***This episode originally aired on May 11th, 2021*** You’ve asked yourself “Is this a behavior that’s coming from my child’s trauma?  Or is this regular acting out kid behavior???” Sometimes it’s pretty obvious but if you’re asking yourself that question, you’re probably in a situation where it isn’t obvious. What if I told you it doesn’t matter? Hear me out. Why do you want to figure that out?  Usually because it feels like you’ll handle the situation different based on the answer. But actually, it doesn’t matter. And it’s impossible to determine anyway. What you really want to think about is- how dysregulated is my child? And then respond to that!!   There are some core truths about humans- regulated, connected kids who feel safe do well.  So if you’re child isn’t doing well- ask yourself if this is about regulation, connection, felt-safety or some combination of those. Then, based on your child’s level of arousal/dysregulation, you can intervene in a way that will calm their arousal and bring back their owl brain.    To view the full summary or the full transcript visit: https://robyngobbel.com/traumabehavior/ Over on my website you can find: Masterclass and eBook on What Behavior Really Is (FREE) eBook on The Brilliance of Attachment (FREE) Ongoing support, connection, and co-regulation for struggling parents: The Club Year Long Immersive & Holistic Training Program for Parenting Professionals: Being With ***Hey, if you listen to podcasts, you'll probably love listening to Raising Kids with Big, Baffling Behaviors on audiobook! Download it on Audible or wherever you get your audiobooks!*** :::Overwhelmed and unsure where to start? Check out the START HERE podcast- I put it together just to answer the question "Where do I start?" Get your invitation at RobynGobbel.com/StartHere :::::Want to pick Robyn's brain, hang out with her in Zoom meetings and a forum you can access in an app? Come join us in The Club!Are you a professional who wants to support families of kids with big, baffling behaviors? Then Being With is for you!Just need a little extra help? Head to RobynGobbel.com/FreeResources