Most of us want to experience our emotions in a safe and healthy way without feeling triggered or reactive. However, in a lot of daily situations, this is much easier said than done. Becoming emotionally intelligent, especially during difficult conversations or situations can be scary. But, tapping into your own truth and learning how to show up authentically can open you up to a new way of living that you never thought possible.   Helping Women Succeed with Dr. Patty Ann Tublin Dr. Patty Ann Tublin is an internationally recognized emotional intelligence communication and relationship expert, speaker, author, executive coach and consultant. As the CEO and Founder of Relationship Toolbox LLC, a training and development coaching and consulting firm specializing in the development of emotional intelligence and other critical “soft” skills, she enhances optimal individual and group performance that impacts the bottom line. Her passionate belief that all success is based upon the ability to create, nurture and sustain healthy relationships permeates her work as an executive coach and consultant delivering workshops, seminars and leadership development.   What Is Emotional Intelligence? Dr. Patty Ann defines emotional intelligence as “your ability to identify and manage your emotions in real time so they don't manage you, and the ability to empathize with the emotions of others in real time”. While this may sound obvious, many of us don't know how we feel about situations, and can lead to negative repercussions in the long run. The easiest way to increase your emotional intelligence is to gain self awareness, self worth and self love so that you can identify your triggers and become emotionally intelligent, even in difficult situations.   Owning Your Role By taking ownership and responsibility of where you and your relationships are at today, you can start to re-engage the conversation and your relationships in order to restore trust and get to a place where you do not subscribe to toxicity. How are you working to develop your emotional intelligence, improve your relationships, and build your ability to handle tough situations? Share your thoughts and experiences with me in the comments section of the episode page.    In This Episode How to step back and understand the role you play in difficult situations (5:46) Tips for understanding your own role in situations, especially during the messy stuff (9:37) Ways to create empathy and forgiveness by developing your compassion and emotional intelligence (18:18) The first step to take when you feel yourself getting trigger by a difficult or emotional situation (31:35) How to bring your emotional intelligence to every relationship in your life (39:39) Why you need to manage your expectations and easy solutions on how to do so to avoid resentment (44:57)   Key Takeaways If You Want to Gain More Emotional Intelligence, You Can: Find self-awareness and ownership in the role you play in the relationships Create space to listen to your bodies triggers and learn the lessons necessary to move on in a healthy way Work to cultivate a level of grace, understanding, and compassion towards yourself and others   Mentioned In This Episode Use Promo Code ‘podcast’ for 10% Off Your Order at the Essentially Whole Store Here Understanding Body Language Free Guide The Trust Doctor Podcast Follow Dr. Patty Ann on Instagram   Other Resources: Check out the full show notes page Keep up with everything Dr. Mariza Follow Dr. Mariza on Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube Podcast production & marketing support by the team at Counterweight Creative   Related Episodes 321: How an Unhealed Betrayal Impacts Your Health, Work, and Relationships with Dr. Debi Silber 180: How to Overcome the Anxiety Pandemic by Managing Your Mindset with Dr. Joan Rosenberg  109: How to Tune In & Trust Your Inner Wisdom to Heal Your Body and Live Your Best Life with Melissa Kathryn