Seth is still away so we’re going to be inviting various people from NLG Family Law to sit in with Pete and take on some other questions about divorce. In today’s episode, attorney Sterling Lovelady joins Pete to talk about dealing with a problematic ex. The first subject they tackle is the challenging decision about whether to leave your alcoholic spouse or not when they’re in a time of need. Should you feel responsible? How do you navigate through those feelings?  The second topic they tackle focuses on situations where you might be tied into other legal proceedings with the person you’re trying to divorce. Maybe it’s a situation with the IRS and you jointly owe back taxes. Or perhaps you owned a business together and it’s dealing with a lawsuit. How do you handle that? The third topic is a tough one, and luckily one that’s infrequent. Still, it does happen. What do you do if your soon-to-be ex doesn’t want custody of the kids? How do you handle it? It’s a tough situation made all the more difficult because of the kids whose lives will be affected. We talk through a listener question which asks both about some legal term clarification involving piercing the attorney-client privilege as well as about challenging venue for your case. We also take some time to learn more about Sterling and what he does for fun. Hint: check out the links below to find out! Links & Notes Schedule a consult with Seth Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! Sterling on Instagram and TikTok (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:29) - Challenges of the Problematic Ex (01:05) - Wrong to Leave an Alcoholic in Their Time of Need? (04:31) - What if I'm tied into other legal battles with my spouse? (09:20) - What if my ex doesn't want any custody of the kids? (13:02) - What Is Abandonment? (14:48) - Sterling's Story (19:50) - Listener Question: Piercing the Atty-Client Privilege, Requesting a Change of Venue (25:37) - Wrap Up Establishing trust with Co-Parents can be difficult when alcohol abuse is involved. Use Soberlink as an opportunity to improve co-parenting arrangements. Visit their site to learn more and get a promo code for $50 off.