Navigating the Intersection of Immigration and Divorce Law Divorce is complicated enough, but what happens when immigration status enters the picture? This week, Seth and Pete aim to provide guidance on navigating this complex legal maze. They're joined by immigration law expert Tahmina Watson. She shares invaluable insights on the nuances of divorce and custody when immigration status plays a role. Tahmina offers an in-depth look at key considerations for both family-based and...

On this episode of How to Split a Toaster, hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright speak with licensed marriage and family therapist Linda Hershman. They discuss the rising trend of "gray divorce" among older couples, the practice of discernment counseling, and how divorce later in life impacts adult children. Key Takeaways on Gray Divorce Gray divorce rates have risen dramatically, from 10% of couples over 50 getting divorced in 1990 to 25% in 2020. The rate increases for second and third...

Learn How to Write Your Own Apologies and Move Forward After DivorceIn this week’s episode, Seth and Pete chat with relationship expert Bethany Nicole about the importance of letting go of past hurts through writing your own apologies. Bethany shares her unique “apology writing” process to help people heal and move forward after painful experiences like divorce. Seth and Pete break down key steps for writing apologies for yourself when you don’t receive them from others. This allows you to...

Overcoming Childhood Trauma and Building Healthy RelationshipsIn this informative episode, Seth and Pete welcome special guest Riana Milne, a relationship expert and trauma counselor. They have an enlightening discussion about childhood trauma, how it impacts adult relationships, and strategies for healing. Riana shares profound insights from her decades of experience counseling and coaching couples. She outlines the most common types of childhood trauma and explains how they often sabotage...

How Snoring Can Lead to DivorceIn this episode of How to Split a Toaster, hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore the connections between poor sleep, snoring, and divorce. Their guest is Alex Neist, creator of Hostage Tape, which produces anti-snoring mouth tape. Alex shares how his snoring led to his divorce. The hosts dive into the impacts of sleep problems on relationships and solutions anyone can try. Snoring as a Divorce FactorStudies show links between sleep issues and divorce. Alex's...

Planning Your Finances for Life After Divorce Ending a marriage brings major financial changes. In this week’s episode of How to Split a Toaster, hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright talk with financial planner Stacy Francis about how to prepare your finances for a stable life after divorce. They also tackle a listener question on calculating living expenses post-split. Stacy Francis is a certified financial planner who founded Francis Financial, a wealth management firm specializing in divorce...

Finding Humor and Healing Through Hard Times In this How to Split a Toaster episode, hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright interview comedian, podcaster, & filmmaker Keila Dolle about using humor to heal during divorce and trauma. Keila Dolle hosts the mental health podcast Crying Behind Sunglasses, where she has raw, honest conversations about mental health issues while finding the humor in them. Key Discussion Points Origins of Keila's podcast and passion for destigmatizing mental health...

Overcoming Cult Manipulation and an Impossible Divorce Peter Young joins hosts Seth Nelson and Pete Wright to share his harrowing experience getting sucked into a cult led by his wife's "Uncle Robert", trying to save his marriage and protect his kids, and the messy divorce that followed. Peter's Story Peter met his wife Paige when he was working as a sports broadcaster in Idaho. Paige had been born into a cult led by "Uncle Robert" and was completely under his control. Though skeptical at...

Seth Nelson and Pete Wright explore a deeply sensitive subject—dealing with mental illness within a marriage. Scot and Emily McKay, bestselling authors, podcasters, and BMX champions, bring their own experiences to the table, sharing how their previous marriages were affected by partners grappling with profound mental health issues. In a candid conversation, Scot and Emily recount the red flags and realizations that accompanied their relationships with partners dealing with mental illness....

In this enlightening episode of "How to Split a Toaster," hosts Seth and Pete are joined by acclaimed expert Julie Coraccio to explore the art of post-divorce decluttering. As life takes a new direction after divorce, the accumulation of both emotional and physical clutter can become overwhelming. With Julie's expert guidance, listeners will uncover practical strategies to not only declutter their spaces but also declutter their minds during this transitional phase. Julie Coraccio, a seasoned...

Shedding Self Judgment in Favor of Self Love Getting lost in a marriage happens for a variety of reasons – you grow apart from your spouse, your kids move out, other changes happen in your lives. But at the end of the day, it may boil down to the fact that you don’t really know yourself. Ashley Abramson is a solution focused self love mentor and trauma coach who joins Seth and Pete to talk about the important journey you need to make – whether it’s before you get married, during your...

Divorcing When Also in Business Together Florida family law attorney A.J. Grossman joins Seth and Pete today to tackle the complexities of getting a divorce when you’re in business with your spouse. It’s complicated, but it’s doable! Sometimes, you don’t want to be in business anymore. Sometimes, you’re planning on staying on as working partners after the divorce. And is it possible you’d lose the business? So how do you do it? They tackle many questions in this episode. What do you do if one...

