🎙️ Welcome to Episode 82 of the Relationships Uncomplicated podcast! In this episode, titled "Overcoming Biases in Infidelity Recovery," host Idit Sharoni, LMFT delves into a topic that's often overlooked but profoundly impactful: the biases surrounding infidelity. 💔 Infidelity doesn't just shake the foundation of relationships—it's the aftermath, the fallout, and the biases that can color our perceptions and decisions. Join Idit as she explores this complex issue with therapist Alana...

In this episode of the Relationships Uncomplicated podcast, host and affair recovery expert Idit Sharoni, LMFT delves into the intricate process of navigating healing when both partners have been unfaithful. Titled "A Guide to Joint Recovery When Infidelity Strikes Both Ways," Idit explores the complexities of mutual infidelity, where betrayal isn't confined to one side. Drawing from her experience as an affair recovery expert, she shares insights on how couples can overcome this challenging...

If you and your partner are navigating the challenging journey of affair recovery, understanding how to rebuild trust after infidelity is crucial. In this episode, we delve into the intricate process of earning back trust that has been lost in a relationship. Join us as we explore the evolution of the concepts of blind trust versus open-eyed trust, drawing from experiences working with couples healing from infidelity. Our discussion takes a unique turn as we question the commonly used term...

In this intriguing podcast episode, the topic of love and betrayal takes center stage, prompting us to explore the complex dynamics that arise when the people we cherish deeply hurt us. Idit Sharoni hosts her team of experts in order to shed a light on this topic. She begins with asking Alana Tokayer, a Marriage & Family Therapist and Program Specialist to describe what she notices with couples in the aftermath of infidelity grappling with this question. Alana sets the stage by...

Have you wondered whether conventional couples therapy can help you heal from infidelity? Is it effective for infidelity recovery? Do you want helpful options in the aftermath of infidelity or an affair recovery? You aren’t alone. Unfortunately, there isn’t much information out there to truly educate struggling couples. Though it seems that conventional or traditional couples therapy is the only way to go, there are more options to explore. Let’s discuss your infidelity recovery choices...

You don’t want to miss this article. In fact, I can’t believe we haven’t talked about this  before. Why? Because this topic is too important to skip. What I’m about to share with you has a way of hiding in the shadows of too many relationships… First, you probably know that infidelity happens for all kinds of reasons. Sometimes it has to do with the relationship, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes it’s a combination of both. What you might not know is that, in the majority of cases, there is a...

We are very excited and thankful to interview psychotherapist and hypnotherapist Douglas Flemons, Ph.D., LMFT. Both Yael (my co-host for this episode) and I, having had the opportunity to learn from him in different capacities, greatly appreciated Dr. Flemons’s willingness to meet with us and share his valuable message. We discuss hypnotherapy, what it is, how it helps our clients, and how change can happen effortlessly. Click here for the show notes Links mentioned in this episode: The...

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression. Idit & Terry discuss therapy in the aftermath of infidelity and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships.  This is part 2 of 2 parts.  Link to show notes ...

Idit Sharoni interviews Terry Real who is an internationally recognized family therapist, speaker, and author. He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute and wrote THE book on male depression. Idit & Terry discuss relationships, individualism, couples therapy, and his newest book US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship where Terry reveals how individualism and patriarchy poison our most intimate relationships.  This is part 1 of 2 parts.  Link to show...

Are you wondering if you're healing at a normal pace? Well, in this episode I will not be telling you how long you and your spouse "should" be taking to heal. Instead, I’ll provide you with tools to make an educated estimate based on important variables.  Links mentioned in this episode: Infidelity Recovery Program consultation It's Okay To Stay recovery program Program reviews & testimonials

What makes a therapist a relationship expert? How can you make sure that you’re hiring the most qualified relationship expert to help you save your marriage?   We can all agree that not all therapists are relationship experts. Moreover, there are those who call themselves relationship experts who are not therapists.   Listen to relationship expert Idit Sharoni discussing how to be clear about who can offer adequate services to help your marriage.    Links: Schedule an...

Are you hurting badly now and wondering whether infidelity pain will ever go away? Are you concerned about what life will be like after you heal? This is not unusual. This, or some form of this line of thinking, is a concern both hurt and unfaithful partners share. This is particularly true for couples who are trying to heal and go back to normal.  Even that very word, “normal,” can be triggering. So many quest Are you hurting badly now and wondering whether infidelity pain will ever go...

