In this episode I chat with Valentin (Awake and Sexy on Instagram). Valentin is an Internal Family Systems-trained Intimacy Coach & Guide living in Brooklyn, NY. He helps mindful humans to love their Inner Parts and their Partner(s) better by moving toward more self-acceptance within and more intentionality with others. In this conversation we talk about Valentin’s own struggles with anxiety and intimacy and how they led him to delve into several mindfulness techniques and eventually...

A common challenge couples who start opening up face is that they realize that they have different ideas of what that actually means. In this special episode we listen back to some guests from the first season who had different desires or faced an imbalance in the way they approached non-monogamy. Guests from Season 1 included in this episode: Episode 2 - Dr. Zhana - https://link.chtbl.com/drzhanapolycurious Episode 5 - S & J - https://link.chtbl.com/sjpolycurious Episode 8 -...

Carol and David have been in a polyamorous relationship for about eight years. In this conversation, we chat about their boundaries evolving from a three page document to simply having to check in with one another. They share some of the difficulties that they experienced as they navigated having more than one serious romantic partner. We talk about an accidental breach of trust and about how that experience taught them to communicate better. And last but not least, we chat about all of the...

In this episode I speak with Rachel Krantz, former editor at Bustle and Author of the book Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation and Non-Monogamy. Her book is both a cautionary tale about gaslighting and manipulation and a story about the lessons and fun experiences that being open can bring. We talk about the red flags that might indicate you are being manipulated and discuss why often times partners are not even aware that they are being abusive. We chat about jealousy, swingers,...

In this episode, Mariah and I chat with London about her solo polyamorous journey. London shares her reasons for not seeking a primary partner and the ways that she is working on getting validation for herself and letting go of expectations when it comes to relationships. We talk about the importance of communicating intentions and feelings, even with people one is casually dating. Last but not least, we go in-depth about London’s experience dating a couple for over a year and all of the...

In this episode I chat with my friends Jasmine and Felipe. They have been together for about a year and a half. With the exception of a short period at the beginning where they dated independently, they have only had experiences as a couple and mostly with women. I chat with my friends Jasmine and Felipe about their experiences flirting and exploring. They tell us why dating separately sounds both intriguing and threatening to them. We also talk about the complexity of making moves on...

Queer Dating Coach, Ariella Serur, is a Certified Life Coach and is currently receiving a Graduate Advanced Certificate from Columbia University's School of Psychology in Sexuality, Women, and Gender with a concentration in LGBTQ Issues. In her practice, she works with queer people navigating the dating world, so dating becomes an enjoyable process and part of their personal growth journey. In this conversation, Mariah and I chat about Ariella’s own queerness and non-monogamous journey. We...

Roxy and Taj have been together for over 3 years and have had several group sex experiences together. They explored playing with couples, but eventually decided they preferred to only have threesomes with women. In this conversation, we chat about how they arrived at that decision. We also talk about Roxy’s process of opening up and letting go of what was expected from her community and about Taj’s past failed non-monogamous experiences. Their journey is an example of how when opening up you...

On our season premiere Cookie and Jerry open up about their journey and the break in the relationship they are currently taking. They tell us about how they managed their non-monogamous relationship of over 3 years, opening and closing at different points. We talk about why Cookie decided to move out and about how their current separation has benefited their relationship. This conversation highlights how communication has to be a continuous effort. No matter how long you have been together,...

This bonus episode is an edited version of our interview for a feature article in Bushwick Daily. Allie Ferrera interviewed both Mariah and I about the podcast. We talked about the inspiration behind Polycurious, the difference and similarities between monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, and what boundaries mean for us. We also have a special announcement: we will be releasing a second season next year! In this episode you will learn what to expect from it. ​​To read the article...

For our last episode of the season I chat with my co-host and best friend Mariah. If you haven’t listened to the first episode of the season where I interview her for the first time, go back and listen now. In our conversation, Mariah updates us about coming out to her family as polyamorous. We  talk about her experience falling in love with someone else while already with a primary partner. She shares what led to their break up and what she learned from that experience. We talk about her new...

In this episode I interview Seth, my partner of almost 3 years. So far he hasn’t sought out to be non-monogamous, despite having a partner who is (me!). In our conversation Seth tells us about his upbringing as a homeschooler and the son of a pastor in a small midwestern town. We talk about how we met and his reasons for not pursuing non-monogamy. We tell you what our boundaries are and how they have evolved. Lastly, we talk about the secret to our relationship: letting each other be...

