“This is a very helpful show. Thank you for the work you do! I want to preface with that before I express my main complaint about episode 76. I appreciate the “flipping the narrative” sentiment. I’ve done this multiple times myself, and it does help a lot. However, one can’t just “stop it” (a negative thought). We have such an obsession with averting negative emotions and jumping to positive ones, and this revulsion to negativity is essentially conflict avoidance. There are so many steps to take before we can jump from “negative” to “positive.” The brain doesn’t register forced positive thought as sincere, even if the intention is to retrain our thinking patterns. The subconscious/conditioned mind takes a long time to learn a maladaptive thought pattern. Don’t you think we have to accept what we are feeling in the moment, give ourselves permission to know it and really feel it— but we need good counseling to help us cope with those moments— and then we need help inquiring about what the negative feeling is telling us? I think it is at this convergence when we can slowly shift our thinking to something much healthier and more aligned with what we value. What is being suggested roughly 11 minutes into the episode is, “don’t have a negative thought. They’re icky. Don’t do that to yourself. Just stop it.” It’s very invalidating and skips a whole level of insight necessary to achieve congruence.”
AntRis1229 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/20/21