Apologies and Relationships: How to Say Sorry and Mean It In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the art of apologizing effectively with special guest Susan McCarthy, co-author of Sorry, Sorry, Sorry: The Case for Good Apologies. Together, they explore the anatomy of a sincere apology, discuss common pitfalls, and share insights on how mastering the apology can improve your relationships, especially during a divorce – and we’re not just talking about with your...

Divorce can be a complicated process, especially with children. The acronym PEACE can be used to remember the major points. We talk through each of the points on the show today. When filing for divorce, keep these in mind. P – Parenting Plan: Required under Florida law and is split into parental responsibility (decision-making), child time-sharing (custody and visitation), and everything else that goes along with raising kids.E – Equitable Distribution: How your assets (things you own) or...

Listener Questions on Alimony, Co-Parenting, and More In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright dive into their mailbag to answer pressing questions from listeners. From alimony calculations to co-parenting challenges, Seth and Pete offer their insights and advice on navigating the complexities of divorce. Seth and Pete tackle a range of topics, including how judges handle parenting plans for previously uninvolved parents, the intricacies of Florida's new alimony...

In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the challenging topic of how divorce impacts children. They're joined by special guest Cathy Himlin, a reunification/conjoint family therapist, to discuss the child-centered approach in divorce parenting and what parents need to know to maintain a healthy connection with their kids. Seth, Pete, and Cathy explore how parents' grief, anxiety, and emotions during the divorce process can affect children. They discuss the concept...

Navigating Your Financial Mindset After Divorce In this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into the psychological impact of divorce on financial decision making. They're joined by certified financial planner Ben Hockema, who shares his insights on helping individuals rebuild their lives and relationship with money post-divorce. Seth, Pete, and Ben explore how divorce can drastically change one's financial psychology, often leading to a scarcity mindset. They discuss the...

In this episode, Seth and Pete welcome Josef Stetter, also known as "The Résumé Whisperer," to share his insights on creating a compelling post-divorce résumé that will help you land the job you desire. Seth and Pete discuss with Josef the challenges faced by individuals re-entering the workforce after a divorce. They explore strategies for highlighting transferable skills, quantifying accomplishments, and showcasing the unique value you bring to the table. Josef emphasizes the importance of...

Rewriting Your Money Story During DivorceIn this episode, Seth and Pete aim to help listeners understand the role money plays during divorce. They are joined by guest Jennifer Lee, founder of Modern Wealth, who specializes in helping people take control of their money story. Jennifer provides insights into common money issues that arise during divorce and how to overcome emotional and practical hurdles. The main discussion focuses on understanding your unique money story, dealing with...

Fueling Your Body Through Divorce and BeyondSeth and Pete welcome Jill Moellering, a functional nutritional therapy practitioner, to discuss how divorce affects our relationship with food. Jill offers guidance on overcoming disordered eating and embracing a balanced approach to nutrition. This compelling episode tackles the mental and emotional roots of unhealthy eating habits. Seth and Pete explore how grief, loss of control, and stress – factors in any divorce – impact our food choices....

In this empowering episode, Seth and Pete are joined by Beverly Price, founder of Her Empowered Divorce, to discuss how to overcome domestic abuse and take control of divorce proceedings. Beverly shares her personal story of persevering through multiple divorces and emerging stronger. She provides insights on effective communication, documenting abuse, and building a supportive team. This is an inspiring conversation about reclaiming your agency during a challenging time. Key...

“We owe it to them to ensure they’re not collateral damage due to this divorce.” Meet Sarah Armstrong Sarah works at Google but decided as a side gig to write her book “The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce: What to Think Through When Children Are Involved” largely because it gave her the opportunity to share what she’d learned during her own divorce with others. And that’s not to say her divorce was a cakewalk. It was hard. It provided challenges for her, her ex, and their daughter. But through...

How do you heal after living through the trauma of divorce? How do you help your kids heal when they live through their own experience of your trauma? Whether you consider yours an easy divorce, or a hard one, the act of separating lives is traumatic, and the impact of trauma can sneak up on you. As we wrap up this season of the show, we want to take some time to talk about that healing process and we have the perfect guest to help us do that. Dee Wallace is an actor and a healer, and she’s...

Navigating the Appeals Process in Divorce with Judge Matt LucasFor our final episode of the season, Seth Nelson and Pete Wright chat with Judge Matt Lucas, an appellate court judge from the Florida Second District Court of Appeals, about the mysterious appeals process in divorce cases. They aim to shed light on what an appeal is, what appellate judges do, and what happens behind the scenes at the appellate court. This insightful episode covers the technical details of appeals and how they...

