In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we dive deep into financial codependency—a pattern where you feel obligated to support others financially, even to your own detriment. We explore its roots, how it manifests in various relationships, and the emotional toll it takes.  You'll learn about practical steps to break free from this cycle, including a 90-day no-contact financial challenge to help reset your finances and reclaim your well-being. We also provide resources to support your journey,...

In this episode of the Black Girls Heal podcast, I talk about the power of "no contact" as a tool to finally break free from toxic relationships. You know how it goes – you finally decide to walk away, but somehow, you end up back in contact with that person who just brings you down. It's frustrating, right? Well, here's the thing: most setbacks in our healing journeys happen because we keep connections with folks who are bad for us. In the episode, I'll walk you through four key steps to...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we revisit the topic of 'No Contact' and the seven-day 'Don't Text Them: Sit on Your Effing Hands Challenge.' This discussion is aimed at those caught in addictive or trauma-bonded relationships, whether romantic, familial, or friendships.  We discuss topics like recognizing toxic relationships, the importance of breaking the cycle for self-healing, and the benefits of having a support system during this process.  We also touch on the new 90-Day No...

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In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the challenging yet liberating process of surrender and letting go. We explore themes such as grieving, setting boundaries, and focusing on self-love, supported by a poignant poem 'Just Let Them' by Cassie Phillips.  We also go into the three key takeaways: realizing you can't control others, being open to love and connection, and mastering the art of balanced surrender.  Additionally, we introduce various support resources including the...

In this episode of Black Girls Heal, we discuss the crucial topic of feeling deserving and why it's essential for receiving the love you desire. We explore how internalizing negative beliefs and trauma can lead to feeling undeserving, even when we outwardly affirm our worth.  You'll learn practical steps to identify the emotional 'weeds' that choke your growth, including energy-draining relationships and perfectionist tendencies. Additionally, we discuss the importance of self-love,...

In today’s episode, we get into the topic of the fear of being seen, exploring the underlying trauma that leads to avoidance behaviors and vulnerability in relationships.  We discuss the common thoughts, actions, and patterns that arise when individuals struggle with feeling exposed and unworthy. Additionally, we address the impact of childhood trauma, emotional neglect, and exclusion on the development of these fears.  Episode 249 also highlights the symptoms of low self-worth and how they...

In this episode, I discuss the importance of moving from negative relationship patterns to positive, healed, and love-filled connections. I also talk about the common pitfalls of remaining in negative relational spaces, the impacts of childhood emotional neglect, and the signs of low self-worth.  You’ll get to know what it means to reach a baseline in emotional health and relationships and, ultimately, how to grow towards a healed and loved woman status. Listen to get actionable advice on...

In this episode, let’s discuss the importance of recognizing and celebrating personal growth. Reflecting on past conversations with coaching students, I explore three key signs that show how much you've evolved: pausing before reacting even when hurt, becoming open to alternative viewpoints, and feeling and validating your emotions. Alongside these insights, we discuss the impact of sharing emotions with safe individuals and re-evaluating your social circle for healthier relationships.  We...

In this episode, I go over the 4 seasons of healing everyone will go through when healing from unresolved trauma and relationship issues. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their...

In this episode, I review the first 3 steps to heal from love avoidance and the issues that get in the way. Click here to download the free roadmap Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their...

In this episode, I talk about 4 examples of emotional abuse that may set us up to be vulnerable to love addicted and love avoidant relationships. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their...

As a love addict, it can be easy to slip into pushing away the love we want by holding on a little bit too tightly. In this episode, I review 3 ways that love addicts accidentally sabotage their relationships. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the...

This episode for anyone who is experiencing or has experienced a friendship breakup that has been hard to recover from. I hope these 7 tips help you move forward and find friendships that help you feel fulfilled and whole. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here...

If you've gone through heartbreak and are feeling jaded or "over" love, in this episode I go over 3 ways for you to work through your jadedness to give love a chance again when you're ready. Click here to join the free masterclass Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the...

Every person healing from love addiction goes from 5 stages of feeling stuck and confused to Healed and Loved. In this episode, I review each of these stages, their roadblocks and what one can expect at each stage. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to...

In this episode, I review a typically undetectable way that some narcissists love bomb to help those who may be susceptible to this style of seduction be more aware. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced...

In this episode, Shena talk about why some of us may settle in relationships when we feel they are giving us what we are looking for in spite of warning and danger signs. Join us as our upcoming workshop: Mastering the No Contact Process & Letting Go Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event...

I have had to put a lot of measures in place to continue to grow and thrive as a neurodivergent person and use it as my superpower. Per listener request, in this episode, I review the top 15 things I do to help me stay on track with my Adult ADHD. Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in...

Hi all! I'm taking a mini break! I'll see y'all in the next episode! Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their replacements   CONNECT WITH US...

In this episode, Shena goes over 3 questions recovering love addicts can ask themselves if they are wanting to stay friends with an ex? Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and fulfilled   Can’t find a program, freebie, or event mentioned in the podcast? Click here to find the upgraded versions of previously announced programs and their...

In this episode, I continue teaching about money trauma and it's intersection into love addiction and love avoidance cycles. Today's episode focuses on Money Hoarding, Compuslive Spending, Workaholism, Financial (Co)dependency & Enabling, and Financial Infidelity. Click here to register for the Heal Your Money Trauma Workshop Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love...

In this episode, Shena talks about money trauma and how it may manifest as underearning - a process that has nothing to do with the amount of money you make but if you are hiding, self sabotaging, or prioritizing others' needs over your own. Click here to register for the Heal Your Money Trauma Workshop Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help you become love balanced, love available, and...

In this episode, Shena explores with Candice Christiansen, how does one cope and move forward when they have experienced sexual abuse from a woman. Candice shares resources and validation for those who may related to this experience. Click here to register for the Cutting Wounds with Your Mother Wounds Click here to see an overview of all Winter Workshops Ready to heal your Love Addiction & Love Avoidance? Click here to join our The Recovery School, my signature coaching program to help...