I get a lot of questions about what it looks like to feel what’s arising.  How do we welcome what’s here? How can we fully immerse in what is? These are great questions that aren’t easily addressed by more talking about it; so in this episode, I walk you through an experiential exploration. This was very intuitive

Richard Lang was a recent guest speaker in The Little School of Big Change community. This episode is a portion of our time with him. This conversation with Richard is an investigation into your true nature. From a few feet away, you appear to others as a person. You appear to them, so you’re told,

It can be heartbreaking to feel as if you “have it” – clear seeing, a buzzing energy, emotional freedom, a loss of identity –and then to feel as if you “lose it”. And, this is what you signed up for. It must be this way. This is awakening, not the always happy picture your mind

We’re always getting what we most need because what we “get” is our own projection.  It’s a projection from and as an insecure identity. That’s what our triggers are – the areas where the self we take ourselves to be feels threatened and insecure.This is why it seems that we are victimized by the same

In this episode I have an amazing conversation with Dr. Kathleen Perry about the most important exploration: Who am I? Kathleen shares how being curious about identity is fundamental to everything we’re up to and everything we’re up against. Nothing shifts the way life looks and feels the way an exploration of identity can.Kathleen discusses

Stephanie has struggled with bulimia for over 20 years.  In this short conversation, we look at what an urge really is. Do we know? Can we even determine that? Does Stephanie know what it is she’s been running from, what’s been running her around?As we explore this together, Stephanie begins to open to the possibility

A listener wrote in with some amazing questions. She shared her yearning to be at peace and the way she’s taking in so much content in the hopes of having some sort of enlightenment experience that takes the suffering away. I discuss the innocent folly in this way of thinking.She shares that desperately needs a

Have you ever thought something like: “I need these feelings/thoughts to settle down so I can be present”? What if thoughts and feelings are presence? Believing they are in the way of presence leaves us feeling as if life has it wrong. It leaves us searching for the “right” way.I suspect that what we’ve been

Exploring the Me-And-My-Life Perspective begins the week of April 8th!We’ll examine how Me-And-My-Life is a point of view we’re conditioned into; a point of view that posits there is a “me”, separate from life, “having a life”.  There are many fascinating aspects of this perspective that we’ll explore–such as evidence for a separate me, choice and

In today’s episode, I dive into another set of questions from a listener–this time, all about feeling. Chris asks some amazing questions about welcoming what’s arising. We explore what is being welcomed, who or what is doing the welcoming, and much more.***Join me for a brand new 6-week course called Exploring the Me-And-My-Life Perspective.We’ll examine

One function of thought appears to be creating continuity– the sense of a solid me, traveling through time. You, your life, the thoughts, feelings, and experiences that arise, often feel familiar. We feel stuck in repeating patterns, saying things like “I’m back here again” and “This always happens to me”.  At the same time, when

This episode of Changeable was inspired by a goal one of my private coaching clients shared with me. Her goal for our coaching was to feel a particular way when faced with a particular work situation. While I don’t know that our time together can deliver what her mind says it wants–that specific  feeling–I’m pretty certain

Today’s episode explores a question from a listener who says she has been stuck in a sense of nostalgia for years. She’s convinced that it’s all downhill from here. This may be one of my favorite episodes. The questions she asks opened the door to look at what nostalgia is, what the past and future are,

In this episode, Helen Amery and I discuss “authentic expression”, or just “being as you are”. The veil that appears to be in the way of our experience of simply being as we are is perhaps not as thick as it feels. And that veil, when it’s felt, is here to be felt. We feel

This week’s episode is a talk I gave about the difference between reality and imagination. Reality is what’s alive in your sensory experience right now. It’s seeing, hearing, feeling, smelling and tasting. What also might be alive right now is thought. The content of that thought is what I’m calling imagination. It’s the concepts, images, stories

In this episode, Change Coach Alex Linares and I discuss turning toward everything. Thoughts. Questions. Doubt. Discomfort. Seeking.We explore how subtle, immediate, and complete everything is (which, not surprisingly, is the exact opposite of how thought often portrays it). We feel this completeness when we immerse in it. We discuss how questions, doubts and seeking burn

I hear a lot of people not wanting to fully give up identification with thought.  They get that not all thought is true, but some of it is, right?Or they get that thought is reflective and narrative, but we need it for practical tasks, right?These are very natural, innocent thoughts. And, there can be an

Change Coach Bill DeKramer and I talk allll about feeling in this episode! Bill shares a metaphor that came to him in his work with clients about waking a sleeping dog and how that relates to how we are with the emotions that arise.We discuss triggers, how every feeling is absolutely perfect, saying YES to

Today’s episode is the replay of a webinar I recently held with Rohini Ross on how the way we work with people and the way we mentor others to work with people is rooted in awakening from the illusion of the separate self rather than bettering things for who we take ourselves to be. I

Do you ever feel like you hate yourself?  And do you sense the stigma around that feeling? When people share with me that they hate themselves, they often lower their voice and look around as if they are about to be hauled away. But who is this self that’s hated and who is the hater? What if

It seems that much of our experience is based on unquestioned assumptions. For example, it “seems like” we’re a separate self carrying ourselves through time and space. It “seems like” we have insecurity issues, or a history of addiction, or that conversation we just had didn’t go well.But what makes it “seem like” that? What

I’ll share how I’ve been doing something I call “feeling my way through life” rather than “thinking my way through life”, and how this seems to coincide with a massive downward shift in energy and attention from the head space and mental constructs, to the body/heart/physically felt space. From this deeper sense of living from

In this episode, Betty returns to Changeable for another coaching session. Betty was coached in episode 266 around her urges to over-exercise and her beliefs that she must constantly be moving in order to be healthy.  Due to health issues related to under-nourishing and over-exercising for so long, Betty is not exercising at all right

Today’s episode of Changeable is a portion of the last LSBC call in this fall’s 6-week course.  In this call, I talk about the difference between reality and imagination. Every “reality” is a point of perspective, and I share how the explorations they’ve been doing as part of this course has simply opened up more