The school’s version of sex-ed vs what you’ve been teaching is very different. So, what now? Send him in to learn about sex-ed from this point of view or keep him home so that your point of view remains unchallenged? It can be a tough decision, yet it can also be simple. Are we trying to create clones of ourselves or raise kids that are free to be exactly who they are and can come and talk to us about anything under the sun? The latter, right? So maybe, we can ask him how he feels about...

Our job is to be there for our kids, no matter what. And their job is to ask for help, no matter what. And so if there is something that they need to talk about, they need to know they must ask for help. As many times as possible, until they get it. People being hurt by sex (this can happen for many reasons) is a difficult topic to speak about. But having these kinds of chats with our kids is important. For their growth and awareness. So have a listen to this week’s episode to learn...

Speaking to kids in general about sensitive topics is hard. If you have a kid on the spectrum, you may question if this is still appropriate. And it most definitely is. Saying more as early as you can is how you protect them and support them in their uniqueness. I’m giving 3 recommendations in this episode of how to chat with your kid, who’s on the spectrum. Recommended Books: Things Tom Likes by Kate E Reynolds Things Ellie Likes by Kate E Reynolds What’s happening to Ellie by Kate E...

And is now fixated on the fact that people kiss each other’s private parts if they’re in a relationship. Now this is not only awkward but it’s complex. Where do you start with this? What do you focus on? What do you say? Here’s the thing, it’s likely that you’re both shocked. You: that she knows this information. Her: that anybody would want to put their mouth on another’s private area. So in this episode I'm going to show you how to help your kid who's fixated on the fact that people...

“Family comes first.’ ‘Girls don’t answer back.’ ‘Don’t be awkward.’ How about, “It’s ok not to be hugged or kissed by (insert family member’s name)?” Girls should know that they’ve a right to set boundaries and know what that looks and feels like. That’s what being a courageous parent will help you do. It will help you support your little girl in setting healthy boundaries around her body. Today’s episode highlights that it doesn't matter what age your kid is, you can speak up for...

Kids are constantly learning how to make choices, without hurting others. They’re learning about consent and what that looks like for themselves and others. They’re learning about what is enjoyable for them. They’re discovering what brings them pleasure. And it’s our job as parents to give them lots of chances to discover these things safely and with encouragement and joy. Proteced from the judgment of others, in particular other adults and their secret messages. I understand that this...

Potential responses… Silence, because what do you say? Tell them that’s an inappropriate question and they mustn’t ask again because what if they say something at school? Ask other parent friends for their advice because what do you say?! All these responses make sense. They’re an indication of the tongue-tied parenting effect. And so in this week’s episode I’m giving 3 pointers that will help you answer the question, in an age-appropriate way, whilst offering a way for you to look...

He says he hates g******s. His and everybody else’s. He thinks they're super weird. Did I say too much too soon? What can I do now to help him with these feelings? These might be questions you find yourself asking yourself when your kid tells you they hate something about themselves after giving them much needed info about bodies and life. We need a range of skills to feel like we’re doing a good enough job. So what do you do when you’ve been doing the “right” things and then your kid...

This is a sign your baby is growing up! Her classmates are throwing the term boyfriend/girlfriend around and now she’s asking what that is. This might confuse you as you think about what these terms mean when referring to adults. Which will get you thinking about what is ok for your kid to know. Right? Because clearly, and this is ok, your kid is just catching up with this stage of development. So let me share ways you can explain to your 8-yr-old what boyfriends/girlfriends are in a way...

Would you stick the words pu$$y or c0ck on the fridge as a fun learning technique? Can you imagine your mum or aunt coming over and them seeing that? No? Ok, so this might not be suitable for your family and that’s ok. I’m sharing how this CAN work for some and other ways that it could work for you, if this feels too extreme. So let’s dive into how you can have an open convo with your kids about the slang words used for body parts so they’re informed and feel able to talk to you about...

