I wanted to makes this episode due to the holidays and how it may seem challenging to handle, some things to consider and how to handle what may seem like the worst feeling ever. This time of the year can bring out what seems like the best for some, and the worst for others.      Hard look in the mirror. Why it’s hard to find yourself.  So you truly are.  Where do you start?   Start loving yourself again, learn what your interests are, you stopped caring about your own needs because you always put the narcissist first. Quick Points The more you understand narcissism the more you’ll understand that this was not your fault and to stop taking responsibility for the negligence of others. Find your happy place, again this takes time. The narcissist drove your life into a side of a mountain and left you. You’ve felt hopeless, mad, guilty, and wanted to scream you way through this process and that’s okay! It’s okay to feel these emotions, you HAVE to have to accept this as a reality for your own well being and for you to ever begin to take the first step forward. Stop secluding yourself from the world, stop living in a shell and start living your new beginning of the rest of your life. Why the holidays are harder? And how to hand them. Remember, Who were you before you met this person? Have you truly healed and found more self awareness? How long does it take to recover Remember, this didn’t happen overnight so there’s not a short term process to expedite recovery.