Watch the live pod on youtube:https://youtu.be/lhaDNCSuwW4 — (18:41) What we’ve contributed to the enneagram as a group— (23:18) Josh leads us through piecing together the history of the group— (37:44) DG’s instinct cards and the birth of the collage exercise — (44:34) How Alexandra found the group and typing meltdowns— (53:51) Courtney finding the group and her object relations contributions— (59:12) How COVID led to the first zone and John met Alexandra— (1:04:48) How did Josh find the...

— (10:40) Welcome to our roast of the sx-blinds— (15:52) so/sp are way too serious and stuck-up about relational categories and context— (21:40) so/sp’s do it with their gloves on in the museum — (25:57) The power drive of so/sp / lineage and geneology?!— (30:35) What we like about so/sp reluctantly— (37:38) The roast of sp/so begins - the fixation on stuff— (43:52) sp/so collectors and hoarders— (49:30) sp/so’s killing the vibe with their day to day minutia and gross body stuff— (1:03:16)...

— (6:30)  Peering into the catfish void and the starvation of connection— (13:10) The failure of social in the west and the nuclear family / catfish as an internet age phenomenon — (19:50) Soft white underbelly and the horrors that arise from a lack of community— (23:42) What’s in it for the catfisher?— (27:13) We’re all catfishing a little bit out of fear of rejection— (31:15) The thirst to reveal ourselves to someone and falling in love with AI— (33:18) Our wounds and missing pieces make us...

Our reluctant cult leader finally decided to pick up where she left off. — (12:24) Alexandra’s intro to 3w2 vs 3w4— (16:06) 3w4 self as exemplary object vs 3w2 self as interpersonal star — (18:07) 3w4 bitchy frustration vs 3w2 schmoozy rejection— (32:00) Are 3w2’s better manipulators than 3w4’s?— (38:00) 3w2 vs 3w4 singers / which is more of a cameleon?— (40:49) Positive vs reactive wing— (46:58) Superego offerings of 3w2— (49:24) What cringes Nancy out about other 3w4s— (52:50) 3w2s ask...

— (4:16) What it’s like to have frustration, rejection, or attachment last— (14:26) Emeka’s rejection/frustration refined border freakouts— (23:16) DG & Alexandra are rejection last ghostly 9s — (25:22) John’s frustration/rejection locked down non-personhood— (32:54) What 4s with more attachment are like— (42:55) Attachment/rejection are stable negotiators — (48:56) Gut lasts are unhinged — (50:42) Head lasts are impulsive creatures— (54:40) Heart lasts are dead inside Support and fund...

— (1:27) Am I just attracted to 9s because they’re soft?— (12:41) ♫ The softest place on earth ♫— (16:53) What do people like about hooking up with 8s or 1s?— (25:33) How do I help my 7 process grief?— (34:08) The fixated 9 crusade around healing— (39:38) Why are people so obsessed with image when image types are so rare? / what’s it like to have each center last?— (52:33) Center lasts and different O.R. last episodes coming soon— (54:48) Important philosophical discussions on milfdom Check...

— (13:24) Noticing people from an attraction lens / sexual blind weird algebra— (18:32) Trying to describe what attraction is without using social signifiers— (25:09) The chemical infection of the sexual instinct and the drug analogy— (28:03) What happens after the merging of sexual?— (30:55) The mercurial growth element of sexual chemistry / sexual is seeking or creating polarities that remix boundaries— (36:44) Gender neutrality vs polarity / Sexual is engaging the tension between various...

Super spreader hormoan instinct talks. — (7:47) Nancy chimes in on instinct love languages and what men really want but won’t say they want— (13:01) Sex work revealing missing needs and desires / strip club talk— (20:28) What’s up with America’s hyper-sexuality vs sexual conservatism — (25:52) Culture as an instinctual meme / Latin culture drawing from Aztec mythology culturally integrates more sexual instinct— (29:06) Sex at Dawn and the creation of monogamy / the sexual threat of...