Reinvent Yourself After DivorceIn this week's episode, Seth and Pete chat with midlife reinvention expert Dawn Fleming about rebuilding your life after divorce. They cover everything from rediscovering old hobbies to going back to school to finding new purpose and passion. Seth and Pete start by unpacking Dawn's own "attorney turned alchemist" story. She shares how she reinvented herself multiple times through divorce, career changes, spiritual journeys, and ultimately creating a life of...

Transforming Mindset and Finding Hope After DivorceSeth and Pete welcome Hilary DeCesare, founder of Relaunch Co. and expert in neuropsychology, to discuss shifting limiting beliefs during divorce. This episode focuses on adjusting your mindset during a challenging life transition like divorce. Hilary shares her 3HQ model for getting into your best emotional and mental state before major conversations or decisions. Questions we answer in this episode: How do I stop negative self-talk during...

Seth and Pete welcome back author and astrologer Bethany Nicole for a fun, end-of-year bonus episode to dive into astrology and what their birth charts reveal about themselves. Can ancient astrological wisdom provide guidance and direction or is this just a fun experiment? Bethany interprets Seth and Pete's charts to uncover strengths, weaknesses, and life paths. This astrology session provides some eye-opening self-discovery and personal growth for the hosts, all while allowing for a...

Get Answers to Your Divorce QuestionsIn this week's episode, Seth and Pete tackle real questions submitted by listeners who are going through a divorce or have been affected by one. They provide practical tips and legal perspectives to help you navigate some of the common issues that arise during separation and divorce. Seth and Pete aim to offer actionable advice and reassurance that you're not alone in this difficult process. Their insights can help you make informed decisions and feel...

Navigating Narcissistic Relationships and Healing After DivorceSeth and Pete welcome Dr. Justine Weber, a psychologist who helps people recover from narcissistic abuse. They discuss how to identify narcissistic behaviors, cope with divorce from a narcissist, and heal after leaving the relationship. The conversation focuses on rebuilding your sense of self and reality after narcissistic conditioning. Justine offers insights into childhood attachment styles and trauma responses that can lead...

Financial Abuse, Credit Card Debt, and Rebuilding Finances Post-Divorce In this informative episode, Seth and Pete dive into the heavy topic of financial abuse with expert guest, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and Accredited Financial Counselor Leah Hadley. They discuss the various forms of financial abuse, the mindsets and behaviors that enable it, and most importantly, how to recover and rebuild your financial life after divorce when financial abuse was present. Leah shares her wisdom...

Rediscovering Purpose After DivorceIn this thoughtful episode, Seth and Pete explore the journey of finding meaning after divorce. They're joined by therapist and author Furkhan Dandia, who shares his own divorce story and path to advocacy. Together, they take an enlightening look at processing divorce trauma in a healthy way. They touch on moving past limiting beliefs, redefining relationships, and gaining resilience. While centered on men's experiences, their insights apply to anyone...

Overcoming Narcissistic Abuse in RelationshipsThis week's episode dives deep into the warning signs of narcissism, how to protect yourself if you're in a relationship with a narcissist – or trying to get out of one – and the journey to rediscover your self-worth after experiencing narcissistic abuse. Seth and Pete's guests share from their expertise as therapists and life coaches that specialize in healthier relationships. Questions we answer in this episode: What are some common red flags...

Navigating Co-Parenting of a Child with Special NeedsIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, Seth and Pete dive into a challenging listener question about co-parenting a child with special needs after divorce. They aim to provide guidance and perspective, even when there are no easy solutions. Our listener wrote in, explaining how their once amicable co-parenting relationship completely deteriorated over disagreements related to caring for their special needs child after the divorce. Seth...

Navigating the Intersection of Immigration and Divorce Law Divorce is complicated enough, but what happens when immigration status enters the picture? This week, Seth and Pete aim to provide guidance on navigating this complex legal maze. They're joined by immigration law expert Tahmina Watson. She shares invaluable insights on the nuances of divorce and custody when immigration status plays a role. Tahmina offers an in-depth look at key considerations for both family-based and...

On this episode of How to Split a Toaster, hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright speak with licensed marriage and family therapist Linda Hershman. They discuss the rising trend of "gray divorce" among older couples, the practice of discernment counseling, and how divorce later in life impacts adult children. Key Takeaways on Gray Divorce Gray divorce rates have risen dramatically, from 10% of couples over 50 getting divorced in 1990 to 25% in 2020. The rate increases for second and third...

Learn How to Write Your Own Apologies and Move Forward After DivorceIn this week’s episode, Seth and Pete chat with relationship expert Bethany Nicole about the importance of letting go of past hurts through writing your own apologies. Bethany shares her unique “apology writing” process to help people heal and move forward after painful experiences like divorce. Seth and Pete break down key steps for writing apologies for yourself when you don’t receive them from others. This allows you to...