If you find it difficult to communicate what's on your mind and/or heart in your relationship or the person you're dating, do you know why? Do you know the story that keeps you from sharing, speaking, expressing? Do you know the wound that the story was built upon? Do you know the things you tell yourself that leads to 'ahhh, it doesn't matter, I won't bother saying anything, all good." Steve has helped me have the hard chats. Typically (in my default pattern) I avoid hard chats. I...

"I am tired of tolerating ......" "I am tired of accepting ...... in my relationship." "I am tired of speaking to myself poorly." "I am tired of these behaviours I keep playing out ......" "I am tired of the way I show up at work events and around colleagues." Once you have your answers, the next question is ... What am I willing to do about this? What is my next best step? Self enquiry leads to greater knowing of who you are behind the you you think you have to be. It's worth asking the...

If I waited until I wasn't afraid to go after the things that mattered to my heart and my life, I'd be waiting a long (long) time. A part of me was afraid to leave nursing, make my own money and create my own life. A part of me was afraid to start my business, speak on stage, create programs, run events, write a book and put myself out there. A part of me  was afraid to fall in love, commit and get married. Because what if I failed? What if I got hurt? What if I looked like an idiot?...

You know those uplevels where it’s happening from the inside out? A grumble, a pulse, a rise of ‘something’ that is so darn powerful that you know it’s going to rearrange the way you see yourself, others and life? It’s that space between letting go of the self that got you here and welcoming in the self you’ve been rooting for. There’s excitement, fear, unsureness (is that even a word?), curiosity, grief, gratitude, silence, noise, questioning, faith all at once. If you find yourself here,...

Steve and I are being tested at the moment. We're in sleep debt. We're sleeping in separate beds. Why? Lately, Steve's snoring has reached new heights and we've gotten into an anxious sleep cycle where Steve is worried he'll snore, so isn't getting deep sleep. I'm worried I'll hear him snore so I'm stressing about getting to sleep first. This resulted in poor deep sleep and waking up feeling less than fresh. So, we're sleeping separate whilst Steve looks into his snoring and whilst we're...

Animals have my heart. Period. When their true nature and innocence are taken advantage of, disregarded and used for pleasure, entertainment, food convenience and money, my soul breaks. Something breaks inside me. A pig at MIDLAND BACON PIGGERY in Victoria Australia has been sexually assaulted by a male, the farm owners son in fact. @dominionmovement are doing their best to free Olivia the pig, @changedotorg have a petition to sign to apply pressure to surrender her so she can be taken into...

Previously I always looked for the metaphorical invisible door for me to escape. Where’s the exit when it gets tough, hard, too much, too close, too vulnerable? That door was something I kept very close to me. But in the lead up to our wedding, writing vows to Steve and the girls, that door was disappearing. And on the day, our magnificent wedding day, it went. I was in. All the way in. I know that I can leave at anytime, but I don’t want to. Before, it was a fantasy I played into a lot....

There’s cleaning and then there’s CLEANING! Everyone knows that I love a clean, tidy, aesthetically pleasing home. And the ones closest to me know when I’m cleaning because the house needs it, or when I clean because I need it. Cleaning for me became a coping strategy when I was younger. There was a hidden memory jammed up inside me that was causing disturbance. I didn’t have conscious access yet to the memory but my body did. Waves of emotion would surge and the only way I knew to get rid...

I have to give thanks to Brene Brown for giving me the terminology for FFTs - first f*****g time. Those experiences or situations you're in where it's new territory, new landscape and you're in pits of "what the f**k do I do here?" It could be your FFT on a date after getting divorced, starting a podcast, having sex with a woman after being in a heterosexual relationship, writing a book, becoming a parent - basically anything for the first-f*****g-time. The stories in your head are loud....

When I was at my lowest, even doing something for three minutes felt almost impossible. Almost. But even at my worst, I could do something good for three minutes. Three minutes of anything that could get me out of my most negative thoughts, that could break my stuckness. To this day, whenever I’m feeling out of sorts and disconnected with my true self, I take a moment. I consciously redirect my attention to doing something that I know can help me regroup. All it takes is three good...

Our wedding was 100% us. There was nothing about it that catered to who we thought we had to be, what vows we thought we had to write, who we thought we had to invite, what food and drinks we thought we should get, what we thought we had to wear, what photos we thought we should get and all the rest. Everything about it was us, which is why it was so damn magical. The brief was - we want this to be an extension of us. Fun, casual, relaxed and epic vibes. And the day delivered it in spades....

I’ve done my best to keep this under wraps since April 2022 and now I can let the Penguin out of the bag! It’s with a big beating heart that I can now share openly that I’m writing my first book with @penguinbooksaus 🐧. When I received an email from them wanting to chat about the possibility of writing a book, I thought I was being scammed (lol), like for real. But it was indeed legit and I’m so stoked to fulfil this calling of writing books and sharing my heart with you all. August 18th is...