Dearly beloved / we’re gathered here today / to love through this thing called instinct  — (2:59) We make our dominant instinct a religion / how we manipulate what love is through our dominant instinct— (5:47) Integrating the social instinct’s verbal-contextual expressions of love / Alexandra’s ‘love cup’ religion propaganda— (15:03) Zooming out and talking about the relationship meets non-negotiable needs of love / sp/sx wants a smaller and smaller intimacy cave— (21:09) Overcoming the fear...

Deserted by the others, the two lone swordsmen continued into the abyss of the unknown. With only memories of forgotten ancient texts to guide them. These are their stories. — (5:25) The role of cultural differences in the expression of type / confrontational blunt 9s from other cultures— (12:20) How our early life experiences and environment create an unexpected relationship with certain instincts / Emeka and food— (22:01) Digging up John’s leftover concept of each instinct having a close vs...

Part 2 baby. — (1:39) The grounded reality of this cult vs the ridiculousness of Holy Hell— (7:45) We’re all vulnerable to sources of idealized parenting— (19:25) The school was for outcasts primed to fall for a parental manipulator— (28:35) 9’s attaching to a story as a form of maintaining psychological comfort— (31:34) We should watch Holy Hell and Wild Country— (39:08) Applications to become part-time BHE slaves are now open Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new...

Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu and get into this. — (5:13) Larry is an 8w9 862 Wouldn’t Hurt a Fly— (9:18) What’s so compelling about a type like Larry?— (13:00) The government and military as social hooks used to manipulate victims— (24:43) Setting an attachment landscape and opening the door for alternative realities with ‘taking responsibility’— (29:53) 8’s leveraging victimhood and why Larry is sp/so— (44:29) Shaping reality with relentless alternative memories / attachment as a survival...

Check out our prior episodes on objective personality if you haven’t already. John - Ti/Se-CS/P(B) / Alexandra - Se/Fe-PB/S(C) / David - Te/Se-PC/S(B) / Emeka - Se/Te-PC/B(S). Watch Stolen Youth on Hulu for next week. — (5:59) 3 Playas vs John’s Play-last / What is Blast— (10:28) Play is co-creative real time learning / PC vs PB— (14:51) Blindspots and tidalwaves / Emeka’s Sleep-last— (17:46) Alexandra and John’s Play vs Play-last relationship dynamic / Emeka’s Play and De as a reclusive 8...

Cont’d. — (6:02) This is now a 9 enabling self-pres podcast— (11:26) Become a hope machine / lift some weights— (18:14) We should do an episode on the self-pres love language— (21:11) John’s sleep vs Emeka’s sleep last as recluse cavemen— (26:29) Tackling big life topics through the lens of the enneagram / most relationship advice is missing the thing it most needs - the sexual instinct— (31:15) Finding your attraction orientation apart from what’s generally accepted as attractive Check out...

We’re talking about love, relationships, and sex again. — (4:34) Friendship jealousy and what causes it— (13:38) The tension between expecting too much from a romantic partner and not expecting much at all— (17:05) Western isolation puts more pressure on romantic relationships— (20:25) The need to be seen in a relationship and what it means— (24:26) All About Love by bell hooks defines love as an action to prioritize the other’s well-being— (32:06) We can only love or see an other to the...

Riffing and winging it. — (4:25) Josh’s new object relational theory of the centers and the superego triad— (10:20) The hornevians might explain why certain types are next to each other— (11:18) 8w9 vs 8w7 centralized vs decentralized leverage— (17:06) 1w9 vs 1w2 — (30:25) 4w5/5w4 ephemeral self-invention— (44:00) The hell of the double hexad types— (47:43) Plans for more soul intercourse episodes Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram offerings at her new website...

