4w3 walk into a bar. — (4:21) Vulnerability and sensitivity as a 4— (7:21) The difference between 9 sensitivity and 4 sensitivity— (10:55) Type 4 is over-individuating to express singular identity— (13:30) Joseph won’t laugh at your jokes / 4 image ego self-editing and controlling natural heart expression— (16:37) John’s 4 frustration shows up in his romantic relationship and creativity— (21:05) The crippling self-limiting image rigidity of 4— (25:06) Joseph’s social...

A horde of social types attempt a roast of the social-blind legends. — (7:55) Let the roasts begin — (10:50) Creeps and Homewreckers— (13:19) The limited personas and channels of engagement of social blinds— (14:33) Joseph’s social 4 impressions of working with social blinds / social blinds being terrible judges of people— (20:21) Podcasting in the dark vs the social of communicating and being perceived on video— (29:36) Are the social types actually roasting the social-blinds? / social blind...

We’re joined by two social types, Ikram & Kristen, to explore the pain and suffering of the social instinct. — (12:33) Post-zone reflections on social pain and longing— (16:44) Potential dangers in social space— (22:48) The naivety of social-blinds with the social game— (26:50) Why people tear others down to prop themselves up— (29:47) Social is how we project our inner identities and shadows out into the world— (36:18) Dysfunctional social sabotage and attachment dynamics— (40:29) Our...

Introducing the attachment support group, brought to you by Alexandra and Josh. — (12:36) Why do attachment types need support?— (14:18) A brief overview on what attachment types are— (20:17) What accountability means for attachment types / waking up from self-abandonment — (29:00) Attaching vs preference / the gift of attachment is flexibility— (33:52) The value of a group that facilitates self-seeing and self-holding— (40:17) A space to witness and acknowledge grief— (42:30) BHE is a hexad...

We’re back roasting the crackhead and lovebomb babies of the enneagram. — (22:17) Why do we call self-pres blinds babies? / Overly dependent on the attention of other people— (26:24) Self-pres is self-regulation and self-containment. Not just paying your bills and taking care of yourself— (29:54) Difficulty making long term choices / a blindspot for one’s limitations— (34:18) Sp-blinds identifying with their capacity to be affected by others— (37:30) Sp blinds still stuck in high school /...

Watch the live pod on youtube:https://youtu.be/lhaDNCSuwW4 — (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group— (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group— (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise — (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns— (53:51) Courtney finding the group and her object relations contributions— (59:12) How COVID led to the first zone and John met Alexandra— (1:04:48) How did Josh find the...

— (10:40) Welcome to our roast of the sx-blinds— (15:52) so/sp are way too serious and stuck-up about relational categories and context— (21:40) so/sp’s do it with their gloves on in the museum — (25:57) The power drive of so/sp / lineage and geneology?!— (30:35) What we like about so/sp reluctantly— (37:38) The roast of sp/so begins - the fixation on stuff— (43:52) sp/so collectors and hoarders— (49:30) sp/so’s killing the vibe with their day to day minutia and gross body stuff— (1:03:16)...

— (6:30)  Peering into the catfish void and the starvation of connection— (13:10) The failure of social in the west and the nuclear family / catfish as an internet age phenomenon — (19:50) Soft white underbelly and the horrors that arise from a lack of community— (23:42) What’s in it for the catfisher?— (27:13) We’re all catfishing a little bit out of fear of rejection— (31:15) The thirst to reveal ourselves to someone and falling in love with AI— (33:18) Our wounds and missing pieces make us...

Our reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off. — (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4— (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star — (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection— (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s?— (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a cameleon?— (40:49) Positive vs reactive wing— (46:58) Superego offerings of 3w2— (49:24) What cringes Nancy out about other 3w4s— (52:50) 3w2s ask...

— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last— (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts— (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s — (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood— (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like— (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable negotiators — (48:56) Gut lasts are unhinged — (50:42) Head lasts are impulsive creatures— (54:40) Heart lasts are dead inside Support and fund...

— (1:27) Am I just attracted to 9s because they’re soft?— (12:41) ♫ The softest place on earth ♫— (16:53) What do people like about hooking up with 8s or 1s?— (25:33) How do I help my 7 process grief?— (34:08) The fixated 9 crusade around healing— (39:38) Why are people so obsessed with image when image types are so rare? / what’s it like to have each center last?— (52:33) Center lasts and different O.R. last episodes coming soon— (54:48) Important philosophical discussions on milfdom Check...

— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra— (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers— (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy— (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual?— (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / sexual is seeking or creating polarities that remix boundaries— (36:44) Gender neutrality vs polarity / Sexual is engaging the tension between various...

Super spreader hormoan instinct talks. — (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want— (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk— (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism — (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawing from Aztec mythology culturally integrates more sexual instinct— (29:06) Sex at Dawn and the creation of monogamy / the sexual threat of...

Dearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct  — (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct— (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda— (15:03) Zooming out and talking about the relationship meets non-negotiable needs of love / sp/sx wants a smaller and smaller intimacy cave— (21:09) Overcoming the fear...

Deserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories. — (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures— (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment create an unexpected relationship with certain instincts / Emeka and food— (22:01) Digging up John’s leftover concept of each instinct having a close vs...

Part 2 baby. — (1:39) The grounded reality of this cult vs the ridiculousness of Holy Hell— (7:45) We’re all vulnerable to sources of idealized parenting— (19:25) The school was for outcasts primed to fall for a parental manipulator— (28:35) 9’s attaching to a story as a form of maintaining psychological comfort— (31:34) We should watch Holy Hell and Wild Country— (39:08) Applications to become part-time BHE slaves are now open Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new...

Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu and get into this. — (5:13) Larry is an 8w9 862 Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly— (9:18) What’s so compelling about a type like Larry?— (13:00) The government and military as social hooks used to manipulate victims— (24:43) Setting an attachment landscape and opening the door for alternative realities with ‘taking responsibility’— (29:53) 8’s leveraging victimhood and why Larry is sp/so— (44:29) Shaping reality with relentless alternative memories / attachment as a survival...

Check out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S). Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week. — (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast— (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB— (14:51) Blindspots and tidalwaves / Emeka’s Sleep-last— (17:46) Alexandra and John’s Play vs Play-last relationship dynamic / Emeka’s Play and De as a reclusive 8...

Cont’d. — (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast— (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights— (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language— (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen— (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing the thing it most needs - the sexual instinct— (31:15) Finding your attraction orientation apart from what’s generally accepted as attractive Check out...