Learning to Communicate with a Narcissist Narcissist Divorce Coach Victoria McCooey joins Seth and Pete to talk about the challenges that come when trying to get out of a marriage to a narcissist. It’s not easy! We walk through Victoria’s three stages in communicating with your narcissist soon-to-be ex that can help you more easily navigate this difficult situation through each of its phases. Victoria has been through her own divorce from just this sort of person and has turned that...

Why Is It So Hard to Take the High Road? In the last decade, Andy Heller wrote two books on real estate investing while running an international freight forwarding company. So why is he the guest on this episode? Well... then he got divorced.  Andy took the lessons of the challenges of that experience and reframed it into his third book, “Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family.” He joins us to talk about all the roads he has taken along the way, and why...

Today, we’re talking about resilience. It’s an easy word to throw around when you’re feeling strong, but when you’re confronted with divorce, finding that same strength can feel impossible. Michelle Dickinson is a resilience coach, speaker, and author, and also leads a successful Resilience Coaching practice where she and her coaches work with individual clients to help them reclaim balance and personal power, and create better structures and routines that help them feel more in control of...

NLG Family Law associate attorney Tia Rowe joins Pete to talk about two important topics to help those going through a divorce – legal research and the appeals process.  Legal Research What should you expect from the research effort? Why is research important? Tia fills Pete in on why this is a valuable part of every case, where lawyers search, how they stay current, and more. They also talk about the difference between case law and statutes, and how case laws sometimes are just bad. The...

We’re challenging stereotypes and taking on a question you might just be asking if you’re on the hunt for representation: Do you need an a*****e lawyer? Is that different than an aggressive attorney? Or assertive? Pete’s joined by Geneviève Torres, a family law attorney at NLG Family Law, to help break this down for you. The real key is that you get an effective attorney. Sometimes, the challenge comes in the client wanting the attorney to actually be more aggressive. Still, there’s a line...

Seth is still away so we’re going to be inviting various people from NLG Family Law to sit in with Pete and take on some other listener questions about divorce. In today’s episode, attorney Paul Phipps joins Pete to answer a few questions. The questions they take on today: I just want the quickest divorce possible and for my ex to just keep everything, why is this not a good idea? Don’t lawyers just want to drag out divorce cases as long as possible to make more money? Coaching for court: is...

Seth is still away so we’re going to be inviting various people from NLG Family Law to sit in with Pete and take on some other questions about divorce. In today’s episode, attorney Sterling Lovelady joins Pete to talk about dealing with a problematic ex. The first subject they tackle is the challenging decision about whether to leave your alcoholic spouse or not when they’re in a time of need. Should you feel responsible? How do you navigate through those feelings?  The second topic they...

Meet Judge Wesley Tibbals May it please the court! In this week’s classic rebroadcast, we’ve got a special guest today who knows a thing or two about the workings of divorce court, and that’s because he’s a judge! That’s right, we figured it was about time that we had an actual judge on to make sure we’re not just making stuff up. Judge Wesley Tibbals talks with Pete and Seth today about life behind the bench in divorce court. There’s a lot to talk about and Pete and Seth have a lot of...

Rhonda Noordyk is the host of the Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast and CEO of the Women’s Financial Wellness Center. In her work, she helps women ask tough questions so that they get the answers that they need to navigate the divorce process.  This week on the Toaster, Rhonda shares her insights on financial awareness in the marriage and why it is so important to a healthy communication practice, and a healthy divorce. Her practice is just a part one resource in the process, so she...

Welcome to Summer! It's that time of year we love to celebrate by taking just a few weeks off to plan, rebuild, and get refreshed for a new season in the fall. So we have a few episodes from the archives to share with you this year that will be dropping in your feed over the coming weeks. First up, what was originally an episode about splitting the fall holidays comes today just in time for summer! Go on, sing it with us... "It's the most wonderful time of the year..." It's the most cherished...

It’s time to end our seventh season and what better way than to answer some of your questions! We’ve had a wide variety come in and tackle a number of them in today’s episode. Here are some of the questions we look at. I never legally adopted my spouse’s kids from a previous marriage, but I love them like my own. Will I lose the right to see them? What happens if divorce is against my/my spouse’s religion? My spouse is threatening suicide if I leave. What do I do? What if I can’t be in the...

But What Do the Kids Think? According to our guest today, divorce is a monster under kids beds. In her ongoing film project, Ellen Bruno is putting kids’ voices first, hearing how a group of young people view divorce over the long arch of their young lives. The 2013 film Split: The Early Years introduces us to 12 kids adapting to divorce in their families. This year, we catch up with those same kids after a decade’s passed in Split Up: The Teen Years as they reflect on how their lives have...