Do you have the skills and abilities to sit with really complex emotions? Complex emotions like fear, worry, embarrassment, tension, or anger. Whether they show up in you or others? This is what you can learn if you join my community to learn The Evolved Family Method. Your friend, who you love, is constantly making negative and toxic comments about her body and the body of others, around your kids. You want her to stop but need some help in what to say. In today’s episode I’m sharing...

‘If your 8-year-old child is not asking questions, should you initiate the conversation? How do you know what they’re ready to learn?’ This is such a great question, because it gets to the heart of what we think about s=e=x=. And the answer to this question applies to children of every age. In our video and podcast this week, there are loads of great ways to get this convo started, even if you’re both new at it. Ps. This is a gentle reminder of how to support even more...

‘How can I chat with my squeamish 8-year-old about periods? I started a conversation with her once about periods, and she was totally squicked out. I’d love some help.’ What a great question. I’m sure this parent isn’t alone in this. So what do we do when we have info we need to give our kid so that they stay safe and healthy growing up, but which they’re too squicked out to hear? My answer this week comes from the Courage pillar of the Evolved Family method. The Courage pillar helps...

Let’s talk about how to teach your kid about consent – even if you’re not sure they’re old enough. For a lot of us, consent can feel like a super tricky area. ‘Cause consent is about sex, right? So in order to chat with your kid about consent – to help them know their own boundaries and needs, while respecting the boundaries and needs of others – they need to know about sex. Right? Actually, not at all! We can start helping our kids understand about consent from when they’re...

Let’s talk about how to chat with your kid about puberty, in a way that makes them feel supported and able to come to you with any questions or worries they have as they grow up. Here’s what A LOT of courageous but tongue-tied parents do, when it comes to chatting about puberty. They wait to chat with their kids about puberty, until they begin to see the signs that their kid might be starting to go through it. And THEN, they have, or try to have, a conversation with their kid...

“Is it ok to tell a 4-year-old they came out of the vagina?” What an awesome question this week. It’s important for all adults to think about this, even if your kids are older or younger. I think the answer starts with how we can get comfortable doing the parts of parenting that feel extra difficult. (In this weeks episode, I tell a personal story about how my anxiety stopped me being able to show up for  my kids in an everyday situation.) So what can parents and other adults...

‘How can I have conversations about consent with young children?’ I love this question. Because yes, it’s about consent, my favourite subject – but consent isn’t always about sex so that makes it an easy topic to talk about with smaller kids. You see, consent is actually about respecting yourself and others. And we all want to raise kids who respect themselves and the people around them :) So, YES! We certainly can talk about consent with very young kids. And the great thing...

‘How do you teach your kid not to touch their vulva or bum in public without body shaming them?’ What a great question! It’s so useful for all of us who want to raise a child who is not ashamed of their body. Lots of us know from personal experience that when we feel shame about our body, it disempowers us. It makes it harder to speak up for what we need. It makes it harder to ask for help if something doesn't feel right. It even makes it harder to ask for medical attention when...

‘Should you talk to your 6-year-old about pleasure? And if so, how should you do it?’ The parent who wrote in with this question also said, ‘I can talk about procreation, but I can’t jump to pleasure! What do I do now?’ This is such a great conversation to have! Because, if you think about it, we are so careful, and spend so much time, learning how to talk to our kids about sperms and eggs and how we make new humans. But… most sex that humans have, is because sex feels...

‘I’m a trans dad and I want to be able to talk to my girls about sex in all its forms. How can I approach chats about non-traditional relationships?’ There are three things to think about, when you’re having chats like this with your kids. It’s so important to teach our kids that they don’t have to fit into a mould, and be who the world tells them they should be! And that they can just be fully themselves. And indeed, doesn’t the world tell us quite narrow, quite fixed things...

This week, let’s talk about how to avoid passing on shame to our kid(s). And I’m going to show you how the Evolved Family method does exactly that with it’s three pillars, Growth, Courage, and Kindness. Because the whole Evolved Family method is about reducing shame. The best way I know to reduce shame, is by building deeper connections with our kids. And the way we do that, is by having conversations with our kids about sensitive things. Connection is about openness. Connection is...