Relationship coach Jillian Turecki is here to share incredible advice to help you realize how you can choose the best partner for yourself, help you navigate your relationship, tips for getting out of relationships ruts, and more! Jillian has a gift for concise, pithy insights that can be life-changing (she has been a relationship coach for 20 years helping people transform their relationships with themselves), and in this episode, she explains why we all need discipline and curiosity, how we all can always control our own behavior, and the importance of transcending the urges of the primitive brain so you can start to become more self-aware and change your relationship patterns.  This is a great show to listen to if you’re relationship, but particularly if you are single and looking for a partner—Jillian will tell you how to break negative patterns in your relationships and avoid creating stories and getting into your head too far, why so many women often go for the Bad Boy and men often go for the Baby Bird, why resentment is the killer of relationships, and more helpful advice to help you navigate your relationships, whether you’re single or partnered up.    TIMESTAMPS: The mind is a battlefield, so we have to work hard and make a choice to do something different in life. [00:52] Most relationship problems stem from something that’s going on in our own life, like not being happy, fulfilled, satisfied, or your low self-esteem.  [05:23] We often end up telling stories about the person we are in a relationship with rather than learning good communication.  [08:07] How do we extricate ourselves from the pattern of assuming? What is the story I’m telling myself? [13:28] These problems are not part of a flawed childhood, it is just part of being human. [16:19] Everyone is in control of their behavior. [22:20] The two things that matter in a relationship is who you choose and who you show up as. [24:49] You want someone who embodies the qualities and the character traits that you need in order to function in a relationship.  [29:31] Why do some women go for the bad boy? [33:33] Some men are attracted to a woman who is a broken bird. Her vulnerability is what attracts. [39:16] In general people want to live their life with someone who loves them. [42:58] Do you have to love yourself before you can be in a relationship? [46:47] Sex complicates things.  Get to know someone on a profound level before you take it to sex and playing house with each other. [50:18] Men like to hunt and pursue women. The problem is they don’t understand what happens to the woman after he catches and beds her. [54:37]   LINKS: Brad Kearns.com Brad’s Shopping page B.rad Whey Protein Isolate Superfuel - The Best Protein on The Planet! Available in Two Delicious Flavors: Vanilla Bean and Cocoa Bean Jillian on Love JillianTurecki.com   Join Brad for more fun on: Instagram: @bradkearns1 Facebook: @bradkearnsjumphigh Twitter: @bradleykearns YouTube: @brad.kearns TikTok: @bradkearns   We appreciate all feedback, and questions for Q&A shows, emailed to [email protected]. If you have a moment, please share an episode you like with a quick text message, or leave a review on your podcast app. Thank you! Check out each of these companies because they are absolutely awesome or they wouldn’t occupy this revered space. Seriously, I won’t promote anything that I don't absolutely love and use in daily life: Peluva: Comfortable, functional, stylish five-toe minimalist shoe to reawaken optimal foot function. Mito Red Light: Photobiomodulation light panels to enhance cellular energy production, improve recovery, and optimize circadian rhythm. Use code BRAD for 5% discount! GAINSWave: Enhance sexual function with high frequency shockwave therapy. Buy 6 and get one treatment free with code: BRAD Plunge: Sensational custom-designed home cold plunge with filtered, circulating water, custom temperature sett