Most of us still haven't healed from our previous relationships and we're too rushed in being with other people. Please seek therapy because PTRS is real and unless sorted through, you will suffer your next best your past worst... Posttraumatic Relationship Syndrome can be defined as an anxiety disorder that occurs subsequent to the experience of physical, sexual or severe emotional abuse in the context of an emotionally intimate relationship.

In & with love; Know your hand in how things stand and how they turn out. In life, at work, at home and in relationships. You are not the victim you've always assumed yourself to be and you're not as helpless as you'd like those who pity your position to think. Own your hand. Know its ends. Enjoy The Love You Do... ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the...

Episode 020 is my heart to heart to you concerning us and our attitudes towards love, loving and being loved. Yes we've all been hurt and disappointed but damn fam, are we that eager to stay broken that the only thing we feel about love is damage? We all need to do better. Please hear me out? With love. A king. Enjoy The Love You Do... ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode &...

Wishing relationships become healthy, more warm, worth your while, incredible and delicious is going to ruin them if you just stand on the wayside & cringe at the idea of working on them. Love is serious work and it seriously starts serving you when you decide to serve it. In this episode we tackle three key value adds you should work on on a daily in order to improve your loving. This seriously improves your character and person and sets you up for grand reciprocity. There's obviously...

Welcome to the truth you’d hate to hear about the way you love. Challenge this all you want but you know what I’m saying is real and true. If not you, then your girls are creating broken men by being emotional bullies in relationships they’re passing time with. Men feel too but do you care? #DoLoveBetter - Enjoy Love. ••••••••••••••••••••••"If it's love, make it black, make it work"•••••••••••••••••••••••••• Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF:...

We all hit the never late snags and stress piles up on us like a ton of bricks that renders you helpless and communication + the flow of your relationship suffers. We know all too well what toll this can take on your partner and your unionship and that can always ring alarms for us. Since we don't want that anywhere near us, I thought it best to compile a list of tasks & methods one can employ in working against the stress tides and lead you to a more functional way of dealing with the...

In this week's episode, I wanted to delve into what steps one can take to forgive oneself for dropping the ball and hurting themselves and others. We're human and, to be human is to err so, since I love solutions more than fixating on problems, I'd like to focus on what one can do to step back into action more resolute and ready to face life. I also tackle monotasking cause in a time where we need to be more present and seek wholeness in our experiences, having a split focus on the things...

After a month-long hiatus, I return to you refreshed from a self-introspection period where I had to let a lot of things go in order to let God God better for me. I've gained so much perspective on what the goals and plans for the podcast are and I want nothing more but to share this clarity of purpose with you guys. These 12 steps I've adopted have helped me on my journey to self-improvement and episode 015 is where I get to share my thoughts on a human to human level with you as a person...

Red flags are such a constant focus in how we love and how we allow others to love us that we haven't really looked into what the opposite positive of that is. Green flags are what I've been teaching my clients and friends to focus 95% of their energies on and to be proactive in ensuring they use those as fertile ground to grow their relationships from. Learn what you're doing right and how you can improve in this week's episode and when you're done with the listening pleasure, let us...

We mostly know about love languages but what is your specific love style? What love style does your partner use to communicate their love to you. We all obsess too about the honeymoon phase of the relationship and most of us give up and run from relationships that dwindle out of that fiery passion and we are all wrong for doing that. In this week's episode I talk about our different love styles and how you can master them all and saunter into how that mastery can help you build a...

So you're here now huh? Asking whether you're ready for a relationship and not sure what it is you need to be checking for to measure whethere you're good to put yourself out there or nah? Well, fret not. A new list was created by yours truly for you to check yourself before you wreck all the hard work you been putting into building yourself up. I sought to give you relationship hacks before and even after you decide to jump into what looks great and to equip you with what makes...

We've all been with someone who exhibits the symptoms and even are and have been one of them. A narcissist. This episode highlights clinically-proven character traits you might be dealing with or having that classify you or your partner as one and it's important for us to know what we're dealing with and what we've become of ourselves and still allow in order for us to reach that healing we all chase in order to be deserving of black love and what we need in our today and tomorrow love...

We all go through it. The muck and dirt of having to rebuild ourselves from breakups that tear us apart and change us. We go through it and end up on the other side still fixating on how hard-done we were and how badly we were treated with our ex's names foul in our mouths. In this episode, (I made another list) I pour through six things you should implement in Rebuilding + Reclaiming Self-Worth After A Breakup. We must stop being performative in how we heal and actually make it out okay...

Self-Love isn't romantic. It's hard work in overalls and arduous and you should be going through the tasking practice of getting over and going through what's holding back from performing at your 100. Self-Love is necessary but we must, we must rush nothing of it but fall in love with being places of discomfort because that's where we grow the most and where we change and morph and better ourselves. This week we outline how to self-love. Fun part, there's a list....

In our need to be accepted by the people and world around us we need to learn to accept ourselves first and that can only come with the rigorous work of pushing to own our very selves. It's an undertaking and a half understanding, accepting, valuing and loving yourself. It's an arduous journey but I came up with 12 simple day to day pointers for self-improvement that will prove helpful for you to employ and grow beautifully from. You are deserving and because of that, you must be the hero...

You go there. A place where you hate the idea of being known by someone else and having them know you because you're afraid they're just passer by's and you look for the glitch in how they are. We all do. Today's podcast is about how to curb that yet still be careful with giving your heart out. You are worthy of the love you're constantly working on to give to yourself and you are worthy of the goodness you believe love to be and to get there sometimes, you have to get out of your own way...

A lot of us lie to ourselves because it's a pretty position to occupy and point at the world as our oppressor when we are the ones that okay b******t to permeate in our lives. The day I started admitting to myself that I was the one f*****g up by allowing life to happen to me instead of taking charge and handling my responsibilities to myself is the day I set the greatest course of my life. ACTUALISATION. Listen. Subscribe To My Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love....

How many of us go about life living our day to day as a reaction to what happened in our past and using it as an excuse not to show up fully where we are required to, especially black love? How many of us are silently destructive yet pose as though we are the innocents who get violated by the people who catch us out on our harms and hurtful ways. F**k your past if you are fully capable of changing and aren't because you're lazy and prefer being known as a victim so you can't be held...

I learned positive emotion indexing while surviving heartbreak and it's worked wonders for me across the board. I know it's difficult to admit to you own faults but the moment you do, you start noticing that you hold the power to change your circumstances you find yourself in which are the result of your decision making. Healthy love starts where you decide to be the change you require to enjoy it in its fullest and I'm glad you are here to start that change. You are loved here and we are...

Good Morning Black Love. I did an interview on Kaya FM about Hurt People hurting and us repeating the cycle and I didn't get the chance to wrap it up so I decided to give you that here and I hope you internalize what I said. #SincerelyBlackLove #SBL #HakeemAndersonLesolang #BlackLoveYoda

Hey Family. I hope you enjoy my take on cultivating your happiness and working your way through your elationship beautifully. I talk about the work one has to do to get to where they need to get and hopefully this helps you get it right. Please Subscribe To Mu Channel: Care to share The Episode & Spread the love. FF: @HakeemAndrsn (YouTube / Twitter / FaceBook & IG)