Understanding the difference between having influence over behavior vs. control can help you get clear on what to focus on.  One of the trickier parts of the work I do is talking so much with parents about attachment, their role in co-regulation, and felt-safety, without snagging into parent’s shame about every parent's deepest worry- that their child’s baffling behaviors are all their fault. In this episode, you’ll learn: What it means to influence, not controlWhat your real responsibility is in influencing behaviorResponsibility does not equal blameHow to acknowledge influence without shameRead a summary or the full transcript at: robyngobbel.com/influencebehaviors Over on my website you can find: Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With ***Hey, if you listen to podcasts, you'll probably love listening to Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors on audiobook! Download it on Audible or wherever you get your audiobooks!*** :::Overwhelmed and unsure where to start? Check out the START HERE podcast- I put it together just to answer the question "Where do I start?" Get your invitation at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere :::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources