“We don't know who we are erotically. So how are we even going to communicate what we need, what we desire?” –Jaiya It’s common for sex to fizzle out the longer you stay in a relationship, but it absolutely doesn’t have to be that way. If you’re interested in living a longer, healthier life, then you need to get your sex life back on track. And finding the fix may be simpler than you think. Jaiya is an award-winning somatic sexologist who teaches people how to create their most satisfying sex lives, and has helped thousands of people transform their relationships. You may have seen her on Netflix’s Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow. Her new book Your Blueprint for Pleasure, helps you figure out your “erotic personality type.” Are you sensual, sexual, energetic, kinky, or a shapeshifter? In this episode, Jaiya explains how couples often miss each other sexually, because they’re speaking different sexual languages. She lays out the five erotic blueprints she created and explains how you can tap into the strength of yours. She gets into the health benefits of sex and how it boosts your immunity, longevity, and happiness. She also explores the issue of shame around sex and how to deal with it. Highlights 4:25 How sex improves our physical and mental health 8:01 The O vitamin - reaching orgasmic states 10:21 Troubles in the bedroom 14:49 How to get rid of shame around sex 22:10 Working on your health for better sex 26:15 Your Blueprint For Pleasure and the five erotic blueprints 36:59 Jaiya’s relationship troubles and how she fixed them 42:37 How you can uncover your erotic blueprint 47:17 Hope for sex in relationships 53:30 Becoming more attuned to our bodies through yoga, tantra and meditation 56:14 Think about your orgasm Check out: Tim’s IG Reel on sex: https://www.instagram.com/p/CormoJHIBRn/ Visit: https://missjaiya.com/ Sponsor: Shout out to our episode sponsor BiOptimizers. Check out Magnesium Breakthrough at https://bioptimizers.com/timbiohacker. Use code TIMBIOHACKER to save 10 percent. Disclaimer Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.