You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Growing up in the shadow of her siblings, our listener has recognised the toxic traits that were always excused and enabled. Despite going low contact, she's struggling with the idea of giving up on her siblings when she's been taught that "family is everything". Can a relationship with her siblings be salvaged, and should it? Listen to Katie and Helen...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener this week shares how her kind and generous mother-in-law is "the nicest person you could ever wish to meet", with an enticing ability to keep the peace. But digging deeper, it appears there's so much more to her fawning and people-pleasing behaviour. As worry and exhaustion bubble to the surface, our listener asks how she can protect someone...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Pregnancy loss Despite a history of cold, abusive behaviour from her mother leading to a trail of broken family bonds, our listener is haunted by the notion that 'life is short'. She is questioning whether she was right to go low contact, or will she regret her decision in the future? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) This week we break from the usual format to talk about one of the most surreal weeks we've had, embarking on a whistlestop media tour of Ireland to launch YNTP! Plus, we make In Sight history as we are actually recording in the same room for the first time - catch the video on YouTube! We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) As her father prepares to reconcile with her abusive mother, our listener feels like she's at breaking point. Her father begs her to put their differences aside for a family wedding, but she can't put her mental health at risk again. For the sake of her father she asks whether a narcissist is capable of change, or is this yet another spin on their...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) This week we chat with previous guest Harriet Shearsmith, author and host of Unfollowing Mum. After Harriet's exclusive early access to 'You're Not the Problem', we hear how the book has impacted her, what she's learned from it and how things have been since we last caught up! Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) This week we're sharing one of the most popular episodes of our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. As part of our series examining family roles, we take an in-depth look at the child that ISN'T the golden child. We explore the background and the ramifications of this role - enjoy! Content warning: mention of medical procedures/pain   We talk...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) This week our listener explains that no matter the situation or her part in it, she always feels like the problem. She describes her husband as a good man with a warm heart, but struggles to communicate with him in a way that helps him understand her needs. She asks, is it simply different love languages, or something else?  Content warning: mention of...

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) This week our listener struggles to come to terms with how differently he is treated compared to his sibling. Despite his brother leaving a trail of chaos and personal attacks, their parents seem to do everything they can to avoid holding him accountable. Our listener asks, what happens now? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Content warning: sexual abuse  This week our listener describes how she managed to break free from a life dominated by her abusive father under the guise of religion. Despite breaking free, she found herself at the mercy of abusive relationships and being silenced by her enabling mother. As she tries to move forward, she asks how to...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is questioning whether her husband is emotionally abusive, or are the wounds of her childhood blurring the lines? After years of control and debilitating illness, our listener asks if she should leave - and can she make it on her own if she does? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is struggling to know how to manage her relationship with her mother. She feels completely invisible, and thinks of herself as an invisible child, but is she? And how does she move forward? Can she have one and hold boundaries? Or is it impossible? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is struggling to know who she is outside of who she's been told to be. After being in a push pull relationship with a mother who both engulfs and ignores she's left asking...who am I without her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Our listener this week shares some harrowing stories from her childhood and describes the lasting effects she's spent years processing in therapy. Tired of playing happy families to protect the public image, she asks for help envisioning a future where she can be authentic without having to rewrite her past for someone else's...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie catch up with previous letter writers to find out how they're doing since the had their letter read out.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram!...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie interview Casey Smith, social media creator, and host of the podcast 'It's Not Normal', where she explores her own experience of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how it's affected her now. In this episode she asks 'How do I learn to lean into my autonomy after being punished for it for so long?'  ...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon How do you protect children from a father who's diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but there's a court order that says they have to visit? Listen as Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation and how our listener might cope. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! ...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Katie and Helen help a listener try to understand what happened in her friendship that became romantic and then became toxic. Can it be saved or is this the end? In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie are releasing an episode from their Patreon show The Freudian Slip. This episode focuses on the Scapegoat child role, and is part one of 4.   In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie break from format again and discuss tips and exercises on how to heal from narcissistic abuse.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week as Helen and Katie get ready for Christmas, they re release episode 41, released this time last year which talks about how to handle gift giving in toxic families at Christmas. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week we have a change! Helen and Katie aren't reading a letter, and instead will be discussing about how to survive Christmas in toxic families. Enjoy!  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) ...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener  describes a childhood where she was completely invisible unless she was helping her mother. Now as an adult she's struggling in social settings, not sure if she's getting it right, and worrying that her parents were right; she's just oversensitive. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation...

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener describes a relationship with her mother where she's completely invisible. After numerous slights, and outrageous behaviour around her father's death, she hasn't seen her mother for 8 months and doesn't know how to move forward. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and...