Hey! On today's ep I'm interviewing Fred Luskin. Fred Luskin, Ph.D. is the author of Forgive for Good and one of the world's leading researchers and teachers on the subject of forgiveness. He is the director of the Stanford Forgiveness Project, a series of research projects that investigate forgiveness methods. We talk about the impact of forgiveness on mental health, the importance of setting boundaries and challenging unenforceable rules, the need for gratitude and positive intention in the forgiveness process. RECCS OF THE WEEK ✨ Fred’s book Forgive for Good ✨ Fred’s book Forgive for Love ✨ How to Stubbornly Refuse to Make Yourself Miserable about Anything ✨ The Intention App: Train Your Brain For Happiness | The Ultimate Guide to Stop Overthinking (Part One) SHOP ✨ The Intention App - Manage Your Mind to Create a Life That Feels Good ⇢ ⁠https://www.theintentionapp.com/⁠ ✨ The Life Map - Part eBook, part digital workbook. Use The Life Map (2.0) to create your most incredible year yet ⇢ https://www.muchelleb.com.au/the-life-map CONNECT WITH ME 🧚 On Instagram ⇢ ⁠@muchelleb⁠ 🧚 TikTok ⇢ ⁠@muchelleb⁠ 🧚 Website ⇢ ⁠http://muchelleb.com.au/⁠ 🧚 Get Product / Service Support ⇢ ⁠https://muchelleb.com.au/get-support⁠ 🧚 Collaboration Enquiries ⇢ ⁠https://muchelleb.com.au/work-with-me CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction 00:26 The Benefits of Forgiveness 01:26 Forgiveness as a Mental Health Tool 02:23 The Impact of Forgiveness on the Nervous System 03:21 Understanding Forgiveness 04:18 Misconceptions about Forgiveness 05:14 Forgiveness as Making Peace with Your Life 06:14 Forgiveness as a Lifestyle 07:12 Unenforceable Rules and Boundaries 09:08 Resentment and Boundaries 13:31 Challenging Unenforceable Rules 15:27 The Addictive Quality of Anger 16:54 Constructive and Destructive Anger 19:47 The Role of Venting 22:05 Expressing Anger and Moving towards Forgiveness 23:54 The Power of Gratitude in Forgiveness 27:45 Self-Forgiveness and Forgiveness for Others 31:08 The Impact of Gratitude 33:35 Becoming a Hero in Your Forgiveness Story 36:59 The Importance of Positive Intention in Forgiveness 39:46 Starting the Forgiveness Journey 43:04 Dealing with Rumination 45:54 Recommendations and Mini Moves