This is a ripper story. My beautiful client and now friend, KG, left love off her intention setting because she thought it'd never happen. She didn't want to feel the pain of it never coming true if she had it on her vision board, so, she left it off to not feel or address the wounds that were sitting underneath it all. When I said to her, "is love and a relationship important to you?", she said, "Kat f*****g John, GO AWAY!" And so, we went to work on what stories were in her head, what...

In this month's episode of us sharing insights into our relationship, we reflect and share how not-so-good we have been in the past six weeks, how at times we've been hanging on by a thread questioning our relationship, using some tools to 'get us by' and avoiding the real hard chats we needed to have. Yeah, relationships are real, aren't they? When two people are truly in love yet stuck in ego-town, it's vital to know the work and do the work to not give up on the work and  reconnect to...

Imagine that somewhere in your future there is a you who is grounded in who they are, knows who they are, connected to their intuition and true self, and who is so goddamn real and genuine that they ooze that special something. Imagine how free and liberated that version of you must be to feel that way and how ace they are at navigating their own mind, ego trip wires and patterned responses. How cool must it be for them that they get to choose how they want to be rather than be who they...

Alrighty, first episode back for 2024! Let's go! In this episode, I share what my theme for this year is and how I landed at it. From what it started out to be (receive), shifted to (abundance) and where it landed (plentiful), I also share what next best steps I am taking. You know, the little itty bitty ones that you think don't matter, but they really (really) do,  and the importance of being devoted to the itty-bitty-steps and being unwavering in that devotion. Listen up for a cracking...

The word and theme I worked and danced with this year was, "natures way", placing greater trust and faith in the great force and allowing it to crack me open where necessary. In previous years I had hopes for the word and theme I set, often having in mind what I wanted it to do for me. But what I found was that it worked its way into other areas of my life that I'd left unattended and didn't give much attention to. So this year, I said, "you do what you gotta do and what is necessary for me...

One of the greatest tools in my Mary Poppins bag is to be a basic bitch. Meaning, when all the tools in my toolkit aren't hitting the mark and I'm in the midst of an inner shift, I turn to this. No journalling, no meditation, no positive affirmation-ing. Yes, I still take care of my well-being by going for walks, doing some yin yoga or even a dance class, but that's it.  I take the pressure off to "develop my way through this" and remain "spiritual" and instead, do the most simple, basic...

One of the tricky aspects about running your own business is that when you grow, your outer world does too. Right now, the business aspect of my outer world is under construction. New scaffolding is being put in place, new contractors and support peeps are being called in, and some things are being reviewed closely to either be transformed or let go of.  Today's podcast shares the realities behind the business, the gram, the podcasts that go and what takes place behind the scenes when change...

We've been in the practice of a tool called the three gates. First shared by Rumi, he said, "At the first gate, ask yourself, “Is it true?” At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?” At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?” If our words pass through these gates, we can be assured that we are aligned with our Highest Self." Can I tell you, this practice is a tough one. Often we can get past the first gate, but the second and third is where Steve and I are stopped in our ego tracks and called...

When all the meditating, yoga-ing, journaling, exercising, walking and everything else you have in your toolkit just isn't cutting it, here's one of my go-to's. Sometimes, I just don't have the energy or gusto to "do the work" and basic-bitching is where it's at. Eat, move body, do what's needed, sleep, repeat. Plus, I say this little prayer in the mornings to the forces at be. There are moments where you gotta let go and know that letting go is in fact part of "the work". JOIN THE...

What have you been putting off? The thing that you know is kinda there, but your ego is doing a gnarly job of hiding it from you saying, "it's all good, don't worry about this, keep doing what you're doing!" You know, that thing.  Today's episode is a short and sharp one, with me sharing what I've been putting off, why I respect the fact that we do, but how much better it is when we actually address the "thing". Because let's face it, it's dragging your energy down! MONTHLY SESSIONS, LIVE...

One thing I wang onto my clients about is that the work does not stop and that I, nor anyone else, has THE solution for you. Each coach, healer, psychologist, trainer or whoever, has something to offer (hopefully of real value) and extend to you, to help you navigate life and see yourself, others and life in new ways. And this doesn't stop.  Instead of being all, "dammit, why do I still need help?", or, "what, I thought I dealt with this shit!", think of these people as adding to your Mary...

The moment I turned 38,  a very heavy load I was carrying (without knowing just how heavy the load was) dropped. Not an ounce in me wanted to pick the load back up and convince myself that we "need this load to keep us safe, loved, protected, accepted!" A very clear image of my 40-year-old-self has presented and hot-diggity-damn, she is next level She! No wonder my now self is dropping shit like it's hot, because where I'm walking, where I'm headed, there is not an inch of space for this...