In this episode relationship expert Idit Sharoni discusses the symptoms of infidelity PTSD including intrusive thoughts and how to help your hurt partner get past the triggers. She also shares about whether it is even possible to help a hurt partner with this and the do’s and don’ts around that. 

I recently met with Dr. Marie Murphy on her podcast, Your Secret is Safe With Me to discuss how an affair recovery program can help couples in the aftermath of infidelity. We also shared about how unfaithful partners can get help ending affairs or making decisions on how to proceed with an ongoing affair.  Dr. Marie and myself discuss the most difficult shame ridden topics that most do not even try to understand about infidelity and betrayal. We look at the multidimensionality of...

One of the most common yet difficult issues hurt partners experience in the aftermath of infidelity is post trauma symptoms or PTSD. I interview relationship expert Yael Haklai-Neagu, LMFT who specializes in helping hurt partners handle their intrusive thoughts and Hypervigilance as a result of their partner's affair or betrayal.  As a certified hypnotherapist, Yael shares tips and ideas about how you can utilize hypnotherapy to recover. This Episode is Brought to you by It's Okay To Stay...

In the aftermath of infidelity, what does a hurt partner need most? What comes to mind? Most people, unfaithful partners, or even therapists routinely answer the same way: hurt partners need true remorse from the betrayer, to forgive, and to know why among other things.  Of course, these are all true and important. Yet, the more fundamental and vital concern any betrayed partner needs to be addressed is for their pain to be heard.  Relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares 6 tasks hurt and...

When we think of healing from an affair, we focus on the betrayal of the faithful partner. We rarely think of the unfaithful partner’s wounded mind. In fact, the unfaithful partner’s ability to recover from the affair is quite routinely ignored.  And when it comes to women’s affairs? Well, there’s even less attention paid to healing for unfaithful women. That’s where the expertise of Debbie Rose comes in. Listen to my interview with Debbie to learn the steps to ending an affair.   ...

Tackling a big relationship issue that has the potential to end it? You know you need an expert to help you, but how do you get the best of the best to work with you? This episode is mind shifting because it will change your understanding about how to get help from professionals you normally can't afford or can't reach.  The world of service is totally changing, and with it the world of couples counseling. Gone are the days where experts were out of reach, too expensive, or too far. Tune in...

Are you and your spouse equal partners in your relationship? Or has one of you become more of a parent to the other? When a couple starts to fall into a parent-child dynamic, codependency, rather than a balanced, cooperative relationship starts to emerge. Essentially, this means that the overall patterns of communication and behavior push one partner (either the male or the female) into a parent or a child position within the relationship.  In this episode, I do the following: help you...

Today, I want to talk about who can heal your pain after infidelity. You’ll learn who really can help heal the pain, who doesn’t have the power to help, and what you can do if you’re stuck feeling unable to move past the hurt. I dive into the topic by telling you about a contact that I recently received from a spouse who had been cheated on and wanted to be seen individually. There was nothing alarming about this at first, but the person then shared something troubling: a therapist had told...

Feel like you don't even know what is going to make your relationship work anymore? Let relationship expert Idit Sharoni give you a surprising strategie to help you get insight as to what can save your relationship, when everything seems like chaos.  As promised in the episode, here's what you ask yourself: “Suppose this episode is over, you go about your day, do whatever you planned to do for the rest of it. And then, some time in the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the...

We're deep into creation mode, and a a result my team and myself are taking a short break. We will be back with more great episodes filled with relationship tips and ideas on January 21st, 2019.  Until then, have a happy holiday season and a wonderful New Year! Don't forget to check back in with us Monday, January 21st, 2019.

Have you stopped couples counseling because there was no result? Are you now in the stages of looking for a therapist but aren't sure what to look for? Do you desperately wish you had a tool to measure whether couples therapy is the right fit for you? Couples therapist Idit Sharoni shares from her thousands of hours experience helping couples save their relationships, what are the most important components that make your couples therapy process a success.  Listen and learn what you can do...

If you are human, you probably engaged in escalating a conflict by being defensive. In this episode, relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares what is defensiveness, how it looks inside a conversation, what it does, and how to avoid it. You'll get tools and ideas on what you can do when you feel attacked by your partner. By the end of this episode you'll know to better react and diffuse the conflict.  Links mentioned in this Episode: Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Video - The Gottman...