Episodes
In this episode, I unpack the lyrics of “Bigger Than The Whole Sky” by Taylor Swift from the 2022 album, Midnights, through the lens of grieving the loss of your childhood self after enduring trauma. Childhood ends for everyone, but if you experienced trauma at a young age, you might have been forced to grow up way too young. As an adult, we can look back at our past with sadness, grieving the ways we were prevented from being the children we were. I see “Bigger Than The Whole Sky” as an ode...
Published 03/07/24
Published 03/07/24
In this episode, my guest, Marisa, of @littlebent_notbroken and I unpack the lyrics to “The Way I Loved You” from Taylor Swift’s album, Fearless (throwback!). We discuss our interpretations of the song through the lens of what it’s like to be in a new relationship after a toxic or abusive relationship. Some topics we cover in the episode are: missing someone even though they were toxic or harmful in your life. when dating after abuse feeling boring or lackluster compared to the high highs...
Published 01/12/24
In this episode, my guest Sara Aird of @breakingdowncptsd and I unpack the lyrics to “My Tears Ricochet” from Taylor Swift’s album, Folklore. We discuss our interpretations of the song through the lens of what it’s like to walk away from a toxic or abusive family system. Some topics we cover are the duality of loving people but knowing you need to walk away from them, feeling misunderstood for making boundaries, and creating your own home base. Content note: suicidal ideation is mentioned...
Published 11/02/23
In this episode, I unpack the lyrics of “The Great War” by Taylor Swift from the 2022 album, Midnights through the lens of inner child healing. Relationships take work for everyone, but when you’re a trauma survivor or living with mental illness, it’s easy to question if what you can give to the relationship is going to be enough for the other person to stay. In this episode, I consider the ways Taylor’s lyrics convey the doubt, the desire, and the compromise of dating when you’re on your...
Published 09/15/23
In this episode, my guest, Jessie, and I unpack the lyrics of “evermore” by Taylor Swift from the 2020 album, Evermore. In this episode, we explore a realistic timeline of healing from an abusive relationship - because it’s usually not all sunshine and rainbows after you leave. This episode is about the aftermath: processing the trauma, trying to figure out what exactly happened, and the cycles of self-blame when the world tells you to get over something you can’t. We discuss the complex...
Published 08/15/23
In this episode, I unpack the lyrics of “The Great War” by Taylor Swift from the 2022 album, Midnights through the lens of inner child healing. In the first verse and chorus, I interpret the battle described as the struggle for survival in an abusive relationship, reflecting on my own feelings of powerlessness and self-blame. Moving to the second verse, I discuss the challenges encountered during the healing process, including self-destructive tendencies and the difficulty of trusting safe...
Published 06/09/23
In this episode, my guest Ali Kates and I unpack the lyrics of “The Archer” by Taylor Swift from the 2019 album, Lover. In this episode, we explore the desire to express anger and fight back as a trauma survivor after realizing that attempting to secure connection through fawning or performing doesn’t work. We shed light on the very real urge to self-sabotage during moments of intense dysregulation. We discuss finding your authentic self beneath the urge to fight, flight, and fawn. Finally,...
Published 05/30/23
In this episode, my guest Sallie Keena and I unpack the lyrics of “Delicate” by Taylor Swift from the 2017 album, Reputation. In this episode, where we delve into the intricacies of relationships, particularly for folks with anxious attachment styles. We explore the nuances between patterns of dropping everything for someone who isn't reciprocating enough and the thrill of a new crush, and the fragility of friendships turning into something more. We also examine the assumptions we make when...
Published 05/04/23
In this episode, I unpack the lyrics of “Would’ve, Could’ve, Should’ve” by Taylor Swift from the 2022 album, Midnights. Content note - this episode discusses sexual abuse, grooming, and self-harm. Please take care of yourself when listening. In the episode, I recount my experience of experiencing sexual abuse as an adolescent in my first real relationship. I delve into the dynamics of being in an abusive partnership at a tender age, shedding light on the emotional coercion, violation of...
Published 04/19/23
In this episode, my guest Sara Aird of @breakingdowncptsd and I unpack the lyrics to “Death By A Thousand Cuts” from Taylor Swift’s album, Lover. We discuss our interpretations of the song, ranging from walking away from a toxic family after the accumulation of hurt becomes too much to ignore, to reckoning with the end of a “situationship” you thought was going to be more than it was.
Published 04/06/23
In this episode, I unpack the lyrics of “Right Where You Left Me” by Taylor Swift from the 2020 album, Evermore. I discuss the unrelenting nature of heartbreak, shame that arises when you aren’t able to “get over” something from the past, and how this song can be applied to the experience of trauma.
Published 03/28/23
In this episode, I unpack the lyrics of “Midnight Rain” by Taylor Swift from the 2022 album, Midnights. I talk about what it feels like to outgrow a relationship and environment, to be a deep feeler in a superficial world, and the pain of leaving behind something that was good but not right.
Published 03/14/23
In this episode, I analyze the lyrics to "Mean" by Taylor Swift to illustrate the process of emotional and verbal abuse.
Published 03/07/23