Resentment is your teacher, and the sooner you listen to it the better off your relationships will be. Join our Substack community Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be influencing your life and relationships. Journey with my book, "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth", also available on Amazon. Follow @alyssaaazander on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube Support the show

Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you can have heart-opening conversations that lead to productive and desired outcomes, for everyone. Join our Substack community Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be influencing your life and relationships. Journey...

Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety, and love that's been cultivated from within yourself first. Shadow Work Prompts for People-Pleasing Work with me! 😉 Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be...

We've all been there (I think 😅) where you just can't stand your partner and you're at your wits end. In this episode I share something that has helped me overcome my limited perceptions of my partner and others so that I could experience more love and joy in my life and relationships. Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth"Support the show

Taking radical personal responsibility rubs up against all of our fears of rejection and abandonment. It is, however, the very thing that can deeply heal our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode I sit down with one of my best friends, Victoria St. Fleur (@ofrootandbranch), as she shares about some of the tools and perspectives that have helped her in healing codependency in her relationships, business, and life.  Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe...

Do you find yourself defending yourself all the time? In this episode we explore our fears around being wrong and bring in new ways of relating so that we can stop going to war with the ones we love. Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth" Support the show

This week we have a vvv special guest, Patrick, who is here to share with us how his relationship has changed since he and his partner began to tend to the codependency patterns in their relationship. Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth"Support the show

Many of us have experienced periods of chaos, especially in our childhoods, and then we watch it play out in our relationships, careers, and personal lives. Years of normalizing chaos primed our nervous system to attune and be more comfortable in it. Wild paradox, right?! Chaos becomes our default state of "safety." But what if there's a path to a more abundant and genuinely safe existence? Check out this weeks podcast episode where I share about my personal path from chaos to...

I get together with my bestie, Erynn (LPC), to talk about how to hold ourselves when the fear of abandonment comes in. Basically, we share about what the healing journey REALLY looks like. (Hint hint: it's messy AF, sis) Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth"Support the show

Listen, we all experience a fear of abandonment, and in this episode I give a visual representation of this fear and how we can overcome it in our lives, relationships, and work. My intention is that you walk away feeling empowered, inspired, and lighter around the core wound of abandonment. Tap into my world! Where are you on the journey? The Student: You are learning and bringing your awareness to codependency and how it is showing up in your life. You’re doing this behind the scenes,...

I get together with another Codependency Alchemy member to talk about fears around something we don't completely understand, and how it always's comes back to safety. We talk about embracing sexuality, fears around being sexualized, being in a state of fear, and more! Tap into my world! Where are you on the journey? The Student: You are learning and bringing your awareness to codependency and how it is showing up in your life. You’re doing this behind the scenes, solo, in your own time and...

In this Alchemy episode we will be moving through a somatic practice, bringing awareness to where manipulation lives in our body so that we can access the healing this part of us needs. This episode is best listened to when you can find yourself in a safe space where you won't be interrupted. Grab this assessment 👉🏾 Are You Codependent? 10 Questions to Ask Codependency Alchemy: The Course 👉🏾 An in-depth self-paced course and workbook Join our community 👉🏾 Subscribe on Substack We're...

In this episode I coach a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. We discuss her fear around "taking a step back" from her business and a reframe for this, and I also support her in moving through a past experience that was bringing up a lot of anger, frustration, and resentment. Grab this assessment 👉🏾 Are You Codependent? 10 Questions to Ask Codependency Alchemy: The Course 👉🏾 An in-depth self-paced course and workbook Join our community 👉🏾 Subscribe on Substack We're...

In this episode, I coach a mom who is navigating old toxic relationship dynamics, and how they impact her life as a partner and a mom. So much of what we learned, and how we learned to be, growing up can have an influence on how we relate to others in our adult life. If you have ever felt responsible for everyone's emotions and feelings, this episode will help you not feel so alone, and remind you who's feelings and emotions you ARE responsible for: yours. Grab this assessment 👉🏾 Are You...

Me? Manipulate? YIKES. In this episode I get real and vulnerable with you about my first conscious exploration of manipulation, and how I started to see all the ways I WAS MANIPULATING while on a trip with my partner. You're gonna want to listen to this one, babes! Grab this assessment 👉🏾 Are You Codependent? 10 Questions to Ask Join our community 👉🏾 Subscribe on Substack Get 50% off Codependency Alchemy: The Course when you use promo code SEPTEMBER! Follow me on all the things:...

