I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for an amazing SEASON 2! This is just the beginning babes. Stay tuned. Resources: Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on InstagramCLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work...

Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supports the child's development and behavior. Resources: Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel...

What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support?  This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own topic suggestions make sure you join the Broadcast Channel by clicking here: Codependency...

When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships.  Resources: CLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMINDCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for...

I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the process. I talk about the pain, revelations, and healing that took place through some of the darkest moments of my life. Without this breakup, I wouldn't be who I am today. Resources: Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast...

I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel the familiar patterns and confront the impulse to push away someone I love.  Resources: Listen to Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & JoyCodependency Alchemy: The Membership: Subscribe on Substack for weekly shadow work prompts, exclusive podcast...

This week we're talking about insecure attachment styles! We'll uncover the roots of anxious, avoidant, and fearful avoidant attachment styles. From understanding childhood traumas to its impact on our adult relationships, we'll explore how self-awareness, vulnerability, and personal responsibility can pave the way towards earned secure attachment, fostering healthier and more fulfilling relationships. 🙏🏾 If the podcast is supporting you on your journey, please share and leave a rating or...

In this episode, Alyssa shares her personal journey of navigating conflict with a dysregulated partner while healing from an insecure attachment style. We'll talk about setting boundaries with compassion, creating space for your partner's emotions without feeling the need to "fix" them, and trusting in the resilience of both yourself and your partner. If you've struggled with anxious attachment or fearful avoidant attachment in your relationships, this episode offers gives you a real life...

In this episode Alyssa Zander will give four prompts that will help you in understanding your shadow self. Learn how staying curious opens your heart and eases the ego, paving the way for self-reflection and personal growth. Explore powerful journal prompts to meet your shadow self. Uncover the nuances of your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors by bringing curiosity to situations that trigger strong reactions.Discover how asking why certain aspects of your personality make you uncomfortable...

In this episode, Alyssa Zander addresses a listener's question on managing triggers within a current relationship. Discover three transformative strategies that have personally supported Alyssa in navigating relationship triggers, highlighting the importance of taking personal responsibility for emotional safety. Learn about how triggers often arise when we don't feel safe within ourselves, and why it is so important to take personal responsibility for our emotional safety.Self-Regulation and...

In this episode, Alyssa Zander opens up about the journey of her relationship, exploring the nuances of a healthy, consistent connection and the unexpected challenges she faced. Discover the hidden dynamics that can arise in healthy relationships, and how unresolved trauma can impact our perception of love. Show Notes: Uncover the subtle triggers that may arise and how they are invitations to heal unresolved trauma.Explore the concept of self-sabotage in healthy relationships, particularly...

In this deeply personal episode, Alyssa Zander shares a vulnerable moment of navigating through a depressive state and intrusive thoughts that sent her spiraling. Discover three empowering questions that guided Alyssa through the darkness and can support you in moments of discomfort or when you are feeling stuck. Alyssa shares some of her intrusive thoughts and the overwhelming feeling of everything falling apart. Learn how three empowering questions became the beacon of light, leading her...

Forgiveness can feel hard to reach, especially if we have been hurt or harmed in the past. I hope to offer some new perspectives in this weeks episode. Join our Substack community to get weekly shadow work prompts, monthly masterclasses and meetups, and more! Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be influencing your life and relationships. Journey with my book, "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth", also available on...

Inner child work can be messy and intense, as it was for me this week! I go into it all in this week's episode.  Join our Substack community Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be influencing your life and relationships. Journey with my book, "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth", also available on Amazon. Follow @alyssaaazander on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube Support the show

Resentment is your teacher, and the sooner you listen to it the better off your relationships will be. Join our Substack community Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be influencing your life and relationships. Journey with my book, "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth", also available on Amazon. Follow @alyssaaazander on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube Support the show

Conflicts can bring out the worst in us, and they can also be catalysts for the deepest kinds of connection and intimacy. In this episode I share about what to do to avoid the nasty cut-throat interactions so that you can have heart-opening conversations that lead to productive and desired outcomes, for everyone. Join our Substack community Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be influencing your life and relationships. Journey...

Let's talk about people-pleasing, codependency, "making other people happy brings me happiness" and where this way of relating can actually be keeping you from accessing your authentic joy. Genuine happiness in relationships is built from an overflow of trust, safety, and love that's been cultivated from within yourself first. Shadow Work Prompts for People-Pleasing Work with me! 😉 Take my Codependency Self-Assessment:  Answer these 10 questions to gauge if codependency might be...

We've all been there (I think 😅) where you just can't stand your partner and you're at your wits end. In this episode I share something that has helped me overcome my limited perceptions of my partner and others so that I could experience more love and joy in my life and relationships. Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth"Support the show

Taking radical personal responsibility rubs up against all of our fears of rejection and abandonment. It is, however, the very thing that can deeply heal our relationships with ourselves and others. In this episode I sit down with one of my best friends, Victoria St. Fleur (@ofrootandbranch), as she shares about some of the tools and perspectives that have helped her in healing codependency in her relationships, business, and life.  Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe...

Do you find yourself defending yourself all the time? In this episode we explore our fears around being wrong and bring in new ways of relating so that we can stop going to war with the ones we love. Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth" Support the show

This week we have a vvv special guest, Patrick, who is here to share with us how his relationship has changed since he and his partner began to tend to the codependency patterns in their relationship. Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth"Support the show

Many of us have experienced periods of chaos, especially in our childhoods, and then we watch it play out in our relationships, careers, and personal lives. Years of normalizing chaos primed our nervous system to attune and be more comfortable in it. Wild paradox, right?! Chaos becomes our default state of "safety." But what if there's a path to a more abundant and genuinely safe existence? Check out this weeks podcast episode where I share about my personal path from chaos to...

I get together with my bestie, Erynn (LPC), to talk about how to hold ourselves when the fear of abandonment comes in. Basically, we share about what the healing journey REALLY looks like. (Hint hint: it's messy AF, sis) Watch the podcast on YouTube Tap into my world!  Subscribe to my semiweekly Substack NewsletterGrab Codependency Alchemy: The Course Get my book "Healing the Mother Wound: With Mother Earth"Support the show