In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss shame from a different perspective. They talk about leaning into shame as the teacher and how shame can become your friend and not your keeper. If you are on your healing journey, then this is an episode you won't want to miss! Healing can be lonely and the last thing we want to feel is bad for exisiting. Shame isn't a useless or unhelpful emotion - shame can literally help you transform your life if you learn to listen to it...

One of the hardest journeys is that of healing - especially when you don't have anyone to support you through the process. What we begin to recognize is that everything is a choice. We are far more capable than we give ourselves credit for and when we can look within and pull from that power nothing is unachievable. If you are struggling to believe in yourself and you feel that you just can't, then this episode will change that for you!   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY CICK thiS...

Do you hold on to relationships out of guilt? Do you feel a sense of responsibility for family members even if they have hurt you? If these sound familiar, you won't want to miss this episode because you are NOT alone. In this deeply raw episode, Courtney opens up deeper to share some of her most vulnerable emotions surrounding this exact topic. Together, J gently leads Courtney down the path of pain while she shares some of the most intimate painful moments that she's had surrounding the...

In this very special episode, J and Courtney sit down to have a deep conversation with Duygu Balan, LPCC, LMHC, and Dr. Yener Balan. Duygu is a psychotherapist and certified trauma professional, and for over a decade has cared for individuals and couples dealing with childhood trauma, attachment injuries, and grief. Yener Balan, MD, DFAPA is a board-certified psychiatrist and is currently the Vice President of Behavioral Health and Specialty Services for Kaiser Permanente, Northern...

Are you struggling with parenting? Are you having a  very hard time watching your children make decisions that could "hurt them"? Are you always worried that you have to step in, solve, and fix their problems? Do you have this underlying fear that something bad is going to happen so you're always on edge? If so, you may find this episode very helpful. J and Courtney discuss Rescue Parenting - Something Courtney struggled with for many years that resulted from her own childhood trauma. This...

In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss the inner child but from a completely different perspective - a perspective not many talk about.  If you're on your healing journey, finding yourself triggered...ALOT, and just feel stuck then THIS is the episode for you! Healing is messy and won't be easy. As a matter of fact, it may be the hardest thing that you'll ever do. That's why we have this podcast and our healing community because no one should do it alone.  To join the healing...

Are you on your healing journey and just feel completely exhausted? You just don't have the energy or desire to do much of anything. When we are healing, we can get to this very poignant part of healing that Courtney calls, "Restful Healing" and it can be the most challenging place to be when you don't understand it. As a trained trauma counselor, Courtney has seen this in all of her clients and in her own personal journey.  In this very episode, J and Courtney discuss this concept in depth....

When we have trauma, we may find that we become highly reactive. This is why you just JUMP to the first emotion and ACT on it without having time to stop and think and DECIDE what your decision will be. In this episode, J and Courtney discuss reactivity on a very personal level. If you have trauma and are on your healing journey, this is going to be an upside that you'll want to save and listen to frequently. As we heal, our brains look at situations differently and we understand and...

In this episode, J and Courtney recap the 4 agreements. This is the PERFECT episode if you're just looking to get a brief synopsis without all the fuss! Stay tuned because the next episode is on REACTIVITY! You won't want to MISS it!   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss what it means to "do your best" based on the book, "The Four Agreements". Together, they pull apart the agreement and discuss it at a deeper level. Our best will always shift depending on how we are feeling. Your best today may be different tomorrow. If you're on your healing journey, then this episode will resonate and give you permission to have more compassion and grace on those tough days.  TO JOIN THE HEALING...

In this episode, J and Courtney continue their quest to explore concepts from the book, "The Four Agreements". Together, they share their thoughts and experiences surrounding the concept of not assuming and how assuming will keep you stuck on your healing journey. When we assume, we base what we perceive as fact instead of information to process.  TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the importance of not taking things personally. Courtney, in the hot-seat, again...discusses how this has been one of the most challenging things to overcome. At times, she still struggles with it and is very candid about her journey with learning to let things go and be as they are.    Do you struggle with feeling as if everything is a personal attack? Does it feel like even positive constructive feedback hurts? If so, listen to this episode! Remember,...