Haven’t done one of these in a while. Applications to join the cult of cream are open today. — (10:32) Someone had a lot to be sorry for— (11:28) Borderline personality disorder, suicide, and 4 / mental illness and enneagram types — (18:08) Our body impressions of the heart types— (26:07) Heart types are rare / why are most people 6 or 9 and why are 4s so rare?— (35:37) We’re the most unsuccessful cult leaders and grifters in existence / 49 reasons to join Alexandra’s cult of cream— (45:12)...

Picking up where we left off with Nancy’s homecoming. Then onwards to David and Alexandra. — (8:04) David’s shares a haunting dream he had after his mother’s death— (17:03) Kristen probes David for more and interprets what be might represented— (36:41) Alexandra shares a dream she had about bleeding middle fingers on subways— (41:27) Kristen draws the connections between middle fingers and saturn; which is associated with austere standards and discernement To book Kristen for a dream...

We’re not crying you’re crying. Kristen is back to psychoanalyze our dreams and traumas. Starting with Nancy. — (10:37) 9s sleeping all the damn time / hit up the Loveline if you’re an insomniac 9— (15:38) Nancy tells us the story of her traumatic disaster move to the Netherlands — (30:34) And how it directly relates to a juicy dream she had about a beheading— (41:01) Kristen interprets the competency themes in Nancy’s dream— (50:27) And being confronted with the feeling and disappointment of...

— (3:16) Nancy shares a dream with a recurring theme / what the unconscious is trying to tell us with a repeated dream— (10:59) Compensatory dreams / John’s social last dreams and parasocial drama— (23:32) Working with Kristen on dreams— (31:39) Exploring how dreams are shaped by instincts— (35:43) Alexandra’s persistent dreams about women To book Kristen for a dream interpretation you can reach her at:https://www.inkstoryrebel.com/services-1 Check out Alexandra’s astrology-enneagram...

Our dreamlord Kristen is with us this week to discuss exploring the corridors of our nocturnal psychodramas. — (9:48) How Kristen got into dream interpretation— (14:52) Dreams are a way to open up a dialogue with your unconscious and push the ego off its pedestal — (19:14) Collective projecting from a lack of a transcendent function— (21:48) What does dreamwork add to understanding your enneagram type?— (26:41) Every person or object in a dream is an aspect of yourself— (28:13) Emeka’s...

Josh is back to unveil his profound new model of the centers and object relations from a point of view of development. This is major. — (13:30) Josh explains how his variant model of object relations and the centers came about / issues with the protecting and nurturing object relational framework — (20:03) Ken Wilber’s holonic theory of consciousness and the centers as a sequence of development through sensation, gaze, and symbol— (27:48) Object relational affects are oriented to the milieu...

Join us on our annual end of year drunk pod looking back on 2022’s ups and downs. — (7:13) Parasocial discord and drawing lines in the sand— (15:23) Looking back on the vibe of 2022 and the growth of the pod— (23:38) The year of Emeka slowing down / DG’s hot nerd creative updates— (32:44) Revisiting Alejohndra conscious sex talk and the sexual instinct— (50:51) Nancy getting married and moving halfway across the globe— (59:26) Favorite episodes and ideas for 2023 — (1:07:04) John and Josh’s...

Picking up where we left off with Josh and Spiral Dynamics. — (1:38) The conflict of what it means to help people with the enneagram from the worldviews of different stages of development— (7:33) Yellow distinguishes between and integrates interior subjectivity and external objectivity— (12:53) DG’s 7-fix ain’t got time for yellow— (16:31) Yellow makes finer distinctions beyond Green’s assumption that everyone’s whole— (20:43) The limitations of Yellow is the insistence that everyone can...

BHE 135 - THE DEVELOPMENTAL ENNEAGRAM [PART I] - Josh Lavine Josh of What It’s Like To Be You is hangin with us this week. He broke down how the enneagram is missing and needs a developmental* model (*Not Riso’s Levels of Development) — (14:44) Our understanding of the enneagram evolves with the development of an introspective eye— (16:51) The ability to see oneself is a developmental achievement / words have different interpretations and meanings for each stage of development— (19:50) Riso’s...