We crave love and are usually the ones who are emotionally connected, and they are great at deceiving us in our efforts to naturally want to be loved and cared for as humans.  Narcissist  are broken people who can’t reciprocate those same feelings, they’re a hollow shell -full of nothing, but low self esteem and absolutely have no idea who they are. You on the other hand- full of life, love and affection and carry these positive, healthy traits they they want so bad!! They honestly will ever get to experience life’s fullest potential.  We make excuses of their actions. We always dig for excuses as to why they said what they did, acted the way they did -when all it boils down to is an adult who doesn’t take responsibility for their own actions. We always gravitate toward wanting to help someone work through their struggles, when all the narcissist can do is complain about how their life’s turmoil was caused by someone else’s wrong doings.  They allow us to pity them with their stories of struggle, and pulling the victim card at every stop. Empaths generally want to take the load of someone’s emotional pain and struggle and treat it as their own; even when it’s not.  We want to take the burden of stress, anxiety from those we love and care about.  Remember that someone who feels pity for someone else is automatically going to shift to the offense, and let their defensive guard down. The “Empath” is constantly confirming and setting the bar of expectations so high, by expressing that they, “the empath” , will never do those horrible things that their previous partner did. The narcissist all of a sudden feels relieved that you actually bought their story. The tables eventually shift and we will later find ourselves,seeking validation from the narcissist.    BOTTOM LINE. They want to test you in the beginning to check vulnerabilities, how easy influenced you are and determining if your going to be a good source of supply for them. They need to gauge how much control they will be able to have, and the end goal is try to use every source of supply that tour can provide, once the oil is all pumped and the rig is dry it’s time to move to the next victim