J and Courtney are back! It's been a while and they share what they have been up to and what to expect! They get into a conversation about the way in which we speak to ourselves and others - The Words We Use - and how IMPACTFUL our words are. If you're on your healing journey, or just looking to listen to a real, raw, and relatable podcast - this is for you! When we are on our journey, we are often left feeling alone, abandoned, and ore mistreated. It's truly important that we surround...

In this very special episode, J and Courtney dig deeper into shame. This is a great spin-off episode if you've listened to the one on Shame Vs Guilt AND if you're part of the healing community it went GREAT with the workshop and Newsletter. Shame is a universal emotion that we all have and feel but it can infiltrate our lives and truly prevent us from healing and walking in our authentic footsteps. This episode will help bring you clarity and solutions to working through and becoming...

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the meaning behind dreams and how you can pull a lot of insight from them. Courtney further discusses how dreams aren't always factual but actually metaphorically represent different parts of your waking life. This is an episode you won't want t sleep on!   LINK TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this very interesting episode, Courtney breaks down the deep differences between Shame and Guilt - as they aren't the same. Together, J and Courtney have a discussion that brings to light moments in their own healing journey where shame presented itself. If you're on your healing journey, it's more likely than not that you are harboring deep shame - and that can truly affect your self-worth and your interpersonal relationships. Knowing the difference between shame and guilt will help you...

In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss the cost of healing. They sit down and together discuss what really happens when you heal. They talk about the things that most people don't realize and explore healing from a whole new perspective.  TO join the healing community and get all the goodies from the Newsletter, Zoom calls, Feelings Wheel, Book Club, Workshops, and more CLICK this link: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true Everything that you need to heal...

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the fundamental differences between feelings and emotions! Most people aren't aware that the two aren't interchangeable - and that in fact, they are completely different. Together, they share their experiences with their own personal struggles while offering key tips to help you start becoming more emotionally aware. *If you want the Feelings Wheel, join the healing community below!*   TO JOIN THE HEALING...

In this special episode, J and Courtney talk about what healing Really looks like. Together, they talk about the ugly side of healing - and what to truly expect. This is an episode that you won't want to miss!   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, J and Courtney wrap up the trigger series by learning about how to disarm someone else when they are triggered! This is an episode that you won't want to miss. Both J and Courtney share their experiences with learning to disarm the other when a trigger has presented.   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

This is the second episode in our Trigger Series and it's all about learning how to disarm triggers in yourself. If you haven't listened, we highly recommend listening to that episode before this one! Keep an eye out because the next episode is ALL on helping to disarm another when you notice that they are triggered.   TO SUPPORT the PODCAST & Join the In It Together Community, go here:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

Do you struggle with triggers? Do they pop up out of nowhere and "ruin" your entire mood/day? Do you find yourself struggling to recover after a trigger has occurred? If so, then THIS episode is for you! Together, J and Courtney explore triggers and the underlying reasons behind them. In a moment of vulnerability, Courtney becomes triggered and shares her process of working through it.    TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

If you struggle with managing your emotions and feel like you're triggered ALL THE TIME, then THIS is the episode for you! Oftentimes, we don't even know WHY we are so dysregulated and miss all the signs. Before we know it, we are flying off the handle, yelling, screaming, or shutting down. In this episode, J and Courtney dig into Emotional Regulation while sharing quick tips on how to start becoming more in control. You won't want to miss this!   TO SUPPORT THE...

Happy 50th Episode!!! What an amazing milestone! In this very, very special episode, J and Courtney dig deep into the root of self-worth while exploring the many avenues one can take to start seeing their value and rebuilding their self-esteem.   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true