In this episode, I unpack the lyrics of “Bigger Than The Whole Sky” by Taylor Swift from the 2022 album, Midnights, through the lens of grieving the loss of your childhood self after enduring trauma. Childhood ends for everyone, but if you experienced trauma at a young age, you might have been forced to grow up way too young. As an adult, we can look back at our past with sadness, grieving the ways we were prevented from being the children we were. I see “Bigger Than The Whole Sky” as an ode to this grieving process - in addressing the fact that we never deserved the trauma we went through, we can let go of shame that we somehow deserved it. This is a heartbreaking song and episode, so please be gentle with yourself when listening. Relationships take work for everyone, but when you’re a trauma survivor or living with mental illness, it’s easy to question if what you can give to the relationship is going to be enough for the other person to stay. In this episode, I consider the ways Taylor’s lyrics convey the doubt, the desire, and the compromise of dating when you’re on your healing journey.