In today’s episode I speak to my wonderful friends Ruth and Alejandro. They have been together for eight years and married for four. In this conversation they tell us how everything went wrong when they first met and how they ended up together anyway. They share their missteps as they began to open up their relationship, including a disastrous first threesome. We talk about their boundaries, how they have evolved, and Alejandro shares a story of how he overcame an insecurity that he had....

Mariah and I talk to Mr. K, who is a friend of ours and someone who tried polyamory and realized that it might not be for him. In this conversation we talk about how after discovering polyamory his dream was to have two long term committed relationships and be friends with his metamours (partner’s partners). He tells us how he realized that might not be possible after trying it himself and being in the poly scene for five years. We also talk about how despite that, he considers himself as...

Anna and Chetan have been together for 4 years, but individually, they have been exploring non-monogamy for almost 15 years. In this conversation they share what they have learned during that time. They also share their experience forming a triad and how that dissolved before moving in together. Lastly, they give lots of great advice for polycurious people, specially when it comes to jealousy. Follow us on Instagram at polycuriouspodcast Write to us at [email protected]

Tarynn is a New York-based Psychotherapist. She focuses on alternative sexualities & lifestyles – including non-monogamy. In this episode we talk about how she opened up with her husband of 8 years. She tells us about another partner she considers as significant as her husband and how she achieved a comfortable "kitchen table" dynamic between the three of them. We also talk about how she plans to communicate with her daughter about non-monogamy and about therapy for alternative...

Ana and Dustin are a married polyamorous couple who have a very loving and inspiring relationship. In this conversation we talk about the way gender roles influence non-monogamy: how they played a role in Dustin’s jealousy and how they affect the way they each relate to other potential partners. We also talk about the importance of establishing a solid base on one’s relationship before opening up. They share some of their challenges and provide great advice. Lastly, they turn the tables on...

Frankie is a friend of mine and an incredibly inspiring person when it comes to dealing with non-monogamy.  In this conversation, she shared with Mariah and me a particular experience of jealousy, and they way she handled it, I feel we can all learn from. When faced with her uncomfortable feelings, she decided to approach the person she felt triggered by and this episode followed that story to how that turned out. We also talk about why non-monogamy makes sense for some people and not for...

In this conversation I speak to S + J, a married couple from Brooklyn. We speak about how they decided to open up their marriage and learned to navigate their different ideas of what that actually looked like. J, who is a man, was initially more interested in having experiences as a couple and S, who is a woman, wanted to see people independently. Through trial and error, J learned to manage his feelings of jealousy. They eventually reached a point in which they both feel comfortable in the...

In Part 2 of our conversation with Safi and Fifi we go deeper by talking about their relationship. They narrate their love story and share with us inner layers that help them navigate polyamory together. We talk about how Safi developed compersion, which is a feeling of joy when a loved one takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. They share challenges they have encountered and provide tips for polycurious people. They also tell us a bit about their YouTube channel, which...

This is part 1 of our conversation with  Safi & Fifi, a queer polyamorous couple who has a YouTube channel where they share their experience and provide tips for polyamorous couples. In our conversation they tell us about their journey coming to terms with their sexuality, gender and non-monogamous identity. Fifi as a second generation Latina from the Bronx and Safi as an African American from Brooklyn. Stay tuned for next episode where they share how they met, how their relationship...

In this episode I speak with Dr.Zhana, a professor of sexuality at New York University and the creator of the Open Smarter Course, a science-based course designed to figure out what type of relationship works for YOU based on your personality. She is also the mastermind behind Uncensored with Dr.Zhana, a new approach to having online conversations about sex and love. In this conversation we talk about Dr.Zhana's own non-monogamous journey, her research on casual sex and some of the important...

In the very first Polycurious episode I tell you what this podcast is about. I then interview Mariah, my best friend and occasional host of the podcast. We talk about her journey into non-monogamy, the stigma of coming out as non-monogamous to her family, her first play party, relationship with her primary, and experience with jealousy.  Follow us on Instagram at polycuriouspodcast Write to us at [email protected] If you like the show please share it!