Shedding Self Judgment in Favor of Self Love Getting lost in a marriage happens for a variety of reasons – you grow apart from your spouse, your kids move out, other changes happen in your lives. But at the end of the day, it may boil down to the fact that you don’t really know yourself. Ashley Abramson is a solution focused self love mentor and trauma coach who joins Seth and Pete to talk about the important journey you need to make – whether it’s before you get married, during your marriage, during your divorce, or after you’re single again – to figure out who you are and how to love yourself again. Can you really love your spouse or kids without loving yourself first? Truly loving yourself the most at the end of the day is critical. You really don’t know what love is until you’ve learned to love yourself, as Ashley says. To be clear, self love means knowing who you are and why you do what you do. Getting curious. Bringing Awareness. Only through that can you truly know who you are. Seth, Pete and Ashley also talk about not seeking happiness in something else because it can lead to issues, as well as a theory about why it’s important to never have anything that you’re not willing to lose. It’s a powerful conversation that may help you get to the bottom of your issues. Plus, Seth and Pete take on a listener question about options when family court fails. Links & Notes Ashley and Big Miracle Energy on the web, YouTube, and Patreon Find Ashley on LinkedIn, Instagram, or Facebook Ashley’s book The Journey to... bME Schedule a consult with Seth Got a question you want to ask on the show? Click here! (00:00) - Welcome to How to Split a Toaster (00:26) - Meet Ashley Abramson (01:06) - Ashley's Journey (02:57) - Figuring Yourself Out First (07:33) - Reconnecting as Things Change (08:47) - Finding the Joy (10:14) - Put the Mask On Yourself First (11:32) - What Does It Mean to Love Yourself First? (15:27) - Rebuilding Process (18:36) - Dis-Attachment Theory (20:46) - Former Spouse's Experience (23:44) - Learning to Work with Ex (25:39) - Ashley's Coaching (29:23) - Finding Ashley (29:52) - Last Notes (31:52) - Listener Question (40:34) - Wrap Up Establishing trust with Co-Parents can be difficult when alcohol abuse is involved. Use Soberlink as an opportunity to improve co-parenting arrangements. Visit their site to learn more and get a promo code for $50 off.