Do you notice yourself getting angry when you feel that you have clearly conveyed or communicated something with someone and then they act like it was never heard or seen? Do you feel like you are sometimes talking to a wall? If you feel disrespected and frustrated when communicating your boundaries to others then this Q&A episode is for you! Join my SUBSTACK to support the podcast, get weekly newsletters, connect with our Codependency Alchemy community, and get even MORE resources on...

When there is something we are struggling with, there is usually an underlying fear that is keeping us from doing the thing. In this weeks Alchemy episode we are going to move through the shadow work and somatic work for uncovering what those fears are, and meeting them within ourselves so that we can experience more compassion and joy in our lives and in our relationships. Join my SUBSTACK to support the podcast, get weekly newsletters, connect with our Codependency Alchemy community, and...

I loved our conversation on feeling burnt out on enforcing boundaries, and how we can shift our perception of others misunderstanding (or outright ignoring) us and our boundaries from a victim mentality to one that is empowering (hint hint: it has to do with curiosity!) Join my SUBSTACK to support the podcast, get weekly newsletters, connect with our Codependency Alchemy community, and get even MORE resources on codependency by checking out interviews I've had on other podcasts and magazine...

We hear a lot about boundaries and the importance of them, but there is this misconception that boundaries mean someone else needs to do (or not do) something in order to "respect" your boundaries... I have a hot take on this, have a listen! Join my SUBSTACK to support the podcast, get weekly newsletters, connect with our Codependency Alchemy community, and get even MORE resources on codependency by checking out interviews I've had on other podcasts and magazine features. 📚Get your copy of...

We celebrate the end of an incredible first season of Codependency Alchemy and share exciting news for the future! Codependency Alchemy has a few levels of support that you can tap into: COMMUNITY: This is a free space for anyone and everyone. I’ll share new podcast episodes, come in and do coffee chats from time to time, share features, and more! I want to use this as a space to connect with like minded souls and for you to have a space to be seen and witnessed. MEMBERSHIP: Use promo code...

Join me as we unravel the intricate layers of fears  that can often leave us feeling vulnerable and uncertain in our relationships and discover empowering ways to heal and transform it. Together, we'll explore a somatic practice that has personally supported me in my own journey of healing core wounds related to abandonment, rejection, and betrayal. Codependency Alchemy has a few levels of support that you can tap into: COMMUNITY: This is a free space for anyone and everyone. I’ll share new...

In Part Two, we invite you to embark on a somatic journey, unraveling the roots of the pattern within your own body and unlocking the keys to self-empowerment. For the optimal experience, find a quiet space where you can close your eyes, creating an environment conducive to tapping into your inner wisdom.  Codependency Alchemy has a few levels of support that you can tap into: COMMUNITY: This is a free space for anyone and everyone. I’ll share new podcast episodes, come in and do coffee...

As people with codependency tendencies, we often believe that fixing or saving others makes us good people, even viewing it as our "job." However, underneath this seemingly noble intention lies a web of unconscious beliefs that drive our need to fix or save others. In Part One of this episode we focus on addressing the shadow work, navigating the uncharted territory of our own unconscious, exposing the beliefs that drive our fixing and saving tendencies. Codependency Alchemy has a few levels...

In this episode, we emphasize the importance of getting clear on your desires and focusing on how they make you feel, rather than fixating on specific details. By tapping into the essence of your desires, you can communicate them authentically to your partner, resonating on a profound level. Discover the art of conscious conversation and collaboration as we guide you through open dialogue with your partner. Explore ways to invite their perspective and desires into the conversation, fostering...

In this thought-provoking episode of the Codependency Alchemy Podcast, we delve deep into the intricate relationship between self-doubt and fear, unraveling the hidden layers that often go unnoticed. Join us as we embark on a transformative journey to uncover the roots of self-doubt and the underlying fears that perpetuate its presence in our lives. I will guide you through the exploration of inner child and shadow work, helping you to identify where self-doubt resides within your body and...